I'm sorry if this isn't in the right place and if it's a bit jumbled but I'm trying to get my head around this.
1 had my dating scan yesterday they moved my due date saying I was a bit further along as baby is big for my lmp I know I can't have conceived earlier then that as I hadn't slept with anyone. So really baby is big. I opted in for combined screening as I'm 35 but this is not my first pregnancy. Everything was going really well until she measured the nuchal fluid at the back of baby's head and neck. Baby is outside the normal range of 3.5mm and is 3.7mm. I have had a blood test and getting the results Wednesday and have been told I will need more scans until 30 weeks and they want me to have an amniocentesis.
Baby's dad says I have to have it and I'm not allowed to talk to anyone about this yet.
I'm scared and feel really alone, I know I am not the first person to go through this but I have so many questions going through my head. He has made it clear of anything comes up he wants me to have a termination but he hasn't said the actual words but says things like we have enough going on at the moment but I don't want to think of things like that yet.
I'm scared of the amniocentesis as I bled badly at the start of this pregnancy to the point they thought I had lost the baby and I have had a previous mc and in my previous pregnancy I lost 1 twin. I don't know if this means there's a bigger risk of mc with having an amniocentesis now.
I know at the moment nothing is for definite but I also know what it could possibly mean for us as a family and the baby and trying to prepare for that but baby's dad and the midwife all seem to be focusing on the the worst case and I need to know there is some hope that things could be ok.
I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense I'm trying really hard not to cry and keep things together for my other dcs they don't know about the fluid but know about the pregnancy as it was hard to keep from them due to the big bump and how sick and tired I have been for past few weeks.
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Lostmyemailaddress · 21/01/2017 10:40
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