Looking for some advice. I'm 13 weeks into a unplanned pregnancy, first baby for me, third for my partner. I have had a scan and baby is happy and healthy, however throughout my pregnancy I have been depressed, tired and generally blue. I can't get excited or even happy about the baby despite trying to put on a front for family and friends. I have considered a termination many times.
Background is that I'm 33, was married and wanted to have children before the marriage, then after the marriage my husband decided it wasn't what he wanted. This was very hurtful as he said we needed to be married to have children, so I married him on this basis as I wasn't too bothered about being married or not, a committed relationship with babies was enough for me.
We divorced and then I met my current partner who truthfully said he didn't want more children (he has two) and he joined the year long waiting list for the snip. I can't have any hormonal contraception and tried and failed at the copper coil so we used the rhythm method really reliably for 16 months until January when I accidentally got my dates wrong. Morning after pill failed.
I think I'm too late for an abortion now, so can anyone that has suffered PreND give me any hints, tips or practical advice for combating this and learning to bond with my baby and trying to be able to smile about the pregnancy. I don't know any other pregnant people or people with babies and I have no idea what to expect. DP has told me all of the negative things so I need to balance this with some positives. I have been a mental mess for 3 months now and its really dragging me down. Its harder now as lots of people are congratulating us on the pregnancy and I struggle to know what to say to them. DP says he will support me if I choose to keep the baby or abort.
I have also been made homeless during this pregnancy (we have somewhere to go but its been very stressful) and have managed a major contract in the business that I run jointly with my partner, both have taken their toll on us.
Any advice would be great as PreND seems to be a bit of a taboo subject, I can't find much online.
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feelingblue123 · 09/04/2017 20:29
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