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Fannyfannakerpants Tue 10-Oct-17 18:07:05

I'm eight weeks and have been feeling rough for a couple of weeks. I'm not being sick, but feel nauseous all of the time, I'm beyond tied but struggling to sleep, I ache, I'm short of breath, dizzy, I have a headache and feel mentally drained. (all midwife checks fine)
I teach 4 days a week and the thought of going in to work tomorrow is making me want to cry. I'm just staring at the computer when I should be planning because I can't phyc myself u to do it.
But I also feel that I shouldn't take time off. I'm not actually being sick and I could carry on, it's just an effort and I'd feel so guilty to my job share and school who are already massively understaffed. I also feel like this is self inflected. I knew I'd feel like this so I just need to suck it up.
I think I'm just seeing if anyone's in the same position and has a sympathetic ear really.

Marmite27 Tue 10-Oct-17 18:09:13

Nothing to add but solidarity I’m 8+3 and feel largely the same. The nausea is so draining.

With DC1 it was all gone by 11 weeks so I’m pinning all my hopes on that!

elmo1980 Tue 10-Oct-17 18:23:09

Same here, it's crap isn't it? I had forgotten what it was like with ds (only a year ago ffs) and now I'm struggling just to do the basics.

I had a sit down office job though when I was working with it last year (still on maternity leave now) so it was easier to put my head down for 5 minutes if I had to
As a teacher though I imagine it must be really difficult for you. If you are struggling at work don't be a hero, people don't mind if you need half a day to get a bit of rest. It's so important you look after yourself.

Just remember it WILL end and the elation you feel when it's gone will be amazing.

tinymeteor Tue 10-Oct-17 18:56:59

Ah, the joys of the first trimester. All you can do is look after yourself and wait for it to pass. Eat as well as you can, little and often to keep the nausea down (an empty stomach makes it worse). Get early nights. Delegate dinner to your other half or get some good ready meals in. And if you find you're not coping at work, talk to a sympathetic boss about what reasonable adjustments can be made (a bit more non contact time maybe? Any extra responsibilities/school trips etc you can drop?)

Congrats on your pregnancy

Wiggleyfingers Tue 10-Oct-17 19:20:55

I feel you over here 🙋‍♀️ Primary school teacher and 9+1. Feel like I'm failing my class at the moment because I am so drained and very unenthusiastic. Let's hang in there together!

Lozmatoz Tue 10-Oct-17 19:34:59

Get some vitamin B6, it helped me loads when I was feeling like th5

Fannyfannakerpants Tue 10-Oct-17 19:49:41

Thank you everyone. I know it'll end soon. I've just need to keep going. I'll tell work tomorrow and try and drop a few extra duties. I'll get some b6 tomorrow. What does it Do? I have been craving marmite; maybe my body knows.

lookingforthecorkscrew Tue 10-Oct-17 19:58:16

Been in this situation myself, also teaching four days a week. It’s just shit. Eating crisps and those Belvita biscuit things got me through. I used to store them in my desk then turn around to —eat them— get a book off the shelf!

I will say, though, that if you feel truly heinous you are well within your rights to take time off - pregnancy related illness does not count as regular illness (according to the Red Book circa 2014).

lookingforthecorkscrew Tue 10-Oct-17 20:02:29

BURGUNDY book, sorry, got all Mao on you there...

Lilbeth1986 Tue 10-Oct-17 22:23:51

I’m a full time teacher too!Been surviving nausea which has hit me at 6 weeks by sipping lots of water all day and nibbling on breakfast biscuits in my walk in cupboard🙈It is difficult when your school is under staffing pressure but you need to put yourself and your health first.

DoodleCat Tue 10-Oct-17 22:28:05

Please do see your GP. I got signed off sick for two weeks to help me cope plus had three different medications which slightly helped.

lookingforthecorkscrew Tue 10-Oct-17 22:32:05

I eventually got signed off for the duration of my first trimester after suffering a coughing fit midway through reading Holes to year 7, and then throwing up into a bin. Went back at about 14 weeks then got signed off again at about 32 because I got vommy again.

KoolKoala07 Tue 10-Oct-17 22:48:14

I hear you op. 7 weeks here. I'm self employed so cannot afford time off. I'm also one to one with clients and finding it hard to hide how ill I'm feeling. I just keep sipping water and sucking mints.

TheCatsMother99 Wed 11-Oct-17 06:28:17

I feel your pain.

I spent the first 10 weeks feeling like I had been hit by a bus and kind of wishing I would be sick so I would get at least half an hour relief.

You will get through it though and hopefully, like me, it disappeared after s few weeks.

Fannyfannakerpants Wed 11-Oct-17 10:17:21

Doodlecat did you get medication even though you weren't physically sick. I wonder if I could investigate this.
I really do wish I was sick. Then at least people would be sympathetic.

DoodleCat Tue 24-Oct-17 20:54:59

So sorry, forgot to check back. Yes, I got three different kinds of medicine, two helped one didn't, we tried different combinations.

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