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Comfort please?

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user1494270143 Mon 08-May-17 20:18:29


i'm 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant, i've had a lot of stress the past few weeks. the father wants nothing to do with me and has told me i'm ruining his life, and have received nothing but verbal abuse off him. it was a shock to us both but i have tried my best to be supportive of him, and told him i will stand by his decision of not wanting to be involved.

has anyone been through this? i feel hopeless and guilty that my child won't have a dad. my family and friends have been so supportive and i am very lucky in that respect. but the whole situation just depresses me. i have tried my best with him but everything i say is wrong. i want this child and i couldn't go through with an abortion, that's not who i am. but constantly being made out to be "evil" and "bitter" really is draining. especially as i am suffering with bad nausea and dizziness.

anyone any advice on this situation. i know i'm hormonal anyway but i just hope i start to feel a bit happier soon. (ps i am blessed and very happy to be pregnant)

lots of love ☺️

DuggeeHugs Mon 08-May-17 21:04:18

flowers for you - it sounds like you're going through the mill a bit.

I don't have experience of this but didn't want to read and run. Having a support network sounds positive; perhaps focus on sharing with them for the time being.

Could you reduce contact with your ex a bit rather than having constant negative communication? I don't know if you're hoping he'll want to be involved once you've both had a little more time to get used to the idea but, whatever happens, I hope you have a smooth pregnancy

user1494270143 Mon 08-May-17 21:16:20

Thank you so much, it's much appreciated ☺️

We haven't really spoken this past week, he told me he cared about me last week and that he loved me, but then when i asked him on sunday where i stood with him and the situation he responded with im really sorry but i can't do this, he can't ever see us being together again as it has turned "toxic" 🙄 and then told me he is planning to move away in the summer. i am just a bit gutted that i spent so much time with someone who i thought genuinely cared, and then something like this happens and i see his true colours.

i just wanted to say it out in the open i think, a bit of a release. my family and friends are helping me through it, i think i'm just disappointed in him really. but i fully understand his point of view, we didn't plan for it and he has big dreams and i don't want to ruin any of that for him.

i definitely think i will be fine on my own. thank you for your response and i hope you're having a nice day! xx

DuggeeHugs Mon 08-May-17 21:50:01

That's a lot to deal with at an already emotional time. Your family and friends sound great though.

From what you've written I wouldn't say you've ruined things for him - it takes two to make a baby and he will need to face that some day. In the meantime be kind to yourself and stay positive - pregnancy can be rough at the best of times but I hope you're able to enjoy the experience. Good luck smile

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