Currently 5 weeks with DC2. I'm so nauseous all the time and I think it's only a matter of time before I'm really, really sick. Colleagues are already commenting that I look unwell. There's talk of redundancies at the moment and "getting rid of the weakest links". My record so far is spotless, but I think if it comes out that I'm pregnant, they'll look for excuses to get rid of me. Any tips on how to hide this as long as possible? I'm getting really stressed about it!
I agree with the other posters, tell them straight away. Your pregnancy will provide a degree of protection that you won’t have if you’re suddenly just off sick or coming in late due to sickness. Someone with a dodgy sickness record might be first in line for redundancy, (even though that isn’t necessarily right either) but with pregnancy there are more hoops for your employer to jump through in proving they need to make you redundant over someone else.
Rights of pregnant employees in redundancy situations are far higher than for other employees. Doesn’t mean they can’t dismiss for other reasons, but if it’s a true redundancy situation you’re better off declaring it. You may be asked for proof though.
Aside from the legal side of it (i.e. your employer can't make you redundant for being a "weak link" because you are pregnant), I'd tell them just to help yourself. I am 7 weeks now and I told my manager right away, and I've also chosen to tell my office team. There's 5 of us in an office and I didn't want to bother pretending to them that I feel okay! In my first pregnancy I hid it for weeks and it was the most draining thing in the world pretending to feel fine all day. I used to get to my car at the end of the day and cry! I didn't want to do that this time around, I'd rather people know I feel like a bag of crap...
It is only them that know, we're a small team but I'm glad I don't have to pretend I'm fine!
You should tell them - not only because of the morning sickness, but also because you are entitled to time off for antenatal appointments - such as your booking-in appointment with the midwife if you haven't already had it, and time off for scans.
I can understand why you're worried. I hid my pregnancy until 32 weeks as I was temping and knew I'd be vulnerable. I have friends who have been made redundant on mat leave and others who reckon they were saved by their bump so it can go either way. You need to do what's best for you. I'd contact maternity action or the cab or similar - here are some contact numbers www.maternityaction.org.uk/advice-2/mums-dads-scenarios/pregnant/pregnant-at-work/