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Oh shit I'm pregnant......please come answer my dumb questions!

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Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 14:54:12

So two positive pregnancy tests today, not planned but it will be ok....not told dp yet as he's at work....please help with my dumb questions as I've never been pregnant before

- I drank this weekend.... too late now I know but chance of this causing issues?

- pregnancy tests said 3 weeks + which apparently means 5 weeks?????

- what do i need to do about going to a Dr?

- would a surfing trip in 3 weeks be a bad idea

- oh and how the hell do I tell do...im on the pill but had a dodgy tummy a few times

Eeeek I float between excitement and terror. It's not ideal timing to say the least but oooh I can't help but not care really

TiesThatBindMe Mon 16-Oct-17 14:58:47

Don't worry about having drank. It will not have done any harm.

Don't know about weeks.

Don't know about doctor. Think you book with a midwife. Don't know how you go about that though as I've never been pregnant in the UK

Surfing trip should be fine.

Good luck telling DP. He might be a bit shocked, but will come round.

Only piece of advice I have is to go to a pharmacy and get folic acid.

Congratulations. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

WinteryWalk Mon 16-Oct-17 15:00:10

Congratulations!! See below!

drank this weekend.... too late now I know but chance of this causing issues? It’ll be fine, just don’t drink anymore!

- pregnancy tests said 3 weeks + which apparently means 5 weeks????? You could be a bit further along than you think then, 3 weeks pregnant, 5 weeks since you conceived (I think)

- what do i need to do about going to a Dr? You can self refer to the midwife, just call your surgery, tell them you’re pregnant and approx how far and they’ll tell you what to do

- would a surfing trip in 3 weeks be a bad idea You could do it, but I wouldn’t, of course you can still go but maybe not surf, up to you

- oh and how the hell do I tell do...im on the pill but had a dodgy tummy a few times Will he be pleased?? I’d just tell him ASAP, tonight maybe??

Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 15:00:25

Thanks! I'm still in shock......considering a third test just to make sure

Misstomrs Mon 16-Oct-17 15:01:11

Ok, firstly, don't panic.
No, a few drinks won't have done any harm.
Your pregnancy is dated from your last period. That's how many weeks you are.
There's not a lot of point in going to the Dr to confirm it if you used a clear blue test. Mine didn't bother as she said they're better than the ones they have! But they can give you the midwife phone number. A call to the surgery would probably do.
No, I don't think surfing would be a good idea, just in case you got ht with the board, but others may disagree.
I just left my pregnancy test in my handbag and asked my DH to pass me my phone...but everyone is different.
Good luck!

WinteryWalk Mon 16-Oct-17 15:01:36

You could be further than 5 weeks. I think it’s pretty approximate! And get some folic acid/pregnancare tablets or similar from the supermarket/pharmacy

Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 15:03:40

Thanks all, you'd think at 31 I'd be aware of all this but I only got an inkling to do a test as my boobs won't stop aching

Foggymist Mon 16-Oct-17 15:04:16

Drinking was fine, don't worry about it.

Yep you're about 5 weeks pregnant, what was the first day of your last period? That'll give rough due date.

I'm not in UK but you either go to gp first or self refer to hospital depending on how they do it locally.

Surfing will be fine, you might not feel up to it if nauseous etc but the activity itself is fine.

Just tell him! Shove the test at him smile

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered Mon 16-Oct-17 15:04:26

Baby would be so low in pelvis I'm sure surfing would be fine if you are usually a surfer.

Every GP practice does booking in with midwife differently. Look on their website. Give them a call.

Congratulations!

Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 15:06:10

I don't ever pay attention to my periods, I've been on the pill and just had a period when it fits in with what we are up to to be honest

Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 15:09:24

Also is there anything else i should kno that I've not asked about??

eeyoredebbie Mon 16-Oct-17 15:13:00

There are certain food guidelines maybe check the NHS website for up to date info

AppleKatie Mon 16-Oct-17 15:14:29

Take folic acid.

I wouldn't surf because I imagine you will be cold? You have to be a bit more careful with regulating your body temp when pregnant <not a doctor> but I would avoid falling into the cold sea in the same way as I would also stay out of a hot tub when pregnant.

Ring your GP reception and ask what the system is some ask you to go into see the dr some let you self refer to midwifery. I think I'd try and see the doc if you might be (a lot) more than 5weeks.

Talk to your DP honestly and openly.

Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 15:22:26

I have a very good wetsuit so the sea won't be cold to me but I'll talk to DP see what he thinks

He needs to come home now before I text him and tell him as this is news I need to share!!!!

Mustang27 Mon 16-Oct-17 15:38:15

Aww this is lovely, congrats.

I had to prove to drs I was preggers as in pee sample to them hmm then they refer you to midwife.

There is some food guidelines, I’d say don’t drink anymore although my dr friend drinks through out her pregnancies. Read the info make your own decision is my advice.

Check any regular meds you are on and whether you can/should continue, gp will be your best bet.

Take a good pregnancy vitamin asap and daily it will help you feel better as baby will take everything they need from you and leave you a bit depleted.

Do some pregnancy yoga, read up about birthing techniques and labour. Make your mind up how you want to do it and go from there. Consider a doula.

Good luck with your partner don’t text him though you want to see his face. I’d just hand him the tests.

BertieBotts Mon 16-Oct-17 15:44:49

Actually I think as you've been on the pill and don't know when your period was, it would be a good idea to call GP and see if they'd do a scan to date the pregnancy, and check for ectopic as there's a higher risk of ectopic pregnancy when on the pill.

Don't worry about drinking, nothing you can do about it now plus unlikely to have done any harm.

Ask GP about surfing. I should think so early it would be no issue at all. Just check the list of allowed foods especially if planing to eat seafood.

Congratulations!

Foggymist Mon 16-Oct-17 15:48:33

Why especially if planning to eat seafood? Seafood is fine?

skankingpiglet Mon 16-Oct-17 15:48:48

DD1 was a happy accident: as above you definitely need to tell him in person! My DH's face was something like shockshockgrinshockgrinshockgrin All in the space of 30 secs. It was brilliant and it makes me grin every time I think about it.

If your test says 3+ weeks then you could be a lot more than 5wk pg. 5wks would be the least you are. I was 10 when I took the test for DD1.

See how you feel about the surfing. I wouldn't worry from the perspective of hurting the baby as it will still be protected deep in your pelvis. I wouldn't have done it as I found my first trimesters exhausting and was constantly nauseous.

BertieBotts Mon 16-Oct-17 15:48:56

Vitamin wise, you can take a pregnancy multivitamin if you want to but the only one officially advised is folic acid. You can get it in any chemist, 400 micrograms or higher. Normal multivitamins can contain too much vitamin A.

BertieBotts Mon 16-Oct-17 15:50:16

Honestly my memory of food guidelines is foggy but I'm sure I remembered something about shellfish? And swordfish although who really eats swordfish.

TheCatsMother99 Mon 16-Oct-17 15:51:08

Hiya.

Firstly, congratulations. Secondly:

- I drank this weekend.... too late now I know but chance of this causing issues?

Slim chances as you're very early on still and from what I gather the baby won't have been 'feeding' off you yet.

- pregnancy tests said 3 weeks + which apparently means 5 weeks?????

Yep, that's correct. You add on approx 2 weeks as pregnancy is dated back to the beginning of your cycle, not the day you conceive.

- what do i need to do about going to a Dr?

Different areas have different policies. Mine lets you self refer at 6 weeks, in which case it is just a form to fill in and email back. Google it and see what comes up for where you live. Otherwise, call your GP and they'll tell you the process which may involve being referred by your GP after an appointment.

- would a surfing trip in 3 weeks be a bad idea

Personally, I wouldn't as you can't guarantee that you won't fall in the water and smack your stomach on the water or surfboard itself.... but I'm not a surfer so I'm not exactly sure of what goes on!

- oh and how the hell do I tell do...im on the pill but had a dodgy tummy a few times

Might be an idea to run this by your GP or the midwife when you get your booking in appointment (if it's not in the too distant future).

Eeeek I float between excitement and terror. It's not ideal timing to say the least but oooh I can't help but not care really

I always think there is no such thing as perfect timing. My baby was/is planned but it's still to some extent not perfect timing, we just got on with ttc though as we realised there will always be something that makes it not perfect timing.

Foggymist Mon 16-Oct-17 15:51:55

Shellfish is fine once cooked thoroughly, sushi fine was it has been frozen. Can eat as much white fish as you want, need to limit some fishes due to mercury but that's it.

Northernbeachbum Mon 16-Oct-17 15:52:51

Didn't know about the ectopic but I did think the fact I've been on the pill would make it less likely to be succesful.

OK, so tomorrow a trip to get folic acid and then trying to get a GP appointment (not an easy task locally) to get a dating scan sorted. I only took a test due to the achey boobs.

I won't text DP to tell him as I do want to see his reaction. But this waiting is tough

I also have a major GP fear I now have to overcome

EEandEmakes3 Mon 16-Oct-17 15:58:08

Congratulations! I had to see my GP in order to be referred to the midwife, in the meantime get some pregnancy vitamins.

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/foods-to-avoid-pregnant.aspx

littlemissalwaystired Mon 16-Oct-17 16:03:51

Take vitamin D too!smile call up the GP and ask to make a midwife booking appointment; I've never known a GP want to see the woman first. With regards to food, make sure any meat is really thoroughly cooked - steak etc should be well done. Fruit and veg should be washed thoroughly. Eggs are okay if they have the lion stamp on and pasteurised dairy is okay but avoid things like soft cheeses. Oily fish is good but limit to approximately 2 portions a week and avoid shellfish. Switch to decaf drinks as well. Lots to remember but your midwife will go through it with you again! One of the most important things to remember is sadly, you're not eating for two. In the first two trimesters you don't actually need any extra calories and in the third trimester it's only an extra 200. Also, if you happen to have a cat then don't be the one to change a litter tray due to the risk of toxoplasmosis. What an essay! Congratssmile

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