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Ectopic pregnancy...gutted

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Badgertastic · 07/02/2017 00:19

We found out today I've got an ectopic pregnancy. I had a chemical miscarriage in November and was so excited to be pregnant this time. I'm 8 weeks pregnant today. I'm gutted. We have got to go back tomorrow morning to get the methodextrate injection. I'm scared and sad. I've read a bit about what to expect but in real terms have no idea. Has anyone else been through this?

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passthewineplz · 07/02/2017 00:28

Sorry that your going through this. I had something similar.

They give you methotrexate to end the pregnancy, and will monitor your HCG levels until they go back to normal, as it can take a few weeks for the levels to drop.

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0Gusgus · 07/02/2017 00:38

I had an ectopic pregnancy two years ago at 7 weeks. We tried for two years and were so excited. I was given the news and like you sent home to come back the next morning for methotrexate. Getting the injection was quite procedural - we were at the hospital only 20mins but psychologically it was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. My heart is breaking for you because I've been there and know just how devastating it is. My advice, take each day as it comes, accept any help and support from those close to you and allow yourself as much time as you need to grieve. The ectopic pregnancy trust is a good source of support and information. I'm here if you have any questions or want to talk.

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Badgertastic · 07/02/2017 01:03

I can't stop crying and I feel like I've got no chance of sleeping. They spoke about it today like it is an everyday occurance. To them it probably is, but to us, it felt like our world crumbled under our feet. Part of me just wants it over. I want 8am to be here, but another part is gutted I'm soon not going to be pregnant anymore. Thanks for your replies. It does help to know others have been here.

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JC23 · 07/02/2017 01:14

So sorry you're going through this OP.
I'm being treated for an ectopic pregnancy at the moment, I had a shot of methotrexate on 20th January.
It hasn't been as much as an awful experience for me as I wasn't TTC and didn't know I was pregnant.
The methotrexate injection has made me feel tired and I've been getting a lot of indigestion. I've had some really awful abdominal pain and also lightheadedness. The pain started a week and a half after the injection and comes and goes. The bleeding has been pretty steady and not too heavy.
My hcg levels were 6000 originally, went up to 7500 on day 4 and back down to 6000 by day 7. On day 11 they were down to 2500 and now down to 400. So I know it's working. But there is still a risk of rupture so pain is always scary.
Do you know your HCG levels?

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Badgertastic · 07/02/2017 01:27

Today's levels were just over 3000. They were not increasing quickly enough and that combined with bleeding and pain over the past few weeks meant they were investigating. I had hoped it was normal pregnancy bleeding and when they scanned last week and couldn't see anything I hoped byond hope that I was just not as pregnant as they thought.

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Badgertastic · 07/02/2017 01:32

jc23 I'm so sorry you are going through this at the moment. If I knew how to do flowers I would pop some on (flowers) Are you working or has it not been possible? The whole rupture thing really worries me. I'm lying here now with the pain, thinking please don't burst! And that is just overnight. How am I going to get past that anxiety over the next few weeks?

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Caterina99 · 07/02/2017 01:32

I had an ectopic treated with methotrexate in October. The actual physical side of it was ok. Felt mildly sick that day and got a mouth ulcer later that week. I only had one injection and my hcg levels dropped to zero in about a month. My period returned very soon after that. It's a horrible experience so look after yourself!

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Cathelpplease · 07/02/2017 01:52

Hugs

I had an ectopic and lost my right tube. I remember the hospital making me feel like it was nothing, oh it happens everyday. It's one of the overriding memories tbh.

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JC23 · 07/02/2017 02:42

Badgertastic
At least with your levels being quite low you have an excellent chance of the methotrexate working so you won't need surgery.
The weeks of worry is probably the worst thing about this treatment.
I've found it reassuring to check my heart rate when I am in pain because a rupture would be accompanied by a racing pulse. If you feel worried go to hospital but be prepared to be admitted for monitoring.
I've been in and out of work. I've had quite a few days off and working from home days. Planning to go back to the office tomorrow for the first time in a week.
Sorry again for your loss

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quicknamechangeofshame · 07/02/2017 03:01

No words will help but I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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InTheDessert · 07/02/2017 04:15

I'm so sorry for each of you suffering at the moment, and for those grieving about the past.
I found the information and ladies at the ectopic pregnancy trust really helpful.

Also, to give you hope, I have just sent my two boys, concieved with just one tube, off to school (I'm no longer in the UK). It will be devistating at the moment, but it does not need to be the end.

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Twittery · 07/02/2017 09:45

What a sad thread - I hope it goes as well as it can

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Sbs6jb1 · 07/02/2017 10:36

Hello OP

for you.

I had an EP last August treated with 2 doses of MTX. We weren't actively trying to conceive at the time but I know how much of a heartbreak and a dragged out process it is.

FWIW, i found that with both of my doses, about 2-3 days after, I would experience agonising pain for about a day so just be wary that you may need to take a day or two off work.

I'm now pregnant again and it's been confirm that it's NOT ectopic. Not out of the woods yet, but first hurdle jumped anyway!

Take care of yourself. The boards over at the Ectopic Trust site are fab, too.

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MrsMarigold · 07/02/2017 10:45

I had a miscarriage a few years ago followed by a ruptured ectopic a little later, had the right tube removed and part of the ovary as apparently there was a massive cyst. I had no MTX (I gather it isn't advisable to get pregnant for a few months afterwards), and got pregnant six weeks after the ectopic, I now have two wonderful healthy children. Fingers crossed for you OP, just let your body recover.