Hi, im new to mumsnet so i havent learned all the abbreviations yet.
My childhood best friend is over 6months and I recently found out from her that she is smoking marijuana, cigarettes and drinking alcohol.
She told me she is trying to quit cigarettes.
I am absolutely horrified and devastated.
She told me she had been trying for over a year to get pregnant after she had a miscarriage 2 years ago.
I dont understand why she wouldnt have quit before trying?
I come from a family that believe its inherently wrong to drink, smoke, do drugs anything! Hell my family wont even eat pasteurised cheese!
So upon learning this i am disgusted and horrified that after having a sudden miscarriage that she says was not to do with her habits that she could do this to her baby.
I fell pregnant in the summer of last year and the moment i realised i was pregnant (we were not planning or trying) i quit smoking immediately and stopped eating/drinking anything dangerous.
We werent even sure we wanted a child but i still didnt do anything that could harm our baby. Almost as soon as we decided to keep our baby, i lost it.
I was very early in pregnancy but it was still horribly sad, then we found out that i have fibromyalgia and some other health issues that can be genetic (my mum has fibro) so ethically we decided not to have children so as not to pass on bad genes to them.
After my best friend getting pregnant i was so excited for her but i also was sad in a way as i wanted a child that i cant have.
I was so ecstatic about her having a baby, i felt so much love and joy for her, her partner and her baby. But now all i feel is fear for the baby?
I dont know what to do.
I saw her 6month scan and it looks like her baby has cleft palate, which is even more terrifying. I feel like she is going to be a really bad parent and i feel so guilty for thinking it.
I welcome any advice/stories.
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user1487978064 · 25/02/2017 01:57
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