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Am I too old

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Bomy1 Mon 16-Jan-17 22:03:18

Am I too old to have another baby I have 2 ds 16 and 14 and a ds 10, I have been feeling very broody for the last couple of months but I am scared to go ahead because of my age, what do ye think any advise or opinions smile

waitingimpatient Mon 16-Jan-17 22:04:20

How old are you ?

Zampa Mon 16-Jan-17 22:04:29

How old are you?!

JournosAreLazy Mon 16-Jan-17 22:04:41

What age are you?

Bomy1 Mon 16-Jan-17 22:44:05

Sorry 😕 I'm 42 and will be 43 in Nov

GreedyDuck Tue 17-Jan-17 10:01:45

Well I had my first at 40 and am trying to conceive again at 42. I'm one mmc down so far.

So no, you're not too old, but personally I think you'd be mad to go back to sleepless nights, childcare costs, and nappies after a ten year break.

If you did conceive, and it went ok, would you then feel bad that your youngest would be unlikely to have any siblings near to them in age (unless you fancied doing it again at 45). Your other kids will be leaving home soon enough and the youngest will be more like an only child.

My mum had a 16 & 17 year age gap between me and my half sister and brother, and although I get on ok with my brother (my sister resented me from the word go) I wouldn't say it was the same sibling relationship as if we'd grown up together. I felt very out on my own.

Blondeshavemorefun Tue 17-Jan-17 10:16:30

I'm 43 tho first baby via 5 ivf

Df will be 50 when bubs is born and he has kids 24 26 28

Go for it

eastcoastmum2014 Tue 17-Jan-17 13:12:57

Do what is right in your heart. Other peoples opinions don't matter flowers

Ilovecaindingle Tue 17-Jan-17 13:18:41

I had ds at 43. Been ttc again at 45 but think my luck has ran out. ...

SeashellHoarder Tue 17-Jan-17 14:06:38

If you want to, go for it!

You've done it all before, it's like falling off a bike! The NHS advice changes, but baby's have always been the same.

Also, you've done this before, you know what your letting yourself in for.

Bomy1 Tue 17-Jan-17 14:40:27

I so want another baby my dh is keen also I spose I worry about the health of the baby considering my age but yes my heart is telling me do it

GTS Tue 17-Jan-17 18:29:28

39 and pregnant with third (unplanned!) baby. Ten year gap between baby and youngest DD. Husband will be 56 this year.
If you want one, go for it.

Summerisdone Tue 17-Jan-17 19:10:25

I was 17 when DM had my youngest sister and I've a sister 6 years younger and twin sisters 13 years younger. DM always says she has enjoyed parenting more with the younger Ines because she was young having me so constantly felt she was so busy trying to prove the doubters wrong that she didn't actually stop to just enjoy it. Also she feels she is much more relaxed with the younger Ines and doesn't getting stressed out as much (I can vouch for that, much less stricter with sisters grin)
I have an amazing relationship with my younger sisters also, which DM originally worried about because of large age difference, also you've got ready built in babysitters haha.

EllenWooding Tue 24-Jan-17 14:33:20

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LondonGirl83 Tue 24-Jan-17 19:35:58

No your aren't too old. Also, a ten year age gap doesn't mean the kids won't be close. My husband is 10 and 12 years older than his younger siblings and is very close to them (they aren't half siblings though but full). He speaks to them via whatsapp constantly and they see each other every couple of weeks sometimes more often. I know siblings who are the same age and can't stand each other so its really sods law. I would just do what you want as the sibling thing is pot luck anyway.

Bomy1 Thu 26-Jan-17 21:12:10

Thanks all, I am so torn I do t know what to do for the best I really want to have another baby but I am afraid of the risks

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