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I miss being pregnant!

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Muse84 Tue 21-Nov-17 18:36:32

This is a bit crazy, but I feel sad thinking about how I'm not pregnant any more. I'm beyond happy and full of thanks to have a beautiful, healthy three week old boy...but I miss everything about pregnancy. The bump, feeling him moving inside, laughing with husband about changing shape and my inability to walk fast without getting breathless, the excitement of what's to come, feeling a bit special. Did I mention the bump? I had just the best pregnancy from day 1, I carried it well and frankly, I want to do it all again. I'm aware of course it could be very different the next time around!

I personally think it's hard because you spend 4-5 months getting acquainted with a bump, but when it goes it does so overnight. So the adjustment is a bit more difficult. But I'm also a very nostalgic person, I miss a lot of things that have been and gone.

Now, I'm just off to cuddle my wonderful boy and live in the present moment.

But ladies, if you're not having a terrible pregnancy.... Enjoy every moment smile

Bella8 Tue 21-Nov-17 22:17:29

Congratulation and on your beautiful baby boy! DS is now 9 months old and it has flown even though certain stages seemed to last for an eternity. I was the opposite of you I hated being pregnant. I felt so uncomfortable and just wanted baby on the outside where I could make sure he was breathing and doing well. I was so overjoyed to get him out I can't tell you! I love my stomach being back to normal and couldn't wait for it to go down and for everything to go back. Now my tummy is flat-ish again I'm dreading another pregnancy if I decide to have a second. Wish I could just skip that part all together shock

Expectingbsbunumber2 Tue 21-Nov-17 22:57:40

I've 5 weeks to go and I know I will miss my bump too when baby Arrives. Like you I will miss feeling him move and so will my partner.

Oysterbabe Tue 21-Nov-17 23:07:51

I felt a bit like that the first time. I do not feel like that this time. Get this sprog out of me and bring on the gin.

DeadDoorpost Tue 21-Nov-17 23:19:42

I don't like being pregnant and I cannot wait for it to end 😂😂 (40+2) but my MiL loved being pregnant like you! I personally don't understand it at all but there we go. And it's not that I'm looking forward to having him out either to make sure he's Ok, it's just that I don't feel like myself and hate it.

Congratulations on your boy though!

Thecaravan Wed 22-Nov-17 04:18:44

I am exactly the same! Besotted with my 6 week old baby girl but miss my bump so much. Was so fortunate to have a healthy pregnancy and am thinking I'll probably quit while am ahead and not have any more kids in case the next time is not so easy!

millsbynight Wed 22-Nov-17 04:31:55

Bloody hell I hate being pregnant. Forget my bump - can’t wait to be skinny again! My thighs and arse are huge and I miss my tiny waist and flat tummy. I miss being able to wear bodycon dresses and drinking cocktails and eating salami.

I also suffered from absolutely horrendous morning sickness, had to take time off work etc.

I know our bodies are creating miracles and I’m ever so grateful I can have children as I know there are women who can’t... but 6 weeks to go and I can’t wait! I have a DS and now I’ll have a DD. I’m done! Don’t ever want to be pregnant ever again.

ethelfleda Wed 22-Nov-17 04:42:29

I miss being pregnant. I used to sleep at night. Now I have a three week old - not so much!!

mehhh Wed 22-Nov-17 04:49:35

Me too!! Exactly this!! I'm 4 months in now and I still feel the same sad if I could be 24/7 pregnant without the labour and baby bit I would! (But my pregnancy was fabulous, my dd is and has always been amazing - sleeping & not at all needy -- I have been very lucky) - id have another her but I would put money on it I wouldn't be lucky next time around so I'm holding out on the pregnancy love for as long as possible grin

AutumnLeavesandCandleLights Wed 22-Nov-17 07:22:49

Awww congratulations!

I was much like you after the birth of my first baby. I'd had the easiest pregnancy ever - no sickness whatsoever, no pains, no aches, I absolutely glided through it all (went tits up during labour and resulted in emergency c section but considering the 9 months I'd had prior to that, I still considered myself lucky) - I missed pregnancy, so much! Given how easy I found it I was sure any subsequent pregnancy would also be a dream!

Lo and behold, I fell pregnant again when first DS was only around 13 weeks old and let me just say, my body is sooo not dealing with it well this time. Still escaped the sickness, but my god, the pelvic girdle pain, round ligament pains and general growing pains have been torture and borderline debilitating this time around.

Due again in 6 weeks and although I'm in pain from sunrise to sunset and getting basically no sleep, I know that once again, I'll still miss being pregnant!!

Us women are crazy haha!

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 07:48:57

millsbynight I'm so jealous I have DS but have to go through it all again before I'm done, you're almost there. Like you I felt massive and hated it and wanted my tiny waist back and like another user I wanted a stiff drink!!

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 07:52:39

AutumnLeavesandCandleLights You're a stronger woman than I!! Your body won't have healed and that's what will be causing all the pains etc. Not long to go then you'll have your second beautiful baby and they'll grow up so close and it's be so cute to watch flowers

ladybug92 Wed 22-Nov-17 07:53:23

I miss my bump too, I loved it. I had a very smooth pregnancy and loved knowing my baby was right there. the whole time. When I see someone pregnant I get very excited and yearn for a new bump, hopefully sometime soon!!
Do you want to have more kids OP?

HazyDays81 Wed 22-Nov-17 08:51:06

I felt exactly like this after having my first 2 babies. I was over the moon to hold my baby but I really missed feeling the movements & having a bump! I’m now pregnant with my third & feel sad this will probably be the last (unless I can convince DH to have no. 4 grin) x

FGSholdthedoor Wed 22-Nov-17 09:04:52

I kind of felt like that a while after DC1 (rose tinted specs and all) I'm now a week away from having DC2 and its dragging like crazy!
I was up for hours last night with heartburn and not being able to get comfy as baby was in every position under the sun but not one I could lie down in. I pee when I cough and I cough a lot because of the heartburn angry
I can't take a proper breath at times and 23hours a day I have a foot/heel/knee in my rib, it's ALWAYS on the same side and it's starting to feel bruised now.
Don't forget the leaky boobs.
Oh and I thought the stretch marks were bad the first time round <laughs hysterically to cover up the tears> - I look like I've been through a shredder.

Of course I'm sure once the little one is here I will be wishing for the heartburn and rib kicks back to get a bit more time before the hard work really starts grin

Girlwiththearabstrap Wed 22-Nov-17 10:17:04

No not at all! I was just too excited to meet my baby and get my body and back to the gym properly instead of just maintaining. I had a smooth pregnancy but I'm definitely not one of those bump stroking glowing pregnant ladies! Almost 17 weeks into my second now.

turquoise88 Wed 22-Nov-17 10:24:14

Congratulations OP.

I had horrendous nausea for the first 18 weeks of this pregnancy and it was awful.

It look until about 28 weeks to feel properly well again but I’ll be honest, I’ve felt bloody amazing and I love this part of pregnancy. I carry well also, still am at 39+1 with no swelling and not a stretch mark in sight. I also keep getting bursts of energy.

I think it’s important to raise awareness of the fact that pregnancy can make you feel like shit, but I also don’t think those of us that enjoy it should feel guilty about admitting it at the risk of annoying others.

Will you have any more children? You hopefully get to enjoy it all over again then!

Bellamuerte Wed 22-Nov-17 12:02:02

I'm looking forward to not being pregnant any more! I want to be slim and wear nice clothes, and drink wine and eat all of the forbidden foods! Won't miss feeling slow and out of breath either - really looking forward to being able to exercise properly again. I'm not worried at all about being kept awake by a baby, I actually think I'll get more sleep than I have done while being an achy, itchy pregnant lady!

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 12:15:16

Bellamuerte Believe me I thought the exact the same things as you then I breastfed for 6 months so still could eat or drink what I wanted. And I realised just how rested I was when I was pregnant because how ever tired you think you feel now it literally is ten times worse after the baby is born. I was up all night with screaming for months on end and it gets worse and worse the longer it goes on. DS is now 9 months and I'm just starting to get a little bit sleep and still some night wakings. Believe me enjoy sleep now because it gets worse. It's worth it though to hold your beautiful baby and it does get easier as time goes on!

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 12:15:59

couldn't *

HaHaHmm Wed 22-Nov-17 12:32:44

You can eat and drink pretty much anything when breastfeeding with the exception of getting absolutely paralytically drunk - unless of course your baby has allergies.

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 13:40:06

HaHaHmm I couldn't because my baby had silent reflux...

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 13:40:35

I also could drink because I fully breast fed and he wouldn't take a bottle...

Bella8 Wed 22-Nov-17 13:40:42

couldn't *

HaHaHmm Wed 22-Nov-17 13:42:06

I also had an ebf bottle-refuser. Moderate drinking isn't a problem.

I appreciate that silent reflux needs specific management, of course.

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