Desperately waiting for follow up scan

[NuclearPenguin]

DH and I have been TTC for about 3 years; and to be honest I was starting to think it just wasn't going to happen for us; and I had actually kind of made my peace with that. Then we got an extremely unexpected BFP on the 12th of July. Based on my last period I should be 11 weeks; although I do have a very long cycle (40+ days) and it certainly isn't something I could set my clock by.

We chose to have private scan last week, ironically to settle our nerves, but the scan showed only a sac and a poorly defined yolk sac - no hearbeat/embryo - dating it at 5 weeks and I am now booked in for a follow up scan at the EPU on Friday to see if I really did ovulate that late or it is a blighted ovum.

I have asked DH to bring home another digital test (the first one said 2-3 weeks) to see if my hormone levels have moved on any, although I am not even sure if that will give me any reassurance anyway.

I have read so many heartbreaking stories; google has not been my friend the past few days. Am I wrong to hold out any hope or should I be preparing myself for the worst?

[Zoflorabore]

I hope everything is ok op

I've heard that sometimes a heartbeat isn't detectable until 6 weeks.

[NapQueen]

There is a possibility that you fell pregnant as late at 30June-1 July. Bfps can happen 11 days or so after.

There is such a potential for a range of dates that all you can do is wait.

[bananafanana1]

Sending hugs, I hope everything is ok x

[NuclearPenguin]

Thank you. I am driving myself mad trying to second guess it.

I did take another digital test, not sure if it has helped or not. The first said 2-3 weeks (from conception) and yesterdays said 3+ weeks which would seem to fit with the ultrasound dates. However I don't know if that is just me, again, filling myself with false hope. I just hope on Friday, even if they can't find the bean (if it is 6 weeks I know it can still be early to see) that there is some clear sign of progression. I don't think I could take another week or so of waiting for news.

[Sundaylunchhappy]

If you have a 40 day + cycle it is extremely unlikely that your pregnancy would be dated from the first day of your last period.

I have 42 day cycles and my pregnancy is dated using the "average" 28 days prior to when your period was due.

Try not to fret too much... easier said than done, it sounds to me like you've panicked yourself because you're several weeks ahead of yourself

[Lifeofpies]

It's awful waiting for rescans, nuclearpenguin, I really fee for you. There's nothing to do but wait, and try not to google too much. I know everyone has a story, but if it's reassuring then for DS and my current pregnancy I've been put back at early scans. Even when I supposedly know the conception date (which I do this time!), things don't always happen as you anticipate.

Hope Friday comes round quickly

[Bisquick]

A long cycle typically means you ovulate much later. But most people's luteal phase is a standard 14 days. So if you know your period was due on X, then add 4 weeks to X and that will give you the approximate age of your pregnancy iyswim.

If 12 July was 4 weeks, then you are pretty much on track for your dates. Good luck for Friday! I hope you hear the bean is 6ish weeks along, and hopefully they find a heartbeat too!

[Lemondrop99]

This happened to a family member. Unexpected BFP after long term fertility issues. Private scan dated around 5 weeks and said she had likely miscarried.

Went back for a second scan, baby had developed and had a heartbeat. Baby was born last week!

Turns out her dates were totally out of whack, and she had ovulated on Day 31 of her cycle.

So don't give up hope yet OP, if you have long cycles, there's a chance you just ovulated much later than you thought.

[BringMeTea123]

Hiya

Yeah i wouldn't go off the clear blue digital. As another poster said, they are great for telling you if you are pregnant but the weeks thing isn't really a clear indication.

Again I think a heartbeat is too early to be detected yet. Fingers crossed for you for Friday. I'm sure everything is fine. It's so easy to get worried in the beginning!

[tankerdale]

I've been in your position, the waiting is awful. It's probably best to just try to think it could go either way, googling/reading old threads will show some good outcomes because dates were wrong, and some not good outcomes. Be prepared though that if it isn't good news at your scan at EPU they are likely to ask you to come back for another scan there to double check after a week or so as (in my area anyway) they have protocol about doing 2 scans and are not allowed to 'count' a private one.

[NuclearPenguin]

tankerdale that is the thing that I am dreading most; that they don't think there is any hope but that there still won't be a conclusion. I am due to go on holiday with my parents, sister and her family etc in a couple of weeks and if it was bad news I wouldn't even know what to do for the best. After the scan last week I 100% had convinced myself that it was definitely a blighted ovum; I even bought heavy duty pads with the expectation of miscarrying at any moment. Now I am not so sure.

[CL1982]

I really hope it's ok! If i may offer any advice from someone who has loooong cycles also....it does sound as if you're measuring around where you'd be if you o'd late in your cycle. I really hope the re-scan has good news :)

[2furbabies]

Hey babe

I had 3 early scans because of a bleed and I didn't see heartbeat till 7 weeks! Don't worry you have plenty of time xz

[2furbabies]

Meant to say am currently rubbing my 30 week pregnant belly xx

[NuclearPenguin]

Thank you everyone. Just waiting for tomorrow now. My symptoms have been increasing not been sick but full naseau; I could eat a horse ALL THE TIME; and I am absolutely exhausted. I tell myself it is a good sign but I also know that it can happen even with a blighted ovum. It is so cruel that our bodies can potentially just be playing tricks on us...

[tankerdale]

Not long to wait now, fingers crossed for you

[NuclearPenguin]

Saw a little 6 week heartbeat. SO happy and relieved!

Seemed like an eternity sat there, in an entirely undignified manner with the internal camera, with the sonographer making measurements and NOT saying a word. Heart in mouth before she turned the screen round and showed us the screen. There may have been a few tears....

I know its still very early days and all sorts of things can go wrong between now and the 12 week scan. However such a weight off!

Thank you for all the words of encouragement x

[AnyFarrahFowler]

Fantastic news! And what a relief for you. Congratulations

[twinfinfinfish]

Oh what wonderful news! Huge congratulations OP, I'm so happy for you

[bananafanana1]

Great news! Enjoy your weekend

[mostlymindblown]

Aw great news OP and best of luck for the rest of the pregnancy

[chelle85]

Amazing news. So happy you got the result you were hoping for. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

[Lifeofpies]

That's just fantastic Nuclear - the odds are really in your favour. It's an emotional thing. X

[CreekyOldKnee]

Absolutely wonderful news!