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Really wanted to have another baby, now not so sure.

(7 Posts)
BergamotMouse Tue 14-Nov-17 10:00:14

I wanted a 2 year age gap between my children. Decided to start trying for number 2 this month but freaked out mid cycle and stopped trying. Anyway, turns out I'm pregnant and I'm really not sure how I feel about it.

I can't get over feeling immensely guilty about how my daughter will ultimately lose out, not so much due to a sibling but due to the fact I got hyperemesis during my first pregnancy and think I'll get it again.

I'm still breastfeeding her at 15 months and also feel ridiculously guilty that my milk will dry up and that huge source of comfort will be gone.

Also feel bad for not feeling immediately excited about another baby (so much guilt circulating my body!)

Any advice or lovely stories about how it all works out in the end would be very gratefully received.

Justbookedasummmerholiday Tue 14-Nov-17 10:04:37

Why will your milk dry up?? Lots of women tandem feed both!! There is 15months between my girls and they have a lovely relationship. Never any jealousy as dd 1 was too young for that!! Now at 11+12 it's a bit hormonal around here but they are still close!!

BigBaboonBum Tue 14-Nov-17 10:09:05

I had hyperemisis with my first but never had it in my pregnancy with my youngest or this one. Barely even sickness at all really just a sensitive nose and tummy one I hit 11 weeks.
I have no advice but I’ve heard a two year gap can be a blessing, almost always results in close siblings

lovelyjubilly Tue 14-Nov-17 10:11:42

Your milk will not dry up.

The benefits of having a sibling will far outweigh the sacrifices that you/her have to make in the short-term.

I have two dd with a 2year age gap. They are now 7 and 5.

Hope that helps!

LetsSplashMummy Tue 14-Nov-17 10:17:31

She will not ultimately lose out, she will have a sibling, friend and confidante for her whole life. I have less than two years between mine (now 4 and 6) and they are each other's favourite person. Leaving it longer doesn't really change much does it - you might still get sick and the older she is the more she'll notice and worry about you. The guilt is probably hormonal, in a day or two you will be used to the idea a bit more and it will feel less scary. Congratulations.

BergamotMouse Tue 14-Nov-17 10:21:40

Thanks all, I think that's what I needed. Ultimately I know that it's what I planned and wanted and it is probably shock and hormones. It'll try get my head around the idea and cross my fingers that the sickness won't strike - you've given me hope baboon!!

thingymaboob Tue 14-Nov-17 10:46:37

If you do get hyperemesis again you'll be better prepared. I would advise getting an appointment with GP and getting the medications you took last time to take as early as possible as evidence shows that if you take medication early, it'll be better controlled.

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