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22 weeks pregnant & single

(8 Posts)
xTTCTamsterx Sat 02-Dec-17 14:55:09

Anybody else single and pregnant. Ex is a drunk and i couldn't deal with it anymore. Feeling pretty down and alone. How will i cope "labour wise" ect

hoochymama1 Sat 02-Dec-17 16:03:52

flowers Keep going, don't give up! Get yourself a nice brew and somecake and take a breath. Do you have friends and family in RL who could support you? Hope someone more knowledgeble is along in a while to offer sensible advice smile

ClareB83 Sat 02-Dec-17 16:28:19

Well done on getting rid of the drunk. My mum didn't manage it until I was 2. We were so much better off without him.

Would your mum be your birthing partner? My mum would kick my OH out and take his place if I let her!

mustbemad17 Sat 02-Dec-17 16:35:29

13 weeks & single here, been single a week 😬 Also have a 5 year old DD.
My mum is my birthing partner, my dad is going to take care of DD. Otherwise i'd be pretty screwed as i don't have many friends who could be on standby.

Are your family close by? Big hugs, it properly sucks but it sucks even more to have a crappy ex hanging round your neck whilst you're trying to give birth

xTTCTamsterx Sat 02-Dec-17 18:13:07

Hi everyone. I have a 5 year old little girl also, i just feel like an idiot. I really didn't think it would end up like this. He was fine before i got pregnant and since then he's been an absolute arse. It all came to a head last night, was drunk and shouting at me while my daughter was in bed. I can't sleep, or eat or think. This evening he messaged me asking what was happening and if we were sorting things out and i said no and it's like he just doesn't even care.

mustbemad17 Sat 02-Dec-17 18:20:11

OP that's similar to me. My & OH were living together, planned this baby, I thought everything was okay. A week ago today he sent me a Watsapp message telling me he was leaving, didn't want contact. Left me feeling really...confused...and even now I have no idea why.
We have our first scan on Monday & he couldn't care less 😔

Did he always drink? Was bub planned? Mine told me when he left that he would understand if I wanted to get rid now we weren't this baby is something I can dispose of because he can't be fucked.

xTTCTamsterx Sat 02-Dec-17 18:23:33

That's discusting #mustbemad. Its alright for them to detach isn't it? But we're still feeling those kicks everyday, and other things that our bodies are doing. He liked to have a drink, but never did he show a lack of control. Once he's​ out drinking i cant even get hold of him and that's the most frustrating thing.

mustbemad17 Sat 02-Dec-17 18:32:20

Detach & walk away it seems. I'd never forgive myself for terminating this baby, i can't wait for the scan!! Even though being a single mum again terrifies me witless.

Sounds like your ex has a bit of an issue. My DD's dad used to go on benders, he'd go off radar for days then wonder why I would go mad; the idea of me worrying myself stupid over him was conveniently lost on him

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