Am I going to have a second miscarriage?(4 Posts)
Hi, I had a miscarriage last year in September after trying for a baby for 2 years. I fell pregnant again at the start of this year. I had some bleeding at the weekend so I went for a scan on Tuesday, at the scan me and my partner saw our baby and its little heart was beating, but the lady said that it was beating slow (she even checked my pulse to see if she was just picking up mine. I think) My periods have been out since my miscarriage, but I keep track of everything and I thought I was 7weeks, but she said the baby's wasn't measuring up to 7weeks. They booked me for a scan for two weeks after. The way they were talking it didn't sound good and they said they can't rule out another miscarriage. I have read some stories from other women who say they had their dates out by 10 days or more, so in some ways that gave me hope and made me think maybe my baby is only 5-6 weeks, but I will just have to see from the next scan.
When the bleeding started it was only like red once a day, in the morning and then just went to brown and that was for about 3-4 days, there wasn't much blood but it was red and I had a lot of brown discharge. (Sorry tmi) I haven't had blood for the last 2 days, which I'm hoping is a good sign, but I have been feeling very very ill, lots of bad headaches, feeling sick, bellyaches and just really feeling unwell. Even having to force myself to eat because I know it will help the baby. I still have sore breast and tiredness, so I don't think my pregnancy symptoms have stopped.
Is my body working over time to help my baby or is this the start of a miscarriage? Could I have my dates wrong and my baby be a week or so behind what I thought and can my baby's heart start beating faster or am I going to miscarry?
I can't find anything online that can answer the question of my baby being to small and a slow heart beat and me feeling very very ill.
I have lost hope and I have even just started waiting for the miscarriage to happen, instead of being positive.
I hope some of you can help me and tell me some of your stories. Thank you for reading, sorry it was so long.
Didn't want to read and run. I'm sorry. It there's no way to know but there is still hope. I'd recommend getting as much rest as you can not to 'prevent' MC which is totally out with your control but just to give yourself space. Good luck
Sorry I can't offer any advice re miscarriage - your symptoms making you feel ill sound pretty much the same as how I was feeling at 7 weeks so try to stay optimistic, I am now 14 weeks. I know people who have had bleeds and then gone on to have a healthy pregnancy but I'm afraid you are just going to have to wait to see what happens. Take the bleeding stopping as a good sign for now and just keep an eye out for anymore but try not to expect it. Are you going back for another scan to check on the heartbeat again? I'm sorry the doctors can't give you the answers you want to hear (trust me I know how frustrating it is when you just want to be told all is fine) but you have to understand that they can't because not all bleeds lead to miscarriage but some do so they like you have to wait to find out what happens.
I know it must be an incredibly tough place mentally to be right now, naturally miscarriage is going to be your one biggest fear right now with it having happened before. I know it is easier for anyone to say this than for the person in the situation, but please try to stay positive, as I have had to learn pregnancy is something you have no control over. The past 14 weeks for me have involved a lot of worrying about things that could be wrong when it turned out nothing was wrong. All I can advise for getting through times of worry and upset during pregnancy is distract yourself as much as you can to try and put your worries to the back of your mind, and sometimes happy music helped lift my mood, and try to keep away from google, I found it did little to help, while forums like this offered me much more hope and optimism.
As for size at your stage - I was told at 6+2 weeks my twins were below the size they should have been for 6 weeks and were around half a millimetre behind with growth for my dates, I was slightly concerned being told my dates were wrong and that they weren't the right size but was reassured by the nurse they still had loads of time to catch up. I was expecting more of the same at my 12 week scan but the bigger twin was bang on the right size it should have been for 12 weeks so they made up for it in those short 6 weeks where they made me so very ill.
Keep your chin up, please talk to someone if you are feeling down and if you have a friend that can offer you some distraction or cheer you up contact them, you might not feel like you want to but it can make you feel a whole lot better and help take your mind off things.
Thank you so much for both of your replies. I have another scan in a weeks time. Everything you have both said have given me more of a positive look on the situation.
I spend most of my time in bed or on the sofa. I've been given two weeks off work by my doctor, so I get to rest as much as I can.
Unfortunately I had some more blood today and such a painful stomachache last night. Everyday I just worry is this the day I'm going to lose my baby.
Thanks again for replying. I've just got to keep my fingers crossed.
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