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Does anyone else not want to announce their pregnancy?

(15 Posts)
StillGreenStrawberry Sun 28-May-17 09:36:42

Between my vile in laws, 3 previous miscarriages, and my own emotionally manipulative family; I really simply, cannot be arsed.

DH has however forced my hand by organising a family meal to 'announce' today. I know he's right, physically I can't hide it anymore. But I just don't want to share the news with such horrible, bitchy and unsupportive people who treat me like a really, really, rubbish incubator. And on top of that, HG and I'm tired sick and fed up with everyone grin

So am I the only one who doesn't want to announce?

NotAnotherUserName5 Sun 28-May-17 09:40:35

How many weeks are you? If you really don't want to, could you hold off a few more weeks?

We didn't tell anyone this time around until 14 weeks. My own family didn't find out until I was 18/20 weeks, not even my dcs.

My reasons were because of a previous MC, but if you don't feel you'd gain any support from telling, I would consider holding off. Cancel the meal and relax a little longer flowers

ScotsLamb Sun 28-May-17 09:43:09

I'm the same. We've told two close friends and DPs brother all of whom were really excited.
I go away wth work this week and I've told my bosses about baby due to the nature of the week away. They are suggesting I tell the they colleagues so they can keep an eye on me. I don't want to. I don't want to tell any of my colleagues as we've had major staffing issues and they won't be happy.
I also don't want to tell the rest of DPs family. They don't react well to news and will just eh thinking about how it impacts them instead of being excited.
My family (I really really hope) will be over the moon and really excited. We have a scan at 11 weeks a week today then we can announce.
It should be the happiest time but when you have miserable people about it becomes harder. I don't want to ruin our excitement.

StillGreenStrawberry Sun 28-May-17 10:18:17

I think you've hit the nail on the head with that. It's hard when everyone is so miserable about everything.

Firstpotato Sun 28-May-17 10:43:07

My partner tried to force me to tell his family when I was 10 weeks because we were away with them for the weekend and they would be asking why I wasn't drinking. I'm quite happy to tell people where to go if I feels it's not their business and I hate being rushed into it. No wonder you don't want to tell anyone, they sound like they won't be the support you need!

Goodg Sun 28-May-17 10:52:54

I'm only seven weeks, and I've told my best friend and dhs sister. (Primarily told sil because H was being a massive twat about everything, and she is the only other person who's really spent prolonged periods with his twatty behaviour, and I told Dear Friend, because she asked when I was throwing up and I couldn't lie to her!

Goodg Sun 28-May-17 10:54:13

I posted too soon. I won't tell anyone until 16-20 weeks or when I start showing and can't hide it.
I really don't want to "announce" I'll tell people as and when I feel I want to or they need to know

All the best in your pregnancies

nosleepforme Sun 28-May-17 10:57:53

wow, someone read my thoughts! also had previous mc and refuse to tell anyone! i have told dh that whenever i feel it is the right time, i will let those closest to us know. op, if now doesn't feel like the right time to say, then don't! you could still have the meal if you wanted to, without the announcement...

Anotherdayanotherdollar Sun 28-May-17 11:05:09

Yeah, my in-laws were so negative last time and don't have much of a relationship with my now 2.5 yr old. They live close by so will have to tell them at some stage. Had 12 week scan last week and told my parents and a sister afterwards. Up til then I had told my husband, G.P and my boss. Will tell siblings further down the line. They'll all be delighted for us but will cause more issues if in-laws think they're the last to know.

MSH2010 Sun 28-May-17 15:14:38

I'm 21 weeks and still don't like telling people.
My boss has told several of my clients at work. That slightly annoyed me especially as I'm having twins and I know it's a high risk pregnancy.
I've told a few and obviously can't hide it anymore but certainly don't make it topic of conversation

fourcorneredcircle Sun 28-May-17 15:30:04

I told my boss the morning I found out at five weeks, which turned out to be a good thing because later that day the hyperemesis kicked in and I didn't go back to work for nearly four months!

We told our parents and my brother at around 10-14 weeks as we saw them.

We didn't tell friends, colleagues or anyone else until about 22 weeks when I was back at work.

My mother told a few people (in the pub where she works!) and I went ape shit. But we kept it pretty contained. Didn't even come out on FB until 32 weeks once we'd seen all of the people we wanted to tell in person.

I'm glad because now, nearing 38 weeks I am heartily sick of the fact that all anyone wants to talk to me about is pregnancy. A few extra months of this could well have lead to serious amounts of rage!

FlapAttack88 Sun 28-May-17 16:07:12

Oh god dont do it. Especially if you have HG... the ridiculous comments will start rolling in and you will have to slay them all.

Have you tried ginger
Well it can't be that bad now you're past 12 weeks
It's just your mentality.. just keep busy to keep your mind off it and you won't be sick

Just pretend you have a new found love of pork pies and vehemently deny pregnancy if your husband announces !!!

lovelyleftrubbishright Sun 28-May-17 20:38:16

I didn't tell anyone at work until I was 18 weeks (and only then because I had to due to size of bump) with my first because I hated them all!

Keep it your special secret for as long as you reasonably can I say!

DuRezidal Sun 28-May-17 21:14:04

We have told some friends (to be honest we did at around 8 weeks) and my staff know but we are bit officially announcing it. This is partly because of my profession, I would rather people not know.

yaela123 Mon 29-May-17 10:49:25

How many weeks are you OP?

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