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Overdue, I can't due this anymore

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Bluebellevergreen Mon 20-Feb-17 13:48:29

Already a week overdue. I can't possibly put into words how I am feeling.
Had an argument with DH (my fault) because I am a fucking nightmate to be around.
I am building so much resentment towards this baby it is unreal.

I didnt want to be induced but I feel that this baby will never come or I will lose the plot completely by then.

I feel so mad at my body and the baby for putting me through this.

I am so angry you wouldnt believe it!

I just want him out of my body NOW

Oysterbabe Mon 20-Feb-17 14:00:43

You have a week left max. Just keep swimming flowers

fruityb Mon 20-Feb-17 14:09:07

You will get there!! And you'll forget all of it when they're here. flowers I sobbed my eyes out at a day overdue in the downstairs loo wondering how I could keep going! DS was born four days later and every awful bit was forgotten.

You have a week left maximum - hang in there xxx

AreWeThereYet000 Mon 20-Feb-17 14:09:11

I'm due today and nothing! So although not over as such like yourself I feel your frustration! I'm also horrible and snappy as I just want the baby out, I went early with my first so as daft as it sounds I do feel overdue.... and don't get me started on the any baby yet? Texts arghhhhh! flowers for you xx

Bluebellevergreen Mon 20-Feb-17 14:12:05

I have been fighting antenatal depression for a few months so it was crucial for me not to go overdue, now I have touched rock bottom.
I can't deal with another week of this. I can't explain how bad I feel.

GummyGoddess Mon 20-Feb-17 14:15:33

Call your midwife and explain how you're feeling? They might give you a sweep or at least talk to you about it.

FenellaMaxwellsPony Mon 20-Feb-17 14:20:01

Overdue here too and going MAD now. I can't take it anymore either!

Bluebellevergreen Mon 20-Feb-17 14:23:07

Sweep booked for Thursday but she already said that it wont work, my body is not even close to being ready
Fenella!!! How far are you now? I think worse than me. I had to update my username, I am the artist previously known as Evergreen.

Sunnie1984 Mon 20-Feb-17 14:28:42

Can you ask to be induced early?

Sorry you are feeling this way, hopefully it won't be too long now xx

ExpectoPatronummmm Mon 20-Feb-17 15:09:45

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Oysterbabe Mon 20-Feb-17 15:13:37

What a lovely thing to say to someone with depression Expecto
Have some compassion ffs.

Oneiroi Mon 20-Feb-17 15:14:19

Expect, that was a horrible thing to say! Bluebellevergreen said that she is struggling with depression. She doesn't want to feel like this. If you can't be supportive and have nothing to say that isn't spiteful then perhaps you shouldn't comment.

ScarletSienna Mon 20-Feb-17 15:16:19

If it helps build some hope for the sweep-my baby wasn't even engaged half an hour before he was born. Every hour and day more you're closer. Does breaking it into days help? flowers

HumphreyCobblers Mon 20-Feb-17 15:17:44

Bluebellevergreen, ignore Expect who is rude and clueless.

Sorry you are finding it so hard. Your readiness to give birth could change totally at any moment, so don't think it will necessarily be ages away.

Late pg SUCKS. It is totally grim.

Thirtyrock39 Mon 20-Feb-17 15:22:18

I was overdue with all three and I can remember feeling awful those couple of weeks BUT lots of stuff says thT the last couple of weeks do wonders for fetal development and it's always easier if not induced so I'd def say not to be desperate for early induction . Make up with your partner and lots of inducing sex, keep active, plan lots of things to keep you busy

Heatherbell1978 Mon 20-Feb-17 15:32:11

I'm 39 wks with #2 and went a week overdue with DS. If it's any consolation I had 2 sweeps with DS and both times the mw told me I was nowhere near and would probably need induced (which I didn't want ideally). The day after the second sweep he was born. No symptoms whatsoever until contractions started. Good luck!

Bluebellevergreen Mon 20-Feb-17 16:21:12

Wow 😳 Expecto let me give you a trophy for mum of the year and evil person of the month.
I have made an appointment with my GP to accept the antidepressants as obviously my antenatal depression has got worse.
So you never resented your baby, good, I imagine most normal people don't but unfortunately I am not "normal"

And please, never ever say "get a grip" to someone with mental health issues. And FYI I am one of those people that couldn't get pregnant.

Thank you everyone else. I have booked my GP app and gone for a walk in the woods.
It is very hard these days and I am in tears 24/7. Thanks for the support

LittleMum91 Mon 20-Feb-17 16:25:52

I hope everything gets moving quickly for you flowers I was just under two weeks overdue and that was frustrating enough. I couldn't imagine how you're feeling whilst suffering with PN. expecto you sound like an absolute dickhead. If you don't have any kind words just don't bother posting.

Lunalovepud Mon 20-Feb-17 16:28:00

Sancimummy much expecto ?!

Well OP - we can't all be as perfect as Expecto - I'm certainly not because I don't enjoy pregnancy, am not #lovingeverymoment or #soblessed and when I get went over with DC1 I was sobbing in the shower and resenting anyone who already had their baby.

It actually cured my fear of childbirth as I just wanted him out. wink

You're not alone - hang in there... Antenatal depression really sucks and I know that next few days are stretching out in front of you but honesty, it will be soon be over and you will have your lovely baby.

Best of luck and keep well. cake

Chinnychinnychinnychib Mon 20-Feb-17 16:31:43

When I was overdue, I was so cross with the baby that I packed the cot away!! Not quite sure what I thought that would achieve.
More seriously, I was so bloody miserable and I really, really feel for you. What I would say is that in my experience it's when you think you can't go on anymore that the contractions start...

slithytove Mon 20-Feb-17 16:32:30

Hello
Don't worry, this will all be over soon, and your feelings aren't abnormal. There is so much emotion around giving birth and it being a certain way, that when it doesn't happen it is really upsetting.

Firstly, your midwife is possibly talking shite, she cannot say at all on Monday what your body will be like on Thursday.

Secondly, I think due to your depression you could request an induction or section - would that be preferable to waiting? If you would rather wait, then there are things you could do which would help, so you feel like you are taking action iyswim? Things like walking which you are doing, swimming, bouncing on a yoga ball, even reflexology can all help.

You will be fine with your baby once it arrives - maybe even grateful ;)

Bluebellevergreen Mon 20-Feb-17 16:34:21

Chinny I packed the cot yesterday 😳
Luna yes the fear is gone now

Oh thank you everyone, I am feeling a bit better now thanks flowers

Chinnychinnychinnychib Mon 20-Feb-17 16:37:20

OMG!!! Well, I went into labour at 4am the following day so here's hoping!

Bluebellevergreen Mon 20-Feb-17 16:38:22

slithy O started doinb little walks and went swimming 4 times already.
My mental health visitor and midwife were very impressed as I was getting so much better.

Then every morning I wake up to no labour signs :-(

Maybe midwife didnt want to give me false hopes?
She has booked me for induction on Saturday, I didnt want this, I was really hoping to avoid induction (my own reasons/ anxieties etc) but now I am changing my mind and maybe this has triggered everything again.

I am going to make myself a hot drink and see if I can relax a bit

Thank you

Badders123 Mon 20-Feb-17 16:38:28

I didn't have antenatal depression but by the time I was a week overdue with Ds2 I would quite happily have rigged up a rope and pulley system to get him out!!
I had irritable uterus and I was contracting all the time for the last two months of my pg, older child to care for and no sleep.
It was grim.
Take the meds op.
And good luck!

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