Hello! My partner and I are having our first baby! We are excited!! ...maybe a bit confused...and definitely overwhelmed by all the options. How do we know what to buy? Where do I go? How do you know if it's good? Are we making the right choices?? None of my friends have children yet, so not sure where to start...it's all just a big change.. I'm relieved I can ask here!
2nd what wowbutter says. You don't want to buy too much crap early on. Clothes can just consist of white baby grows and vests because this is pretty much all you will need to start off....plus you can keep them for baby number 2 and it doesn't matter whether it's a boy or a girl Congratulations and don't feel you have to buy stuff. You'll have plenty of time for online shopping after too! x
I wouldn't go mad on clothes - often people buy you clothes and babies grow so quickly that half the stuff never gets worn. Don't buy only new born size either as if you have a bigger baby, they're out of it almost immediately (DS was 8lbs 10oz and went into 0-3 months almost straight away). As long as you have somewhere for the baby to sleep, bottles etc. if formula feeding and some way of transporting him/her around, I wouldn't worry about getting too much else. Do get Amazon prime though so you can get stuff quickly as and when you decide you need it.
We only have space for a cot so we got one from ikea. Mattress we got from eBay. Didn't bother buying expensive ones but these are just as good. We also got given our ram and car seat so we were lucky. Also got donated a ton of clothes. We also bought a bag to use as a changing bag. £9 in TK Maxx and its not even a 'proper' changing bag because the ones we found were too small and too expensive for our liking. Its totally up to you what you go for.
You’ll be given a lot of stuff. A lot. What we had on hand:
Pram travel system with infant car seat (Isofix is a back saver). Ikea cotbed with Sleepyhead Boba baby carrier Size 2 nappies (loads) Wipes (loads) Sleepers 0-3 months size (7) Vests 0-3 months size (7) Baby socks (useless for a summer baby) Joggers 0-3 months size (2) Bath insert (we didn’t bother with the baby tub) Flannels, cellular blanket, burp clothes (loads!), towels. Change pad Backpack rather than diaper bag
We ended up being given baby play gyms, mats, blankets, stuffed animals, books, diaper genie, clothes, more clothes, shoes.
And if you’re up in Scotland, the baby box contains most of this and more.
Now, what I wish we’d stocked up on was Calpol. Teething is awful and Calpol saved our sanity. Well, what was left of it.
Respectfully disagree, Changer. Sleepyhead was incorrectly caught up in the latest furore over sleep positioners, which are dangerous but Sleepyhead is not positioner. There have been no recorded incidents, as far as I’m aware, of any SIDS related deaths in Sleepyheads or Dockatot (as they are known in the US and Canada). A quick search will reveal much more in depth analysis of this topic, although I understand there are strong feelings on both sides. As I have no wish to derail this thread, I’ll simply say to the OP to go with your gut and what you’re comfortable with. The Sleepyhead worked a treat for us and I have no qualms about using it again in 6 months. Of course, if you plan on using a bedside crib, then you won’t need a SH at all!
I just checked the message board today. I am overwhelmed with surprise and happiness by the response! I am so GRATEFUL to everyone. THANK YOU. I didn't think I would hear back from anyone, so I really appreciate it. Thanks for all the tips. The lists look good, and you are all right. Start minimal, and I can always add, or amazon prime it if I need anything later. I didn't even think of gifts I might get. These messages are so supportive and such a relief. <3