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5 weeks Pregnant

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Leanne17 Mon 20-Mar-17 11:29:08

Hi

So I just sort of need to talk! I've just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant and altho I'm happy I can't get excited. I had a early miscarriage middle of January and now I am so paranoid. Every time I go to the toilet I'm checking for blood, everytine (sorry for tmi) I feel discharge I think I've started bleeding. I know it's not healthy and I don't want to be like this I'm just terrified.

I have 2 boys already and have lost 2.

I just don't want to feel like this, this baby is so wanted and will be our last.

I guess it's easier talking to people who understand more then my partner altho he tries it's not quite the same

Xx

xStefx Mon 20-Mar-17 11:33:06

Congratulations, im trying for my 2nd after 2 miscarriages so I know how you feel about being worried it will happen again.

The one thing that my partner said to me was: " worrying will neither do any good or any harm" I tried to remind myself that a lot.

Also, I tried to keep myself busy so that I wasn't constantly thinking about it. In all fairness , my nerves were shot last time so I just want to say its normal after the heartache you've been through.

Hope it all goes well for you x

Lemondrop09 Mon 20-Mar-17 11:48:20

Oh dear, I can see why you would worry. I'm currently pregnant with my first and have thankfully never had a mc, but still panic about everything.

I recently heard a quote in a film, which I'm trying to put into practise. "Worrying means you suffer twice". It's so true, worrying won't stop something happening, so take a deep breathe and we'll all have to try to stop worrying! Easier said than done though...

Foggymist Mon 20-Mar-17 12:15:32

Hi, I'm also 5 weeks pregnant after a chemical pregnancy last cycle. It was almost horrible seeing the positive test again this month, as last month I got the bfp, told husband, we got a bit excited (first month ttc #2, ttc#1 took one month too), and then I started bleeding two hours later. So the first few hours this time were not enjoyable.

Last time with the chemical pregnancy I got a big gush of blood, for me that meant that this time once I didn't have that I didn't panic, but I know that have anyraised spotting or discharge can be scary. You just have to do your best to stay calm, not worry, because whatever happens will happen regardless of whether you worry about it or not. Today you're pregnant, just focus on one day at a time flowers

Foggymist Mon 20-Mar-17 12:16:25

*having any spotting

GingerHanna Mon 20-Mar-17 12:42:41

I feel your pain and we're all here for you. and each other.

I'm 5+4 and had a mmc at 6 weeks before, so just like you I check every time I go to the toilet. I almost dread the first trip to the loo each morning as this is when it started last time and whenever I have my period it always shows first thing in the morning when I get up.

On another thread we have a little say - today I am pregnant. Just keep focusing on that and one day at a time.

Good luck and congratulations!

Leanne17 Mon 20-Mar-17 13:06:40

Thankyou guys!!

Yes I'll definitely start using that saying!

I know it probably means nothing. It this time round I just knew I was pregnant. My miscarriage in January was also a chemical one.

Yeah I guess it is a case of whatever will be will be smile xx

findingmyfeet12 Mon 20-Mar-17 13:20:48

I'm about 5 weeks too and I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks last year.

I've had loads of fertility treatment and at 37 I don't feel that I have time to waste.

I'm trying to stay positive but I honestly can't relax at all. I don't feel anything other than anxiety at the moment. I haven't had any symptoms today and it's driving me to distraction.

I don't know how I'm going to keep going at this rate.

SellMySoulForSomeSleep Mon 20-Mar-17 13:28:47

Hi, worrying drives you mad doesn't it. You have my sympathy. I've had a miscarriage in the past when I didn't know I was pregnant which was a bit of a shock.

I'm currently 17 weeks and I've had spotting, bleeding and blood clots all the way through my pregnancy.
Every time I feel anything that might be blood or discharge I freak out and I'm constantly going to the toilet to check.
I had premature rupture of membranes at 28 weeks with my DC so I'm so anxious.

I like the "today I am pregnant" that a PP mentioned.

I don't feel like my DH gets it either so I'm bottling everything up. healthy

Keep thinking positive. flowers

butterybollocks Mon 20-Mar-17 18:42:39

I'm 7 days late so probably 5 weeks pregnant. Had an early mc/chemical pregnancy in Dec so I'm putting off testing as long as poss, it was just such a rollercoaster.

I don't feel 'right' but don't feel nauseous like I did with my daughter, and that's not helping.

I'm definitely knicker checking and nervous wiping!

Hang in there everyone, let's hope they all stick.

Caterina99 Mon 20-Mar-17 19:00:51

Another one saying know exactly how you feel. Am currently 10 weeks and have had 2 healthy scans and just coming round to thinking this is all real now. The first few weeks seem to last forever and you never relax. Fingers crossed for everyone

Leanne17 Tue 21-Mar-17 07:50:12

It's so nice knowing your not the only I've feeling this way!!

My fingers are crossed for us all!! The first weeks are definitely the scariest!

But we will get there!! I've woken up feeling a lot more positive still paranoid but going to take each day as it comes
Xx

PrimeraVez Tue 21-Mar-17 08:57:36

Feeling exactly the same way - I had a chemical pregnancy in January and swore I would never test early again but of course I did.

Every twinge I convince myself that AF is on it's way, and I have quite a lot of CM which I'm convinced is blood every time I feel it. I'm also panicking that I don't have any major symptoms - I have occasional breast tenderness and that's about it. I am very tired, but then I have a 12 month old who is having a phase of bad sleep, so it could be because of that.

I wish I could go to sleep and wake up in my second trimester. But then I feel bad for wishing time away!

Hazandduck Tue 21-Mar-17 12:41:21

I feel the same way primera I just want to wake up and be in the 'safe zone'. It's unbearable! According to my LMP I'm 6 weeks and 3 days today. Time is just crawling by and I only tested last Wednesday, although I knew before that. Keep having back ache and the odd tummy ache. It's horrible sad panicking every time I feel discharge, wearing a pad every day and inspecting it closely! My only symptom is sore kind of tingly boobs and the backache. I had two miscarriages last year back to back. But yes, keep repeating the mantra "today I am pregnant" and distract yourself. We can get through this ladies! My OH said we have survived the losses before, we can survive it again, and if I need to endure this to have a child then so be it. X

theotherendofthesockportal Tue 21-Mar-17 13:10:13

@Leanne17 I understand exactly how you are feeling. I am also 5 weeks today according to Ovia (doesn't quite add up to me, and I think I am few days further along)

I too had a miscarriage in January. It was a mmc and I was 13 weeks but the baby had stopped developing around 8-9 weeks.

I'm struggling to understand why my body clung onto the pregnancy, my bump was getting bigger and I was exhausted.

I also dread going to the toilet and discovering blood, which is how the mmc started.

There is some good advice up thread and I am repeating "Today I am pregnant " several times a day.

I'm busy wishing the weeks away, i feel like I can relax after a successful 12 week scan. Although I'm paranoid about something bad happening later on. I'm going to melt into an anxious puddle soon

Hazandduck Tue 21-Mar-17 15:24:52

There is a 'staying positive' board you should join ladies. sock I've seen you on there and it is really helpful seeing women at all stages of pregnancy who have survived horrible things. It's a comfort and support. I hate going to the loo at the moment I'm just filled with fear every time. Sorry for your loss sock x

Hazandduck Tue 21-Mar-17 15:31:37

Has anyone noticed their boobs have gotten huge too?? Mine are looking so big I just feel almost embarrassed by them but I expect it is just me being paranoid. OH is loving them but they are too painful for him to touch haha.

Leanne17 Tue 21-Mar-17 15:50:36

I've vee. Getting morning sickness aswell as backache, but I'm also wanting these next few weeks to hurry. I'm also putting off ringing the midwives in case I jinx anything!!

I've felt more positive today altho still getting anxious when I feel discharge so contemplating getting some liners?!

Yes ladies we definitely are not made of glass! We're all brave women and we can do this!! Xx

findingmyfeet12 Tue 21-Mar-17 16:20:48

Im having a very slight twinge like a mild stitch on my left side. I had this with my first pregnancy as well. It's my only real symptom so far.

Can't say I've noticed that my boobs are much bigger. Although they were bigger anyway from the IVF meds so maybe I've just become used to them.

captin1234 Tue 21-Mar-17 18:48:38

hi im 6 weeks at moment, had miscarriage in November and absolutely driving my self potty with worry. im not bleeding thank goodness but i am having period like cramps is this normal at this point.

Hazandduck Wed 22-Mar-17 08:33:49

captin1234 I have had the same cramps I am 6 weeks too and have had two miscarriages, I keep convincing myself I'm coming on it's horrible! Because I've not yet had a healthy pregnancy I don't know if it's normal but my sister who has two wonderful healthy children had period cramps for both her first trimesters so it doesn't always mean bad news. X

Leanne17 Thu 23-Mar-17 08:21:40

Exactly everyone's different, I've known people to get periods all the way through!!

I'm putting off phoning and making an appointment with the midwife. Shall I just book it?

After all it can't do I wrong can it xx

DuRezidal Thu 23-Mar-17 08:55:47

This is my second pregnancy and for god knows what reason I am absolutely paranoid! I don't know whether it's because this time I have been on this forum and seen so many sad experiences or because I now know a few people who have had miscarriages (I was one of the first of my friends to have a baby last time) but every twinge has me worrying.

I definitely wasn't like this with my previous pregnancy. I have a second early scan next week (I had some bleeding at 4 weeks which I had in my first one too) and I am absolutely dreading there being something wrong. It's rather irrational but then I worry that perhaps I instinctively know something is not right?!

Leanne17 Sat 25-Mar-17 06:47:51

I'm terrified! I don't feel 'pregnant 'anymore my nausea seems to have stopped and now I'm overthinking everything. I felt like this last time I had a miscarriagesad

I don't know what to do

JulyLady7 Sat 25-Mar-17 07:11:49

I know how you feel Leanne, I'm pregnant after 2mcs last year. I got so worried last Sunday and told my husband the pregnancy was over because I woke up with no nausea. That's what happened with my last mc.
The next day it came back and has been here all week. I had a scan on Tuesday ABC baby was there with a hb. I'm 8 weeks.
Try not to worry. Symptoms do absolutely come and go. Hoping you have a busy weekend to take your mind off it a bit? I know it's hard. What I'd give for the naivete of a pregnancy without loss.
The midwives at my EPU always tell me "Those pregnancies have nothing to do with this one". They're right. xx

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