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Really worried about my DP

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mrwhoknows Sun 28-May-17 13:43:24

So dp has suffered bad depression in the past had therapy and medication up until recently say several months ago. She's currently into her 5th month of pregnancy and has taken a turn for the worst. She is cold, non-affectionate, very distant, told me she's unhappy with her life, she feels very "ergh" about it and has had thoughts of regret. She was fine up until the last month and our relationship was near perfect before she conceived. We were totally in love and it all was very right. I do everything for her and take all the stresses of finance and life on my shoulders (not complaining it's the mans duty) but I'm finding myself worried that she is slipping down that road again. I know hormones can cause havok but I can't help but be concerned and fear it's more then that. Any input would be helpful

worrier6 Sun 28-May-17 13:47:31

Sorry to see your both going through this ..... is this her first baby ?
Sometimes hormones really do hit women ten fold mine have and did with my first born.
Hope your ok

JaneEyre70 Sun 28-May-17 13:49:35

I think you need to talk to her and get some professional advice....from your midwife or GP. I'm sorry you're both going through this.

mrwhoknows Sun 28-May-17 14:01:44

It is her first yes. I would suggest it to her but everything I say currently she sees as a personal attack so communication isn't strong at the moment.

grungeneverdied Sun 28-May-17 15:40:37

Going through a similar thing though not as extreme plus I don't think mine is depressed just one of them woman that get the hormones hit hard sometimes. Just hang in there mate that's all you can do, I'm the same I want to be the carer and reassurer but we can't do right from wrong. Although I'm probably a bit full on at times but I'm trying hard not to be. My missus told me to calm the feck down so I'm gonna do just that. Maybe try a different approach. They know deep down you're just trying to help because you care but they just don't show appreciation or love. It's just part of it. If she doesn't change though and become at least somewhat loving (if she stops saying it or ever wanting to show affection) then I'm afraid she may actually be regretting it. If she's a decent woman though I'm sure she'd come and actually chat about being unhappy and work through it with you. I hope it works out for you though mate

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