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What would you do?

(16 Posts)
blondehair Tue 28-Mar-17 20:26:10

Me and OH have been invited to a wedding reception 3 days before my due date. It won't be far from where we live. I've said I'm not really up for going and said I don't mind if he wants to have the night out as long as he can be there if I need him but I don't really know what to do. Just don't want to go into labour in front of loads of people at a wedding. Thoughts? X

JohnLapsleyParlabane Tue 28-Mar-17 20:31:45

Going into labour is usually a slow development rather than the dramatic version we see on TV. So in your shoes I wouldn't really be worried about that.
However at 39/40 weeks there is no way I would be putting on anything other than my comfiest clothes and maybe a pair of slippers!

WantingBaby1 Tue 28-Mar-17 20:32:11

Don't go if you don't want to, and don't feel bad about it. It's so close to your due date that you'll probably be quite uncomfortable and/or in labour. I'd suggest DH stays with you unless he's desperate to go. If I was in the same position I wouldn't go, and if I was the one getting married I certainly wouldn't be upset at your non appearance given the circumstances! In fact one of my DH's best friends attended our wedding alone as his wife was 37 weeks pregnant. We didn't expect her to come at all!

JiltedJohnsJulie Tue 28-Mar-17 20:33:47

Agree that the start of labour is likely to be a long slow process with lots of warning. If your DH does go without you, will he stay sober, just in case you do go into labour that night?

blondehair Tue 28-Mar-17 20:34:32

Thanks for the replies!
I probably won't go, just wandering if it would have been the right thing to do or not. I know I probably won't be up for doing anything else instead of being lazy in comfortable clothes at home,just didn't want to sound like a horrible person for saying I didn't want to x

blondehair Tue 28-Mar-17 20:36:07

@JiltedJohnsJulie I've already said I don't really mind him going, and he said if he did it would only to pop in to see them. I wouldn't imagine him to even have a drink to be honest, he's so excited about everything and don't think he's even really wanting to go knowing I don't want to either x

MangoSplit Tue 28-Mar-17 20:36:45

I was in the same situation. We said no to the meal (so that I wouldn't feel bad about pulling out at the last minute and messing up the seating plan if I went into labour) but yes to the evening reception. In the end the baby came a week late, so it was fine.

blondehair Tue 28-Mar-17 20:41:04

I think it will be better if OH just lets them know and then if I turn up for the reception I suppose it will be a bonus. Just depends how I'm feeling on the night (probably tired and can't be bothered) but don't want to give them an answer and then change my mind at the last minute.

vfoster Tue 28-Mar-17 21:38:58

I went to a good friend's wedding a week or two before I was due with my first. I took some flat shoes (which I was in within 10 minutes!) and booked a room at the hotel in case I needed to rest. I had a great time and was so glad I went. Just do whatever feels comfortable!

Oysterbabe Tue 28-Mar-17 21:42:38

There's a reasonable chance that the baby will have arrived by then so you definitely won't be up for It!

annlee3817 Tue 28-Mar-17 22:07:46

I went to an evening Reception two days after my due date, I was hoping a bit of a dance would get things moving as had had a promising sweep two days before. We only stayed for a few hours and my Dh drove. It was nice to get out rather than sit at home moping. I appreciate that it's different for everyone though. I popped two days later smile

user1483387154 Tue 28-Mar-17 22:12:37

We are in exactly the same situation. We have talked with the couple and they understand that we would love to come to the wedding and reception but obviously wont know if its possible until the actual day. They are happy to have us as confirmed as attending but totally understand if it is not possible, or if we have to leave early.

Lovechild2016 Wed 29-Mar-17 02:05:43

I have a similar concern. Due to be at a wedding in Ireland when I'll be 35 weeks. My OH is best man. We live in main land UK. Am I mad thinking I'll be able to go?

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints Wed 29-Mar-17 07:29:52

I've been in a similar situation, big family birthday party at 39+1, I just explained that we'd try our hardest to be there but we couldn't guarantee it. They completely understood this. As it was baby had arrived 3 days before (on the bday persons actual birthday). Dh went with the older 3 dc & I stayed at home to have some time with the new baby as I was still getting bad after pains & just wanted a comfy sofa etc. Really I'd just see how you feel at the time but getting out & having some fun may be much needed by that point! Just make sure your hospital bag is in the boot!

vickifaith Wed 29-Mar-17 07:43:31

As the previous poster mentioned I would be just wanting my Pjs! Defo not a dress and heels lol. I think it depends on a few things, how much you want to go, what happens closer to the time, whether you've had the baby! What I would say (currently planning my wedding when I will be 6months pregnant!) is that I wouldn't commit to the day do for you or your partner. the bride and groom will need to confirm numbers and pay for your meal and drinks package which is often a lot of money so it would be a waste of you weren't able to go. As we all know weddings are expensive!! Xx

verytiredmummy1 Wed 29-Mar-17 07:47:12

Been in a similar position and said no. Mainly as pregnancy was high risk and needed a consultant led delivery. As it turned out the baby came the day before the wedding so was glad I didn't agree to go!

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