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Desperate for another baby.

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leh92 Mon 13-Feb-17 18:02:13

Me and my husband are so desperate for another baby. Only problem is after my first I I gained a lot of weight 🙁 so at the moment I am unable to conceive. I have tried so hard to lose this unwanted weight, I walk around 5 miles a day and watch what I eat and just can't shift it. I have PCOS also but the doctor said it won't affect me not being able to lose it.
I don't know what to do!

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:03:18

What do you eat in an average day? Do you have a food diary you can share with us?

It's quite likely you're eating more than you think you are.

leh92 Mon 13-Feb-17 18:07:26

I don't have a food diary but in the morning I have a cup of tea then after the school run have a piece of fruit for my breakfast or some toast. Lunch I normally have a soup and then a normal dinner

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:09:53

When you say normal dinner what do you mean?

You need to start tracking your calories so you can find out what you're actually taking in. My fitness pal is a great start.

In general lots of healthy protein (chicken, eggs etc), LOADS of veg (less fruit), healthy and small small portions of carbs, even good ones like brown bread etc.

leh92 Mon 13-Feb-17 18:12:58

Normally grilled chicken, rice, vegetables etc. I always watch my portion sizes.
I have lost nearly 2 stone but just can't seem to shift anymore. I won't be giving up, just feel like I'm going wrong somewhere

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:13:10

So for e.g.

Breakfast: Poached egg and avocado, or porridge. Something that fills you up.

Lunch: salad with protein (so tuna, chicken or egg salad for example)

Dinner: Piece of grilled or steamed meat with a large portion of veg and perhaps a very small portion of carbs but in general I'd try to stay away from too many starchy carbs of an evening

Drink LOADS of water. At least 2 litres of water a day and probably more if you're really overweight.

Snacks should be things like veggie sticks, nuts (plain nuts, small portions only), hard boiled eggs...

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:13:56

If you've hit a plateau you could try low carb high fat, that's always worked fantastically for me. Or 5:2, where you fast for 2 days per week.

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:14:38

Also how big are your portions?

toffeeboffin Mon 13-Feb-17 18:17:20

You need to use MFP.
You're obviously eating too much, otherwise you'd lose weight.

What height and weight are you? MFP will calculate how many cals you need to lose or maintain.

Make sure you weigh and measure portions too : they are surprisingly small, especially pasta and cereal for example.

leh92 Mon 13-Feb-17 18:18:22

Will give it a try! My portions are no bigger than a lunch plate. I feel that if I use a smaller plate then it fills me up more!
I am constantly drinking water and make sure to have a glass before each meal

leh92 Mon 13-Feb-17 18:19:16

I'm 5ft 7 and currently weigh 19st 11lbs 🙁

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:19:33

Well something is obviously not clicking or you'd be losing. You need to track your calories.

There is no magic fix for weight loss unfortunately (as I've learned!!) - you need a calorie deficit.

Hatemylifenow Mon 13-Feb-17 18:19:52

And I agree - you must weigh everything.

MiniMaxi Mon 13-Feb-17 18:23:20

Have you had your thyroid levels checked? Under active thyroid can mean it's really easy to gain weight and really hard to lose. Ask your GP. Good luck flowers

MiniMaxi Mon 13-Feb-17 18:23:59

PS it's nothing to worry about if they do find it's not working properly, you just take a pill every day.

leh92 Mon 13-Feb-17 18:26:47

Have just downloaded the my fitness pal app and will track everything I eat! It says to walk about 10,000 steps a day which I do plus more for the school run etc.

I haven't had it checked out but will make an apt with the doctor to see if I can get tested for it smile

Blondeshavemorefun Mon 13-Feb-17 19:23:54

Maybe you aren't eating enough so body thinks is starving and retains weight

Try sw

And well done for 2st you have lost

LH92 Mon 13-Feb-17 19:57:17

Will give anything a try if it works, so will look into it!
Thank you!

gigi556 Mon 13-Feb-17 20:51:07

I agree with the last poster. You do need to watch what you eat, but if you are eating healthy then you may be eating too little. It's isn't as straight forward as calories in and out especially if you have a hormone imbalance like PCOS. Try something different to get past your plateau like low carb. Taking on some additional exercise should help too. Good luck!

Obsessedalready Mon 13-Feb-17 20:55:27

Have you seen the programme secret eaters on channel 4.

Honestly it's worth a watch if you feel you can't loose weight and are eating healthily.

Lunalovepud Tue 14-Feb-17 10:29:31

OP I recommend slimming world - no weighing food etc and I lost 2.5 stone in 3 months using all of my syns. It's ace. Good luck.

Lunalovepud Tue 14-Feb-17 10:30:49

Plus get a cheap pedometer... Really helped my motivation.

Hollyhop17 Tue 14-Feb-17 10:39:10

I would third slimming world, wish I had used it before my wedding. I lost 9 pounds in about 2 months, so not massive but I was losing each week, I never gained and never felt really hungry. Good luck.

jpclarke Tue 14-Feb-17 10:51:03

It sounds like you are not eating enough, you needs 3 meals and 2 healthy snacks a day. Your body is going into starvation mode and storing everything you are eating. Another trick is to eat slowly, let's your brain think you are fuller faster. Plenty of water, apple cider vinegar in the morning. Meals should consist of 1/4 protein, 1/4 carbs and half plate of veg. Be careful about what fruit you are eating too, some are full of sugar.

Hatemylifenow Tue 14-Feb-17 11:01:16

The starvation mode theory really doesn't hold water long term, else anorexics would never lose any weight.

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