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Feeling blah - anyone in same boat or can offer advice?

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SlB09 Sun 12-Mar-17 17:57:01

First post so be gentle!

I am almost 14 weeks and just feel generally crap physically and emotionally. I am currently off work with excessive sickness and have had this since week 6. I've barely socialised due to fatigue and sickness which im sure is high on the contributing factor to my 'blahhness', feel awful I cant work and to my partner whos doing a great job looking after me.

Im just looking for advice as to if anyone has experienced this and how you coped with it? I know alot of it is hormones (I cried at crufts lastnight grin) but its now becoming a cabin fevered frustrating and trudging path to be going down.

Any help welcome!!!

Hollyhop17 Sun 12-Mar-17 18:00:58

It sounds like you might have hyperemesis. If so, there is a great thread on here which is really supportive. I felt exactly the same. Really ill from week 7 until 18/19. 21+4 now and feeling much better. Good luck.

Scroobius Sun 12-Mar-17 18:00:59

No help I'm afraid, I'm just feeling the exact same way except I'm not being sick enough to be off work (I think I'd have been committed by now if I was). OH is being lovely and it's making me feel worse since he works really long hours, I work part time and he's doing most of the house and childcare stuff.

SlB09 Sun 12-Mar-17 18:03:55

It helps just to know im not the only one!

elpinguino Sun 12-Mar-17 18:30:56

You are so not alone. I've been off work with severe sickness since week 9. 15 weeks now and still feel crap. Hate that all I've done is sit in the house for more than 5 weeks but just feeling so ill. A few things that I've found have helped a bit - going out for (short!) walks, just 10 minutes or so, the fresh air feels amazing and has stopped me feeling quite so low. Also it's been lovely when friends have popped in for a cuppa and a chat. I haven't been able to join them in the cuppa (strictly on lucozade orange at the moment!) but it's great to just talk to people. It's horrible when you just feel like you're going stir crazy looking at the same 4 walls all the time. I'm also hugely stressing because work are trying to cut my pay right before my mat pay qualifying period. I've had to get my Union involved and it's all pretty stressful, especially when I just feel so rubbish generally. I'd love to be able to go back to work, honestly!

Anyway, I'm here for a hand-hold any time. This will get better. flowers

SlB09 Sun 12-Mar-17 18:43:55

Thanks elpinguino - Don't think work quite get the fact we'd rather not be staring at 4 walls, vommitting and exhausted haha!

Im so glad im not alone in this though, you start to doubt yourself. We have a dog so have to take her out which gets my fresh air fix, think im just having a particularly rubbish day today xx

elpinguino Sun 12-Mar-17 19:02:37

Well exactly! I can't wait to be able to plan stuff again - a weekend away or a trip to the shops even, just feels so unachievable at the moment! We will get there.

Ahhh doggy cuddles must help too! And it's good to have a reason to get out, I have to force myself most days. Just remember - we are growing tiny humans. This is hard work!

Redyellowpinkblue Sun 12-Mar-17 19:08:39

You're not alone. My first pregnancy was an absolute breeze compared to my current one - I'm 28 weeks and have honestly felt terrible for all but 3 weeks of it. Horrendous nausea, sickness, spd, I've just about had a enough of feeling so weak all the time and I have a business to run and toddler to care for so no time off. And to top it all off i have GD now too! Ooh feels good to vent grin Luckily I have a wonderful DH and family and baby is being induced in 10 weeks time so counting down now.
And DH is having the snip soon afterwards ha ha!!!!
Hope yours passes soon OP but know you're not alone, for some of us pregnancy is pretty horrid but luckily you get a baby at the end of it and it's all forgotten wink

SlB09 Sun 12-Mar-17 19:28:27

Gosh, you've made it this far and now light at the end of the tunnel! I honestly have so much respect for you ladies who don't have the option of time off or rest - heres hoping you've managed to have the odd hot relaxing bath treat in that time!

What I find interesting to deal with is everyone is so happy for you and all smiles and hugs but in your mind your thinking 'oh if only you saw me with vomit down mychi chin half an hour ago'! Oh the joys as a first timer! ,

DestinationSofa Sun 12-Mar-17 20:39:31

I am really struggling and starting to get cabin fever. Just trying to tell myself this is temporary and take one day at a time. Also has made me appreciate my normal health more and think of those who struggle with chemo etc.

Meowstro Sun 12-Mar-17 20:47:10

SIB, I'm week 18, I've had Hyperemesis since week 16 and hardly done a thing. Definitely feeling blah! I so badly want to get back to work and speak to other people again face to face. Btw, I second the Hyperemesis Support thread, everyone is really supportive, especially if you're having a bad day and need a hand hold.

Red, how do you do it? Due to HG, if it isn't the sickness it's the nausea for me. Now being told I have GD this week, I'm at a loss about food. Are you on medication or are there certain GD friendly foods you can manage? I'm so curious, no one has given me HG friendly advice on my GD.

Lemondrop09 Sun 12-Mar-17 21:52:35

I sympathise! My HG kicked in at 5 weeks, been signed off since 6 weeks. Now 10.5 weeks and definitely have cabin fever. Even when not vomiting, the nausea and fatigue is unreal. I'm not getting out of bed, DH is doing everything on top of his full time job (house work, dog walking). I couldn't even read or watch tv at first, just listened to audio books. The last few days I've been able to watch tv and have slowly ploughed through half the movies I own! I'm going to try to do some WAH this week because I'm going crazy. No solutions for you, just wanted to say you're not alone and it will pass st some point.

SlB09 Mon 13-Mar-17 10:16:16

Thanks lemondrop, seems this is a stage for us with HG! My friend who had chemo last year said that this is exactly what she was like after every session!! She said shed take chemo anyday as it clears up quicker!

Meowstro Mon 13-Mar-17 12:52:38

*since week 6 that should say. I've now been off of work for nearly 3 months sad and the only medication helping is Ondansteron which they prescribe for those going through chemotherapy. Fortunately, I can't compare the two (although I can see what your friend means) but at least a baby at the end is a great consolation. I'm trying to focus on that but it does seem so fricken far away at times.

SlB09 Mon 13-Mar-17 13:04:49

Poor you Meowstro, sending hugs. Im taking cyclizine which takes the edge off but by no means makes everything better. Dont know about you but Im struggling to feel joyful about being pregnant as its been rubbish up to now?! And im paranoid about people thinking im taking the mick at work as its 'only morning sickness'. We will get through this.....confused

MardyBum2017 Mon 13-Mar-17 15:30:17

Hi. I'm feeling exactly the same! I'm 16 weeks pregnant with first baby and have been off work with HG for 8 weeks now! The cabin fever, exhaustion and 'blah'ness has really set in and I'm struggling to feel excited about baby and feeling so guilty about all the work I'm missing. Horrible to hear that others feel the same way but at the same time I'm glad I'm not the only one!

SlB09 Mon 13-Mar-17 21:02:17

So I managed a relatively nice dog walk today hurrah! Staved off the crapness abit but still that sinking feeling of daytime tv and the sofa.......keep thinking of the end goal!

HN42 Mon 13-Mar-17 21:17:34

Hopefully you'll start to feel better soon, I had sickness really bad from around 8 weeks to 14 weeks and was also on cyclizine which worked to an extent but was still sick every day despite taking it. I think I stopped taking my 3rd tablet of the day at 14 weeks and then weaned myself down to 1 a day at 16 weeks so hopefully you'll turn a corner soon. I know how you feel though staring at 4 walls and enduring daytime tv, its rubbish, but you'll get there, it will all be worth it in the end. It sounds good that you managed to get a nice walk in today, a bit of fresh air often helps you feel temporarily better.

haveacupoftea Mon 13-Mar-17 21:32:46

Between the 12 week scan and the 20 week scan is a shitty worrying time even if you're having a great pregnancy. Waiting for kicks, waiting for bump, waiting for everything really. Why not book yourself a private scan to give yourself something to look forward to smile

SlB09 Tue 14-Mar-17 13:38:20

Haveacupoftea, I havn't had my first scan yet, its on thursday which is the soonest they could fit us in! So ill have that I suppose, just hope theres something in there!! Xx

SlB09 Sat 18-Mar-17 16:16:52

Well had my scan thursday and all was fine (phew!) Had a good day sickly wise, but last night I literally had a sobbing, snotting cant breathe kind of cry that kind of came out of nowhere and feel drained and low today. Havnt cried like that for years and years!! Please tell me its the hormones?!

2bluestars Sat 18-Mar-17 20:47:19

I had a great pregnancy with my first, felt upbeat throughout, healthy, active, happy. With my second I could not have felt more different. I went to the doctor and was signed off and referred for counselling because i felt so low. The physical side was ok- i was achey and uncomfortable but nothing like hg. My mental health was extremely poor though and i basically felt like i didn't want to be here any more. It was a really shitty time. In hindsight i can see i had pre natal depression and i should have asked for more support. Including a different counsellor who didn't want to talk about how great pregnancy and babies are (they are but clearly i wasn't feeling that at the time!) I guess what i am trying to say is that it might be hormones but it might need intervention to make sure you are ok. Don't be afraid to ask for help x

SlB09 Sat 18-Mar-17 21:58:19

Thanks 2bluestars, I am keeping that on my radar and will definately seek help if I feel I need it - im not embarrassed or shy that this is a possibility but thankfully at the moment it seems to be short lived. Xx

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