Nesting / panic(13 Posts)
Hi, I'm about 12 weeks. A couple of times a week I'm overcome by a flash of panic thinking that I'm not prepared for the baby, have nothing for them to wear, no pram etc. It's ridiculous as it's so early. It usually happens just before bed or if I wake up during the night so it's very annoying!!!
I think I'll feel better once I have some baby things, considering buying some basic baby clothes soon just so that I feel better prepared.
Anyone else have this? Did buying things help or did it just make it worse?!
I wouldn't worry! I didn't even buy a house for me and the baby to live in till 29 weeks! 31 now and just setting up the nursery. Still no pram! Nothing to prepare the milk with ect or baths!!
Defo don't panic now you will just cause yourself unneeded stress. With DD1 I found out I was pregnant at just over 6 months! I had 2 and a half months to prepare! And funnily enough I still didn't panic too much.. I collected the keys to my house on the Friday and gave birth on the Tuesday.. I left it all very last min! As long as by the time baby arrives you have enough to bring them home in and a place for them to sleep you have enough 😊 X
I'm 36 weeks and woefully unprepared, have yet to pack hospital bag, decorate nursery etc. But if it makes you feel better then prep away. The armchair psychologist in me would wonder if you were anxious about something else?
Hmm I'm not sure if I am anxious about something else or not.. interesting idea tho.
When it happens it's a flash of panic and usually over in about 10 mins.
I am an organiser and like to be prepared ages in advance for most things (e.g. I started packing 2 or 3 months before moving house!) so I wonder if it's just me!
I really couldn't wait to be far along to buy stuff... but 26 weeks now and have bought hardly anything as just seems too soon. However I did a big list on the computer with some links to stuff online so in 2-4 weeks I'll get spending! That helped me relax that I knew what I wanted
It's tricky because you think you have ages and then all of a sudden you only have a few weeks to go and you're too tired to do anything lol.
There is an overwhelming choice of baby equipment though so I'd say it's never too early to write lists and do some research.
I would try not to worry too much (easier said than done) Im 28 weeks & have only jst bought my pram. I dont like the idea of buying anythin until 2nd scan anyway but maybe buy little bits each week
I'm like you OP, I'm 26 weeks along and I lie awake at night thinking of all the things I need - not just directly baby related but things to improve my home/ make life easier for when baby comes. I think it's normal and it's ok. I almost enjoy it.
Google 'only essential things you need for a newborn' and there are lots of sensible lists made by people offering good advice with hindsight, to help prevent you getting carried away.
And go and buy some nice little baby clothes! It may seem too early but it's an extremely pleasant activity in my opinion. And you'll only need more and more.
I'm 27 weeks and all I have left is decorating the nursery. However I'm endlessly on eBay, gumtree, Facebook trying to search for the perfect item that doesn't appear to exist.
I've spent most of this week in tears; MIL visited this weekend and criticised everything from the cot to the changing table to the fact I'm not getting a fold down bed for her to sleep on, rather a nursing/rocking chair instead. Then Mum visited today and moaned endlessly that I'm not having a wardrobe, but painting some draws instead. I just burst into tears and told her to leave. Hormones - definitely! But where do politeness vanish to when someone is pregnant??
Don't worry OP. I wake in the night panicking that I don't have enough binkies, or socks, or blankets. It's part of the "fun"
Also I agree with the other posters, google or Pinterest for things you need for a newborn. When I was pregnant, I made a list of things to "spend or save" on. We have bought everything nearly new, with the exception of the crib. My parents went to buy a car seat from mamas and papas the other day for "occasional use" and Dad was horrified at one for £799!!!!! Also I'm thinking about questioning where they are planning on taking Baby Bicky....
I had many many moments of "omg I don't know if I can do this/what if we're not ready/we can't afford a baby" lying in bed at night in the early stages, it passed gradually. I wouldn't let myself buy anything until after my first scan, and until the second scan i had only bought a couple of outfits. Just slowly starting to gather bits together now at 32 weeks. I've got lists and I'm slowly ticking things off eg bits for hospital bag, bits for labour, things for the nursery. Maybe writing things down that you think you need whilst you're having a moment of panic wold help? Hope it eases soon!
I'd definitely set up a spreadsheet or baby wish list on Amazon, and add anything you like. I'm now starting to buy things off the list bit by bit when I see a bargain- got a chicco next to me in the exact colour I wanted in a local selling group and just bought a grobag in the clearance bit of TK maxx. I like to plan and bargain hunt but the list gives me a good sense check of what DH and I agreed we want rather than impulse purchases!
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