This might be a bit random for the pregnancy topic but wasn't sure where to put it...
I'm 6 weeks pregnant with my first. I have endometrial which I believe makes the chances of miscarriage higher etc. My OH is now supposed to be going on a work trip to Australia in February. It'll mean I'll be roundly 14/15 weeks pregnant I think. I'm really upset about it!
I lost my mum when I was younger and am an only child. My OH will be away while my dad is on holiday and we moved to a new area to be closer to his kids but means I don't really have many friends here. Last time he was away it was horrendous because with work we can hardly speak the whole time and while I know some couples spend lots of time apart due to work, we aren't one of them.
I'm getting really upset that he's choosing to go... What if something happens when he's gone? He'll be on the other side of the world and I don't have anyone. I just get so cripplingly lonely when he goes and really depressed by it. Plus we have a puppy who literally cannot be left AT ALL which'll make logistics of everything really difficult and obviously restricts me more...
Am I crazy to feel like this?
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Lise07 · 12/12/2017 22:17
I mean this in the kindest possible way, but you need to get a grip. You're worrying about something that may never happen. Your DH needs to work, and you need to develop your coping strategies. Whatever happens, you will deal with it.
I miscarried my first pregnancy around 15 years ago. My DH was hundreds of miles away, on another continent, and I was in a strange city where I knew no-one. No family around, and no friends. It was truly horrible, and I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone, but in those dark days, I discovered the kindness of strangers as well as my own inner strength. I got through it because I had to.
Being a parent is full of challenges and curve balls, and there is always something to worry about. But whatever happens, you will cope with it.
Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Sounds like you’re going to find it tough but manageable. Good for you. It does sound really hard and you’re entitled to feel down about it, I’d’ve been miserable in that position!
If appropriate, get your OH to let his boss know he’s leaving a pregnant partner (due to his dedication to the job, etc) - might help avoid messing around with dates and/or when it comes to negotiating paternity leave... 
Practical notes - having a pet sitter lined up might be an idea if you haven’t already (look on local Facebook groups, or there are a couple of organisations they register with, or just search for “dog sitter” and your area then meet a couple & find someone you’re comfortable giving your keys to). Just means if something did go badly wrong (which is really unlikely at that stage as PPs have said) you know you could e.g. go into hospital for a night without worrying about the puppy. And as you have then got cover lined up, might also be worth joining something like a pregnancy yoga group - get out of the house one night a week, talk to other pregnant women etc.
And make sure you’re given a truly epic amount of chocolate from duty free when your OH gets back!
@Lise07 maybe some of these comments did come across as harsh, but I don’t think they were meant to be. Lots of men (and women, but for this conversation just talking about the men) work away, and have to leave expectant mothers, new mothers and other mothers alone. I don’t know if you’re OH regularly works away, I doubt it given what you’ve said, but people just have to deal with these things because it’s a pretty normal part of life for a lot of people. Like I said I see OH 4 days a month and I know it feels so lonely when you’re pregnant and want to share this time with the person who helped create the life - but they’re out working their job making money for the life you created. I’d not put pressure on him to not attend work because he may need to take time off when baby is born meaning work will be a lot more supportive if he isn’t cancelling business trips just to keep you company. You’re pregnant but you’re also an adult.
You’ll honestly be fine, it’s just the hormones making you more emotional which sometimes make us feel very dependant and vulnerable - but you’re stronger than the lies the hormones are telling you! 
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