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Everyone's saying I'm MASSIVE

(14 Posts)
Lovetolaugh123 Sat 22-Apr-17 22:46:10

I'm 28 weeks pregnant & getting non-stop comments about how "massive" & "huge" I am! Family, friends, people at work, total strangers...!
I've got a considerable bump, but I don't think I'm that big & I didnt think I looked too bad personally! I feel pretty good about my pregnant bod, but clearly I'm the only 1 who thinks I look ok!
Seen my midwife several times & no one professional has expressed any concern about my size or my weight yet.
I'm just laughing off comments at the moment, but I'm starting to find it hard to bite my tongue now! Some people are just rude!
Or maybe they're all right, & I actually need to get a grip of how much weight I'm putting on? (About 1.5 stone so far)

MrsELM21 Sat 22-Apr-17 22:52:39

People do, constantly, it's a total pain and unfortunately I found there's not very much you can do about it confused

BuzzKillington Sat 22-Apr-17 22:54:19

What can you do? You can't change it. A lot has to do with how tall you are and your pre pg size.

1.5 stone at 28 weeks is probably not that bad - I have friends that gained 3 stone over all! I put on 1.5 stone by 40 weeks each time, but I did loads of exercise and tried not to eat more.

JJ1612 Sat 22-Apr-17 22:55:46

I'm pretty sure it's just something people feel they have to say lol. Every time I went to work everyone would comment on how "big" I was, sure I'm not having twins etc. I'm now 39 weeks and everyone is commenting on how neat my bump is and how i don't look 39 weeks. Don't think you can ever win lol

Elledouble Sat 22-Apr-17 22:57:56

I was "massive" too. Got the "are you sure it's not twins?!" comments and everything. To be fair I did have a prominent bump and measured about a week ahead fundal height-wise. Baby was born at 40+5 and weighed 7lb12oz, so it doesn't mean you're going to have a massive one smile

Some bumps are just bigger than others!

daisygirlmac Sat 22-Apr-17 22:59:11

I have absolutely no idea how much weight I put on as I don't weigh myself. I'm normally a size 14 ish. Everyone kept saying to me oooh there's nothing on you, bet baby is tiny, what do you MEAN you're due in 2 weeks you've no bump on you. DS was 9lb15 shock

By about 30 weeks I was in horrible pain and really ragey, so I just kind of embraced the rage blush it's very liberating grin

Next time someone comments you have the option of the nod and smile moral high ground OR you can make a horrible comment about their body and see how they like it. I personally quite enjoyed telling people to fuck off.

Lovetolaugh123 Sat 22-Apr-17 23:08:23

Haha I think I may get to the point where I end up saying something rude back!
I get the twins comment a lot too - "how many have you got in there??!!!"
I've always been really nice to all the pregnant ladies I've known & told them how fab they look, so I think I'm probably just pissed off I'm not getting back any compliments now it's my turn! grin

HellsBellsK Sat 22-Apr-17 23:39:28

Iv been told the same.
I'm 22 weeks and one friend keeps going on about how big my bump is.
She is also pregnant and doesn't have a bump so I think that's why. I keep telling her everyone is different. We would be around the same size 8/10.
I'm still going to the gym, watching what I eat. I think it's just all bump and boobs as I still wear my normal size.. DH is very tall and at my 20 week scan the baby was measuring 2 weeks ahead. They just said the baby looks very long.. I hope that's it 🙈🤞

DaisyChainsForever Sun 23-Apr-17 03:59:25

i get told i look big one day, then small the next. I'm carrying high, then i'm carrying low. People don't know what they're talking about!

SuperBeagle Sun 23-Apr-17 04:06:27

It's not to do with your weight, it's to do with the size of your belly. I have a friend who had a small bump who got the opposite comments. I always look like I swallowed a pilates ball and get the "huge" comments, but I know they're not referring to my weight, just the blimp form I've taken on. grin

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sun 23-Apr-17 07:00:48

It is rude. You can go with an icy glare, or point out that your midwife says it's exactly the right size, or maybe suggest they're brace for making personal comments to a pregnant woman.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sun 23-Apr-17 07:01:59

Brave not brace.

BTW I found it no better having a baby. People delighted in telling me how small mine was which was pretty hard to swallow because actually we were having trouble with weight gain.

Timefor2 Sun 23-Apr-17 07:06:38

I'm 25 weeks and get this too - second pregnancy and it was the same last time. I think my height is all in my legs and so there's just not a lot of room in my belly and it all shows straight out. I'm naturally a size 10/12 too so there doesn't need to be much of a bump for it to show.

I'm a bit naughty but they annoy me so I lie and say "actually the midwife says I'm small for 25 weeks". It's a handy way to shut them up. My mum and MIL are the worst, my MIL especially I just reply that she just forgets what pregnancy looks like (she has lots of DILs and DDs with kids so sees herself as an expert in pregnancy and babies - not annoying at all...)

Lemondrop09 Sun 23-Apr-17 08:01:43

I genuinely think most people don't mean any offence by this. I think people are referring to you bump rather than your weight, I don't think they are trying to say "you're fat". The bump is the most obvious part of pregnancy and very easy to comment on. I really think it's simply that people are making conversation. I would try not to take it to heart too much, which is easier said than done when you're feeling sensitive about changes to your body.

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