Getting annoyed with my partners Mum, am I being unreasonable?

[gldavis447]

Hi all, just wanted a bit of advice really and everyone's opinion too because right now I actually feel like I'm going to scream. I am due any day now but for the last 2-3 weeks on and off all I have done is be sick, have an upset tummy, severe braxton hicks and just generally feel worn out and uncomfortable. I didnt see my partners family all over christmas because I was ill, I saw his parents for about half an hour last week (this was a good day) but thats been it. At the moment all I want to do is concentrate on having our baby and getting some rest (its been really tough to say the least ).
My partners Mum has always been very pushy, ive never had a close relationship with her because I dont like the way she is so I suppose in a way I do try to avoid her. Anyway because I havent been over to see them she has started to become quite shitty bearing in mind I have text her and sent her a lengthy message on how poorly I have been. My partner has told her also. I try to understand that she likes to see us and that its probably because I never see her hardly but its getting to a stage where I feel like I have to try and please her all the time just to keep the peace, I also feel that she just doesnt understand at all either. Am I being selfish for just wanting my own privacy when i'm ill and what can I do to deal with how I feel towards her? Help!

[arbrighton]

Partner needs to tell her you are really not feeling well and need some space

[Bethany0903]

Sounds just like my partners mum she is so over the top on everything and controlling! Forever waiting until she's alone with my partner to tell him we have to do this and that for the baby and we can't do certain stuff baring in mine we have a 3 year old already together! Last week it took my partner to snap at her for her to just back off and that was only because I got taken to hospital! I don't think your been selfish at all! In laws can be too much sometimes

[gldavis447]

Its tough isnt it. Do you see your in laws much or are you like me and try to avoid it? I dont think it helps because of everything that has happened already with ours, she has said some pretty horrible comments to me about our relationship and she is one of those where no matter what you do or say its never good enough. Just not my type of person at all.

[Bethany0903]

Oh I avoid her as much as I can I hate going up! Just sounds like my mother in law she's said some horrible stuff about me before it's just things you can't forget sometimes, she's always right no matter what! Her way or no way! Just don't understand why they can't just take a step back and keep there unwanted opinions to themselves.

[gldavis447]

Yeah you are so right, you can't forget and no matter how hard you try to something else happens and it digs even deeper. I dont trust her either which is a big thing for me, she constantly slags off her other son and his wife and the fact she never sees her granddaughter, also how they mollycoddle her and follow her around all the time. She is 2! I feel like saying she is their child not yours, theirs nothing wrong with being a protective parent! This day and age you need to be! Just makes me think she probably does the same about us and shes gonna do nothing but criticise when our daughter comes along. What should be our time im dreading!