Feeling tired and overwhelmed

[user1494685124]

Hello, I am new to this forum. I am 10 weeks pregnant and so happy to be pregnant finally. We looking so much forward to the baby.


But I am feeling so tired and overwhelmed with everything. I started a new job 8 weeks ago and it's a rough start and long working hours and new material which I am not yet worked into. I have virtually no family around.


I haven't told my employer yet, nor friends - since I am an expat most of them live abroad. The people I have met here are casual contacts and all have no children.


I am currently trying to find some maternity clothes but the few shops I have found have dreadful clothing (apparently every pregnant mum wants to carry T-shirts that say "It's a girl" or "Feed me and tell me I'm pretty") - I am not sure where to find something suitable for the office, and I don't want to wear such T-shirts, no matter how much I look forward to the baby. I would like to have at least 1-2 pieces ready before I fit into nothing any more but this seems difficult.


I also saw the large numbers of baby products and clothes in shops - jumpsuits with sleeves, without sleeves, short sleeves, with legs and without - I don't know whom to ask what of this I need for the baby and my husband doesn't know either.


I am really feeling alone with all of this and really overwhelmed - the necessary preparations (at least find a few clothes), the job (everything is too much and I cannot tell anyone I would like to just lie down for 10 minutes because I feel sick), and the last few days I have had a terrible headache too which has been making things worse. Does anyone else feel like this?

[CherriesInTheSnow]

Poor you

The early weeks are very hard, exhaustion is usually worst around now. In terms of maternity clothes, look on ASOS or new look for some nice or fairly smart dresses - I've got a few nice wrap dresses from them. You also don't have to always necessarily get maternity dresses - swing or wrap dresses are comfy and flattering too.

In terms of baby's clothes - all in ones are best for young babies, especially winter born babies. So those would be the ones labelled as Sleepsuits with both long arms and long legs - the ones with built in scratch mits are best as I found that separate ones fall off easily. You should also have a stock of vest style ones to layer underneath in case it is cold - the generally rule is baby needs one more layer than you do to feEl comfortable.

Don't panic if you are not sure or not prepared yet - you have a long way to do and plenty of time to do lots of research and find your feet :)

[user1494685124]

Thank you Cherries! I live outside the UK, hence the complications with having no friends, family and other people around whom I know and none of the high street brands here offer maternity wear. I will take up your advice on looking or some more maternity-friendly "normal" wear. I just feel so unprepared - looking so much forward to the baby but struggling with basically all else.

[arbrighton]

You can't get mat clothes on the high street in the UK either.... They might have a range but they don't stock it in store so you have to order it anyway and send back what doesn't fit.

I am sure Jojo Maman Bebe do overseas delivery....