Could you request a c section if you are scared if VB or talk to your midwife about different pain refief or even a home birth if being in a hospital scares you. Don't be forced into a type of birth you dont want. This is the 21st century and women should not have to put up with pain anymore. You have choices and you have rights xxx
I was scared too, but found it much easier than I ever imagined. It hurt, but I kept waiting for it to be hell and it wasn’t. You’ll have midwives to help, pain killers and your own hormones to get through it. Most of the stories you read on site like this are the horror stories, as those of us who had it ‘easy’ don’t tend to comment.
I was the first time was hard, but I told my midwife and she stayed with me throughout. Didn't get a change over, be honest with your midwife, get her to talk through what there doing/what is happening it helped me.
Remember, women have been birthing babies for thousands of years, you got this.
Would highly recommend hypnobirthing. I had a rough first birth and it got me through my second with no pain relief, it was amazing. I sometimes look back and I can't believe I did it! I did Maggie Howell's online course, it cost £90 but was worth every penny as I was petrified.