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Do I tell my Hubby I'm Preggo

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SJGR Fri 14-Apr-17 19:17:11

Hi All,

So I found out yesterday that we're expecting which is great news - we started trying at Christmas so I'm over the moon!

Problem: my hubby is away on an oil boat in the middle of the sea with virtually no connectivity... FOR A MONTH! We're only half way through and I don't know whether to tell him on the crackly phone or to wait until he walks in the door....

I joked with him before he went that's i wouldn't tell him if I found out whilst he was away... mostly because I want to share the moment with him rather than it be an isolated thing for both of us... I didn't think I'd ACTUALLY be in this situation though!

So here I am - do I tell him or do I wait 2 weeks and tell him when he gets back (I'm just 5 weeks now).... thanks all!

arbrighton Fri 14-Apr-17 19:18:03

I wouldn't be able to wait if it were me!

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Fri 14-Apr-17 19:19:20

I would set a nice surprise for him coming home. .

AnnieAnoniMouse Fri 14-Apr-17 19:19:50

I think I'd try to keep it to myself for a fortnight.

I'd probably last less than 14 minutes 😂

💐 Congratulations!!

MissSueFlay Fri 14-Apr-17 19:20:47

I would wait, it will be lovely to see his face & reaction, and it's not that long to wait really - you can't tell anyone else before him though!

FeedMyFaceWithBattenberg Fri 14-Apr-17 19:21:15

I found out on Monday I'm five weeks too!
Off to the GP on Tuesday! grin

Batteriesallgone Fri 14-Apr-17 19:21:48

I'd have to tell if it was me! Congratulations!

PollytheDolly Fri 14-Apr-17 19:27:35


No don't tell him. When he comes home leave little hints around the house and wait for him to catch on! Spend the next few weeks planning it ready for his return. Be something lovely to look back on, rather than a crackly phone call where you can't see his face smile

Sparklyuggs Fri 14-Apr-17 21:28:58

I'd tell if it were me, as I knew my DH would want to know as soon as possible. I did the test at 3pm, did a million other tests then told him to leave work early smile

SJGR Fri 14-Apr-17 21:41:39

Definitely can't tell ANYONE til he knows... hence why I'm asking you lot!!

Think I'm going to wait... EEEK!!

ImperialBlether Fri 14-Apr-17 21:45:31

I'd tell him by phone. You know he'll cry, don't you? grin

TestingTestingWonTooFree Fri 14-Apr-17 21:56:34

I'd probably wait. 40 weeks is a verrry long time. It's quite nice having a secret for a bit.

pomadas87 Fri 14-Apr-17 22:02:58

I was in a similar situation last month, as I found out I was pregnant whisky DH was away (he's in the army). He was back in 2 weeks but i didn't wait and told him over the phone - REALLY wished I'd waited so I could have seen his face! But it just came out as I was so excited. I'd wait if I were you - so special to tell him in person grin congratulations!

Smurfy23 Fri 14-Apr-17 22:49:51

Id wait. Telling my DH face to face and seeing his reaction is a memory I will always treasure

BillyButtfuck Fri 14-Apr-17 22:51:30

DP says he'd much rather know in person so wait 2 weeks

VimFuego101 Fri 14-Apr-17 23:27:25

What was his response when you joked about it prior to him leaving?

SJGR Sat 15-Apr-17 21:45:35

WhenI joked about it first time he was like "nooo you have to tell me" and then second time he was a bit more nonchalant about it... but we were only joking around...

I think I'm going to wait. My hope is that he doesn't think I'm trying to keep him out of it by just waiting a little bit. Just tried to book a Dr appointment and it is for the morning after he comes back so he won't miss anything much...

So... anyone got any ideas on how to tell him? He's always been the romantic and thoughtful one - I'm rubbish at this stuff!

BillyButtfuck Sat 15-Apr-17 22:49:49

You could go and buy some teeny tiny white baby booties and wrap them in a nice box. Give it to him as a welcome home present with no clues star

Spam88 Sat 15-Apr-17 23:01:47

My DH works away for over a month at a time. I asked him when we started trying whether he'd want me to tell him straight away or wait and tell him face to face and he said he'd want to know as soon as I did.

esk1mo Sat 15-Apr-17 23:25:25

definitely wait, it would be amazing to surprise him and see his reaction!

i love the baby booties idea, or even pay for a private scan and give him it in a little congratulations card with the scan inside to open infront of you. like "oh this came in the post" grin

vickifaith Sun 16-Apr-17 07:29:06

I'll never forget the moment I told my partner. I wrote a Xmas card from me and the baby. He burst out crying and was grinning like a Cheshire Cat. It was so lovely to see his reaction, I would advise you to wait! Xx

Spam88 Sun 16-Apr-17 09:39:38

Ooh I don't think a private scan is a good idea, my DH would have been pretty devastated if I'd been for a scan without him.

kikibo Sun 16-Apr-17 10:37:47

I couldn't even wait until hubby got home from work 3 hours later...

Batteriesallgone Sun 16-Apr-17 11:52:03

Mine too Spam

LookImAHooman Sun 16-Apr-17 13:31:52

Ditto Spam. But the booties are a lovely idea - make a cheesy sign saying 'Welcome home, Daddy' or something and just have that ready when he gets in. I don't envy you, tho - you think the 2WW feels long but this will be something else! Eek, make SURE you tell us all how it goes when you DO spill. Squee <hormones, hormones everywhere>

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