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Morning sickness making me depressed

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elle1994 Thu 19-Oct-17 09:36:31

I'm 9 weeks pregnant and been suffering from morning sickness from week 6, although for the first couple of weeks it could be tamed with food/ginger/ sea bands and didn't really stop me doing anything, the last 2 weeks have been a nightmare and I can't even stand up without retching. I haven't left the house in days and I'm even dreading a retching fit starting when I'm with my midwife tomorrow.

I used to suffer from an extreme phobia of vomiting and the whole thing has caused me to have severe anxiety and depression to the point I feel completely isolated and trapped. I'm so happy to be pregnant and it's making me feel ungrateful to all those currently struggling with infertility. I feel like women have been doing this for millions of years and they've coped - so why can't I. I've been signed off this week and I have no idea how I'll physically return (I work night shifts in critical care).

I've started taking vitamin B6 but although it's stopped my retching - I still have the intense nausea where I feel like I'm about to vomit.

Did anyone else feel that morning sickness left them bed ridden, depressed and desperately isolated - and guilty for not being able to suck it up and carry on?

reallifegetsintheway Thu 19-Oct-17 09:43:06

Feel for you. My DD is nearly 12 and I can still remember how it made me feel. TBH - 9 weeks was probably the peak - I remember being so exhausted and crying my eyes out. I had to have a day off work because I was so sick and tired of being sick and tired! Easy to say now - but it will start to ease. Get a bit of fresh air - even stale air made me retch. the thought of food shopping had me retching in the car park - get food you can stomach be delivered. Good luck - hope you feel better soon x

upthewolves Thu 19-Oct-17 09:54:15

So much sympathy. I had it in both pregnancies and week 9 was worst week both times. For me it lasted til about week 15 but was manageable from about 12. In my second pregnancy I went to the gp and was prescribed anti emetics. I strongly recommend speaking to your GP if you can't cope. Mine was really understanding and the medication helped a lot.

SundayLunchHappy Thu 19-Oct-17 10:54:52

Hopefully you're going through the worst of it right now and it will ease. I know that's not true for everyone. I still have intense bouts of nausea at 18 weeks, but nothing like I did in the first trimester. I recall days spent lying in bed feeling utterly desperate and terribly guilty as I was resenting a pregnancy I'd longed for. My only advice is to eat and drink exactly what you feel you fancy/ can cope with. I pretty much survived a month on bits of bread and watermelon with a huge amount of biscuits.
Be as self indulgent as you can be and try not to despair, it's absolutely horrid and many people on here myself included sympathise. flowers

SomehowSomewhere1 Thu 19-Oct-17 14:55:51

Worth a visit to your GP, they now have several meds they can prescribe for morning sickness. Also eat little and often if you can.

Fefifoefum Thu 19-Oct-17 15:10:22

Oh lovely! I totally feel you, I’m 20 week now and feeling loads better!! It does get there!
I waited until 16 weeks to go the GP and wish I’d of gone sooner! Just go, they should be able to give you something to make you feel better. I was vomming 5-6 times a day, at work I felt useless but nobody seemed to notice! I’m vomming max once a day now.
You will feel better I’m sure, I’m just about to start nights in A&E, totally doable now, felt like my Everest at 9 weeks, you’ll get there!

LadyPug Thu 19-Oct-17 16:14:52

Hi Elle I’m not much help I’m afraid, just here to say I’m also 9 weeks and suffering from the dreaded sickness. Last time week 9 was my worst week and gradually every week after that got slightly better and by week 14 I felt human again! Hang on in there, we’ve got this!

KimmySchmidt1 Thu 19-Oct-17 16:25:30

I had morning sickness where i was sick between 2 and 4 times a day for a good three months - I'm now 25 weeks and still vomit most mornings but its better than it was.

It is hard and it coincides with a big rush of hormones which messed about with my mood too - so i felt quite down and also was pissed off and tired about the sickness.

so your mood might also be being affected by your hormones.
Just take it easy, get through it, and it does get better after 12 weeks!

FlooOOOooomplet Thu 19-Oct-17 18:19:38

I can completely empathise as I’m in the same boat right now. I’m 11 weeks and have been hospitalised 4 times with HG and really struggling to bond with my baby. I have hardly left the house for over a month and when I do it exhausts me. I think it’s natural to have some level of resentment for something that is making you feel so crappy - but try to remember it’s the hormones and not the baby’s fault. When I had an early scan and saw the baby’s little arms and legs waving about it helped me feel a bit better, but still struggling. I would advise to speak to either GP or midwife for professional advice and join the Hyperemesis support group on MN for peer support.

L0ngg0ne Thu 19-Oct-17 18:44:40

I have literally JUST written a post about battling with emetophobia (fear of vomiting) and nausea whilst 8 weeks pregnant! I feel exactly as you do - depressed! I’m also bed-ridden as

L0ngg0ne Thu 19-Oct-17 18:51:09

(Sorry, finger slipped on the ‘post’ button before I’d finished writing my reply)

... as activity tends to aggravate the nausea, making it worse. My days are spent avoiding throwing up at all costs! Other pregnant women seem to be throwing up with ease during their ‘morning sickness’, which makes me feel like less of a woman - “why can’t I handle this, if THEY can?”

I don’t quite know what else to say other than I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!

It’s nice to know that there are other pregnant women with the same phobia, though - it’s easy to feel like you’re the only one (I certainly did until I stumbled upon this very post).

Hopefully, it gets better. Nausea is said to usually fizzle out around week 13, so not long now (finger’s crossed).

Bubblegum81 Mon 11-Dec-17 01:01:19

Just wondering how you are feeling now? I’m 9 weeks pregnant and in the same boat, can’t get out of bed because of the nausea and I’m also weak and dizzy. I am so depressed and feel so alone. My OH is amazing but I feel so guilty as he has to do everything. I am really not sure how much I can take. I’ve had Ciclizine which I only take when it’s really bad and I’m taking liquid iron but I’m even struggling to go to the bathroom.

Sorry that was a rant and a half I just wanted to say I know how you feel and wondered if there was any improvement! Hope you feel better x flowers

elle1994 Mon 11-Dec-17 08:58:48

Hi! I started to feel completely normal at 12 weeks and started to really look forward to the rest of my pregnancy, but I tried to go back to work and it knocked me back and made my aversions 10x worse! I’ve been signed off work since 7 weeks with Hyperemesis and I’m 16 weeks now and can’t see myself going back!

It does get more bearable and you never think at that stage you’ll make it to your second trimester but you do and it starts to go a lot quicker then! I’m not bed bound anymore but I am living at my parents because of the smell of my house/ husband make me sick haha! I understand how completely isolating and trapped you feel but don’t let yourself feel guilty, do what is best for you and baby - if you are ever going to be selfish now is the time to do it! Hope you feel better soon. Xx

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