I’m dreading it. Third baby but first baby with this company. Been here almost three years. Boss has no children and has over the years steadily decreased benefits to pregnant women so if you started before 2012 you get enhanced maternity pay and nursery vouchers but after 2012 it’s basic and no vouchers. So two tier system.
Dreading telling her though I don’t get treated well anyway I’m expecting it will get worse. Ie make me work longer hours.
I just need to tell her I know but I know that the first words I’ll say will be “I’m really sorry but I’m pregnant”
I felt a bit weird because so many people had been off on maternity leave or gone part time and I actually said "I'm really nervous to tell you this..." but in hindsight I really wish I didn't, everyone is entitled to it and there are statutory rights in place to protect pregnant women!
You'll have the upper hand OP. She can't treat you any worse because your pregnant, you could be a grievance in about her for sexual discrimination. If she makes you work longer hours, go to the doctor and get a note. Any sickness you have now cant go on your permanent record. As long as you get statutory maternity leave and pay. Don't take anything lying down
I have at the moment as hoc one day working from home which isn’t in my contract - she’ll remove that first off. No flex or part time working permitted at my firm so this this informal arrangement ( which I verbally beg for each week) was huge. Not looking forward to standing on a hot train for 40 mins going home either.
How far along are you? Can you wait until it's quite obvious you have a bump before telling your boss? This would minimise the amount of time they'd be able to treat you badly. All very well that there are protections in place bur this doesn't always stop bad behaviour on the part of senior staff. I have sadly found this out the hard way and have had an awful time of it at work since disclosing at 17 weeks (28 weeks now).
I’m 17 weeks and will be telling boss today. I’m dreading it but can’t hide it anymore. I hate that whole “can I have a word with you [shuts door] as boss will know straight away what I’m about to say.
I keep thinking about how to announce it - do I say:
Sorry I’m about create a headache for you because....
I’ve a baby due end of April so shall I start to train up x now.
Would love to just email and state date baby due and here is maternity form but I guess that isn’t good practice when boss is in office next door.
I’m going to keep it business like as (which is perfectly reasonable) she’ll be thinking about effect on business.
I’m concerned she’ll be pissy with me now until baby born.
Please don’t apologise to your boss! Be factual and to the point, but you don’t owe anyone an apology for being pregnant.
I would also suggest reading up on all your rights (ACAS) so you know what you are entitled to and whether you are being treated unfairly.
Re working from home - you can legally make a formal flexible working request for this. There has to be good business reasons for declining it and if you can demonstrate you’ve already been doing it, that will help.
Thanks everyone - I really appreciate it. I will train myself not to say sorry! I tried to catch her but she’s off to a meeting - however she had time to tell me they’ve just recruited a bloke to department.
That will make telling her easier but it has generally been women in my department and now I have that dreaded feeling that he’s going to come in even though he’s less qualified than me, he’ll be on a better salary than me I know and the form won’t have to deal with dreaded women putting in flexible working working requests which they always refuse. I can predict he’ll be promoted before me.
To date - I work long hours, weekends and I’m very easy going. I don’t think this has stood me well. Can’t have it all I guess.
Stories like this make me want to take to the barricades! I’ve been so lucky not to experience discrimination of this kind but absolutely stand with any women who have. I’m expecting my first baby in a couple of weeks. If I have a girl, I’ll be teaching her the same values.
Best of luck OP, both at work and with your pregnancy.