Please help me I'm an absolute mess.
I just discovered I am pregnant, a week before my 40th birthday with my 4th child. I absolutely cannot do this financially, physically or emotionally. I think my other children 11, 8 and 2 would suffer. I am still dealing with a toddler, I am studying hard for an M.A, working part time with a view to returning to work full time asap to support the children I already have. My husband will earn less than me once I'm full time and there is no way we could support 4 on one wage. We could not afford childcare for 4 kids (eldest would need holiday camps etc as no real support for care every day)
The thing is, I was sterilised after my first two, divorced my ex and remarried. I then reversed the sterilisation a few years into my second marriage. It took a long time to fall pregnant. When I did I had an ectopic pregnancy that was treated chemically but that failed, my tube burst and I nearly died. I was left with one tube. Our little girl was a true miracle.
The heartache of losing our first child was excruciating. The trauma of trying and failing each month to fall pregnant, the operations, the fear for my unborn baby while I was carrying. I simply cannot imagine aborting a baby. I don't know if I could forgive myself.
I have no bloody idea how or when I got pregnant. I had not had sex since May to end of June as I had lots of bleeding. Then in June, I had a huge, heavy period that lasted 40 days. I had the injection two weeks in to try to stop the bleeding which didn't work but is supposed to give 99.99% protection against pregnancy. I took other tablets prescribed to stop the bleeding which it did and I resumed my sex life on holiday in July. How the hell did this happen?? I looked at myslef this morning and thought I looked about 5 months pregnant and realised I'd gained weight. I 'felt' pregnant and took a test. I am in complete shock. I will get an emergency appt in the morning with docs as I have no idea how far along I am.
I don't know what I am asking really. I am so terrified. I can't face either option. I feel devastated.
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Don't want another baby but can't face abortion
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streetface · 17/08/2017 05:29
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