Hi All,
I'm 27 weeks now and I'm starting to get fed up of people telling me I'm huge already! I love having a bump and I am proud of it but now starting to feel self conscious. Some work colleagues tell me I'm looking good but others seem to enjoy laughing at me publicly like I'm some kind of freak show. In Marks last week the lady at the check out looked shocked when I said I was 26 weeks and said "oh you're going to be huuuuge!!" Then in Sainsbury's yesterday the check out lady said " well there's a girl who works here that's pregnant and due before you, and she's nowhere near your size".
This is my first baby so I am surprised at how big I am. I've got my 28 week midwife appointment next week where I'll be measured which will hopefully put my mind at rest. I was a healthy BMI before getting pregnant and have put on an average amount of weight. Anyone else had a big bump from early on with baby number 1??
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Anyone else sick of being told they're massive?
PinkHippo1 · 11/08/2017 08:04
Just ignore them. People like commenting, especially if it's your first pregnancy. It gives them something to say and makes them feel important and informed if you know what I mean.
I remember being told I was huge ('must be twins!) and tiny ('are you sure of your dates?') by different people on the same day. 
"I know! Really looking forward to meeting him/her".
"Well my mother looked big too, must run in the family. How much are my groceries?/how's your mum doing?/have you got those figures from the meeting?"
*When are you two going to get married?
*Are you going to have kids?
*Are you practising yet?
*Ooh you are big/small.
*You can't eat that.
*You should eat this.
*My friend/sister/mum/colleague/ndn had xyz.
*What kind of birth are you going to have?
*
*Don't buy this/you need to buy that.
*Breastfeed/don't breastfeed/tut tut tut at your decision.
*co-sleeping/weaning/walking/potty training/nursery/full time-part time going back to work/using happy grandparents as babysitters/the clothes you put your dc in/the toys you give them- gendered? Pink/blue? Guns? Wooden blocks? Ipads in restaurants....
AND BREATHE!
It seems woman's lives and decisions are there to be nit-picked over. Smile, nid, confront gently if persistent. Or a bored look and "oh...really...?" while staring over the person's head.
I looked small even when i was 12 days overdue. But i measured bigger 
it's all weird!
Congratulations and best wishes for a speedy delivery "like shelling peas" 
Get used to it... from now on people will think its fine to comment on you, your body, your baby, your parenting decisions etc etc! Pregnant women and new mums seem fair game for lots of comments and 'advice'. Most of its best ignored.
My step mother decided it'd be nice (she is usually lovely I don't know what got into her I think she was trying to joke) to call me 'fatty' several times near the end of my pregnancy. I was a size 12 before pregnancy, didn't look pregnant from the back (except for a bit of arse-spread by the end) but had a huge bump, containing a big baby as it turned out. I let her get away with it twice before growling 'if you call me that one more time I'm going to come over there and sit on you!'
She didn't say it again 
When I was at the Drs office walking to my appointment to see my midwife, a very frail elderly man was walking the other way using two walking sticks. As he approached me he literally plastered himself against the wall with his arms and sticks outstretched like I was a floating blimp.
I was HUGE and people would incessantly ask "are you sure your not having twins"
The worst one was my MIL telling me I would have a big baby. I kept telling her the midwife says he is only 7lb, it's all water. Well, he weighed in at 11lb 9oz so I never hear the end of it. "I told you he was going to be big, you didn't believe me"
FUCK OFF! You couldn't possibly have known something the Drs and Midwives didn't.
I have found that pregnancy and childbirth seem to bring forth peoples opinions when they wouldn't ordinarily comment. For your own sanity try and find some way of dealing with it. I'm not saying it's ok, just that you can't control other people- only your reactions to them.
Try using the same joke everytime
Stranger: "Oh gosh youre huge already"
PinkHippo "You do know theres a baby in there, right?"
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