A 'natural' childbirth is feted as a way to keep women in their place. Our suffering is our due as the inferior sex and descendants of Eve who sinned and had humans tossed out of Eden. Pain is good because we deserve it, the patriarchy says so to keep us in our place and bickering amongst one another. More articulate than me.
Anyway I had a VB and an ELCS, one was sore during and after, once was sore after. Neither was a magical life affirming thing for me. Good luck with your birth and new baby, and ignore the judgy head tilters. They keep judging and head tilting unfortunately.
I think some people feel disappointed if they don't get the birth they hoped for. My second was a planned home, water birth. That was until I started bleeding. She was born in a big hospital. The community MW seemed to think I would feel somehow cheated or otherwise upset. I was just glad she and I were safe!
I felt she was really concerned about me! Maybe worried that the disappointment would trigger PND. I was actually relieved to be in hospital. No it wasn't what I wanted or planned. But I was bleeding and suddenly went into full blown (took my breath away and couldn't call for help) labour. She was born in under an hour. Glad that I wasn't at home. Maybe with my eldest seeing and hearing it all! Safe and with a healthy baby at the end. That's the very best birth there is.
I had an EMCS, OP, and was initially a bit disappointed but then I read some gruesome stories about just what childbirth can do to your lady parts as well as other bits down there and related bodily functions. DD is now 5 months old, I’m completely healed and my bits are as intact as they were before I had her. I thank my lucky stars for this regularly! 😂
I was going to have an ELCS then baby decided to come the day before and ended up with another EMCS. All my family had had 'natural births' so was ready for some comments. I don't know why people think it is any of their business!!
That's weird! I'm having an ELCS on the 6th and haven't had anyone say this kind of thing. Although I did want a c section pre-TTC so come to think of it maybe it's because I never expressed a desire for another vaginal birth.