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Pregnant after miscarriage

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Ohwhatbliss Wed 08-Feb-17 12:19:14

I think I'm 4 weeks pregnant after a missed miscarriage in November. Struggling with how I'm feeling and I'm sure there must be a thread somewhere on here with others sadly in the same boat. Can anyone please point me in the right direction or tell me why when I should be delighted I feel nothing?

ExpectoPatronummmm Wed 08-Feb-17 12:33:04

Hi. I had a MC in May at 8 weeks.
I am now 34 weeks pregnant.
I've not been able to enjoy the pregnancy due to worrying something will happen again. It seems there are a lot of people in the same boat.
Good luck for your pregnancy xx

Helbelle75 Wed 08-Feb-17 12:39:42

Same as Expecto - mmc in May last year, now 31 weeks pregnant again.
I am over the moon to be expecting again, but it has been difficult, particularly around our first little one's due date and I have been anxious throughout this pregnancy and won't be able to relax until I'm holding baby in my arms.
There is a miscarriage and loss board on here, and also a thread on pregnancy after miscarriage which has lots of support on it.
It's hearbreaking that there are so many of us.
Congratulations on the pregnancy

Helbelle75 Wed 08-Feb-17 12:47:36

NYCBadger Wed 08-Feb-17 21:50:54

Hi, I had a mmc in November and am pregnant again. The only symptom I have is backache and I think I'm going to mc again. I feel so crap and frustrated. My dh and I have been ttc #1 for 4 years and now all this. I hope I'm wrong about this pregnancy but I just don't feel pregnant :-/

Smurf123 Wed 08-Feb-17 22:05:10

Hi ohwhatbliss I had a mmc in August and think I might be somewhere around 4 weeks pregnant also... the waiting is killing me.. I keep thinking it'll be a miscarriage again and I really want to hope it's all positive but scared it will go wrong again.

MrsDustyBusty Wed 08-Feb-17 22:09:09

I had a miscarriage in August nearly two years ago. By the end of September, I was pregnant again. It was confusing but I guess you just get on with things, there's no choice.

She's snoring her little head off right now so the past does not necessarily predict the future.

Ohwhatbliss Thu 09-Feb-17 00:23:47

Thanks for all the replies. I'm sorry for all your losses, and for those of you pregnant again will be keeping everything crossed for happy outcomes. Smurf, I think I darent believe I'm pregnant again so Im almost pretending it's not happening. It took us two years to fall pregnant with my son, I was delighted when I got pregnant easily in November only to miscarry, and then to get pregnant again now. All I feel is impending doom like I'm waiting for the scan at 7 weeks to tell me there's no heartbeat. If this baby makes it it will be my last pregnancy so I want to enjoy it but I can't. I'm also testing constantly and I'm worried the line isn't strong enough despite getting positives on digitals

Ohwhatbliss Thu 09-Feb-17 00:27:14

NYC I will say to you what I need to believe myself - stay positive, today you are pregnant and try to enjoy that but I'm so with you, it's really hard. I'm incredibly blessed that I have my son (and I know that, he was hard won too) but because I love him so much I would love a sibling for him and another baby to compete our family.

Ohwhatbliss Thu 09-Feb-17 00:28:53

Oh, and i didn't feel pregnant with my son until 6/7 weeks so don't read anything into that. I'm grasping onto the fact that I'm feeling pretty queasy

Smurf123 Thu 09-Feb-17 07:29:32

All I feel is impending doom like I'm waiting for the scan at 7 weeks to tell me there's no heartbeat.
Yes this is exactly how I feel also! It makes it really difficult because generally in a glass half full kinda person and I want to look to the positive side of this but finding it hard . My husband found it hard last time and he's telling me not to get my hopes up. He saw how upset I was and I think he thinks of be pretends is not happening then I won't get upset this time If it isn't good news.
Do the lines actually get darker? I've only used clear blue digital... That tells you the dates and I'm obsessing over how long I have to wait to do the next one to see if the weeks count has gone up.... And they are expensive tests!!!
I can tell if I have any pregnancy signs or not. Again sometimes I think I do and then I think well these could be for loads reasons.. My bra definitely feels tight/ annoying by the end of the day.. Sometimes I feel a little quesy but then I think it be because I'm Overthinking about this all. Im tired but I'm a teacher in a special needs school so that could explain it.. Although the fact that you didn't really have any signs with your son until 6/7 weeks is reassuring.. Maybe it's just too early...

Ohwhatbliss Thu 09-Feb-17 11:31:44

My Clearblue tonight has moved on to 2-3 which I was delighted about, for about 10 minutes, before I reminded myself that the missed miscarriage didn't happen until baby was 5 weeks so it means nothingsad I'm also generally a positive person, but I can't snap out of this negative thinking. It MUST be a self protection mechanism mustn't it?

Smurf, are you having an early scan? I don't even want to make the call to book it in tbh, head in the sand

Smurf123 Thu 09-Feb-17 12:36:58

I am, but only because I'd been at docs with irregular bleeding in the past few weeks (didn't know I was pregnant) there test said I was so she sent me for a scan to see what was going on. Had one last Friday but all the hospital could say was that it looks like a very very early pregnancy is there and they want to see me again in two weeks. Clear blue test had me at 2-3 weeks on Sunday and I have another one I was hoping to take this Sunday to see if it is going up.. Finding it difficult to wait and not know...

Floppypotato Thu 09-Feb-17 12:42:00

I had a MMC in September this year. I was technically 11 weeks but baby had stopped growing/no heartbeat at 7.5 weeks.

I'm now 21 weeks pregnant! I didn't have a period between MMC (had a d&c) and finding out I was pregnant again. Because I didn't have a period I didn't realise anything was happening as it were until I was 6 ish weeks and found myself chucking up for several mornings on the bounce! At that point I did a test - and was absolutely shocked to see it was positive.

I think as other posters have said...The worry is always there with each week, scan or milestone but nature is persistent. Have faith if you can in your body and there is far more chance than not that everything will be just fine smile

Ohwhatbliss Sun 12-Feb-17 02:33:24

Cramps and a little blood today, exactly what happened last time and at the same time. I know people will say, it's not necessarily bad etc, but I feel in my heart of hearts we are going to lose another baby. Struggling to cope and just keep going today tbh

ChocolateChipMuffin2016 Sun 12-Feb-17 16:10:53

I had a misscarrage dec 2015, November 2016 I gave birth to my perfect little ds! I didn't enjoy a lot of the pregnancy, as I was always convinced something would go wrong. I even bled with him at around 10 weeks and was gutted, thinking that I was misscarrying again, but he's a smiley 12 week old now so it can end well.

I really hope it's nothing and it'll be ok, but get yourself to the doctors tomorrow if you can as they should book you a reassurance scan. They did for me.

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