Well I'm 34 weeks I'm just over a week away from maternity leave... I drive full time for a living and my work have been awful. That's a different story that I am currently sorting with my union as they haven't been paying me for appointments and stuff.
I've had alot.of stress. Got another scan in a week as they think baby might not be growing as she should and is measuring small. I have alot of stress at home, financial issues and just everything seems to be going wrong.
I'm exhausted, not sleeping properly, getting councelling and in pain all the time. My hips, legs, kneecap, swollen ankles, fanny aches. I drive up to 3 hours at a time and it's just even more painful. Can't even walk that far anymore.
Totally fed up and had it.
Sick pay is shite but im considering sacking off work. Do you guys think I should hang in there for another week or leave. Has anyone left early because they just aren't coping?
Only cons are i'l feel guilty and the money isn't good but it would be a weeks crap pay I guess
I left at the earliest point - 29 weeks. Full time work and a 2 year was exhausting me. We moved around a 30 minute drive - double that for ruah hour - and I just couldn't be bothered with it. I decided to use to spend some time with my son who will be starting pre-school pretty much as soon as baby comes. I'm 32+3. It's a difficult one. I'm in a fortunate enough position where my maternity pay is fairly good - full pay for just short of 5 months and the SMP kicks in. I'm also not going back, so it didn't really matter how early I went. I guess only you know how you're feeling but if you really can't cope, there is no shame in leaving early. It's bloody hard work.
I went off at 35 weeks which was really early as I've a desk job and not much of a commute. But I had to accept my body wasn't coping anymore and my bump was measuring small too which doctor thought was due to stress. I will lose out on money but our health had to take priority at last
I would for a week. They only start your mat leave if it's from 36 weeks when you are off sick with a pregnancy related illness. I have had to take time off since 30 weeks but less pressure as I do get full sick pay.
TheEdgeofGlory I'm sure you've worked out the best solution for your family- just checking you've accounted for having to pay back any maternity pay above SMP if you don't go back? Contracts almost invariably require the paying back of any top-up mat pay unless you return for several months.
No advice OP, but a lot of sympathy. Only 26 weeks, and my work are being appalling, cutting my hours, not giving me any new projects, and resisting any attempt to discuss my maternity leave/ return to work. Have come home and cried so many times in the last couple of weeks. I can foresee that they are going to make my life difficult for the next 14 weeks. Money wise I had hoped to work as late as possible, but currently considering telling them to shove it leaving at Christmas; I feel so guilty about the possibility that stress might effect the baby.
They have done a risk assessment because I threatened to go to my union and cut some of my hours but they've done alot wrong so I am seeking action against them but I just feel completely and utterly done with work, people, driving, stress and pain. I know I can't eliminate all of those but I think I might wait a few days and leave I might try the doctors to see if I can get an appointment.
Just lost the will to live in all honesty so the week and a bit I have left just seem like a massive task
@TerrifyingFeistyCupcake I don't have to pay it back. I've been there such a long time, I have triple checked and known a lot of people who have left. It's the main reasons I didn't find a new job after having my son as I knew we would eventually have another.
I am so so done with works. They've been total arseholes to me ever since I announced my pregnancy (they even forced that out of me before I was ready to tell them) I've got 3 weeks left and literally counting the hours. I'd go off sick/ leave early if I could afford it.