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Whos my unborn baby's father?

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user1483558208 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:33:20

Need help working out who my unborn baby's dad is? My lmp was 23/11/16. I had sex with guy #1 on the 3/12/16 & 9/12/16, he didn't ejaculate inside of me. I had sex with guy #2 on 4/12/16 and the next few days, he ejaculated in me every time we had sex. I probably ovulated on the 7th/8th. who could be my child's father?

user1481490957 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:34:57

Technically either but more likely to be guy 2 as he actually ejaculated.

MooPointCowsOpinion Tue 10-Jan-17 18:36:26

Either. Sperm lasts approx 5 days so either man's sperm could have fertilised the egg. Chances are it's bloke #2, but bloke #1 could have released some sperm before he ejaculated.

You can only be sure by how the baby looks when s/he is born or, more realistically, a paternity test.

Best to be honest to all involved, ask for 9 months to yourself, and decide if you would like to raise the baby single, or, try to make a go of it with either of the men.

eurochick Tue 10-Jan-17 18:38:11

More likely guy 2 but could be either.

walkersoutandabout Tue 10-Jan-17 18:38:11

Probably man number 2.

kilmuir Tue 10-Jan-17 18:39:26

Sure it was only the 2 you had unprotected sex with????

NapQueen Tue 10-Jan-17 18:41:21

The most likely answer is the one that ejaculated inside you. However if the first didn't wear a condom regardless then they could too.

MooPointCowsOpinion Tue 10-Jan-17 18:41:58

kilmuir pulling out is not a form of contraception. Pre-cum contains sperm and can leak out at any point during sex.

TheTantrumCometh Tue 10-Jan-17 18:47:40

It could be either based on pre-cum and the length of time sperm is believed to be still 'alive' within the body.

If you decide to proceed with the pregnancy you need to be upfront with both men about the possibility of them not being the father. It's not fair on anyone otherwise.

user1483558208 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:49:42

Guy #1 didn't ejaculate at all.

user1483558208 Tue 10-Jan-17 18:52:43

Is there any way to find out who the father is before the baby is born? I'm due August 30th

NapQueen Tue 10-Jan-17 18:52:59

But did he wear a condom?

NapQueen Tue 10-Jan-17 18:53:16

No.

PatriciaHolm Tue 10-Jan-17 18:54:56

There's no way to find out without using their DNA as well and pre-natal tests are invasive and risky.

PastysPrincess Tue 10-Jan-17 18:58:02

How do you know when you ovulated? Were you using ovulation sticks; have you been tracking your temperature and logging your periods etc? If not it's very difficult to predict exactly when you would have ovulated so if there were other guys you slept with around the same time they could be in the running too.

user1483558208 Tue 10-Jan-17 19:05:41

It was just the two guys and yes I know when I ovulated I know my body very well and keep track as me and my partner were trying for a baby.

NapQueen Tue 10-Jan-17 19:10:17

Your poor partner sad

user1483558208 Tue 10-Jan-17 19:15:40

People can judge all they want. I came on here to ask a question not for people to slate me. I had my reasons.

Gazelda Tue 10-Jan-17 19:18:30

It is probably #2. vut you won't know until/unless you do a DNA test.
What are you going to tell your partner? Have you told him you're pregnant?

HelenDenver Tue 10-Jan-17 19:25:39

Ah, OP. What a difficult situation.

Most likely the one who ejaculated, but they are too close together to be at all sure.

HelenDenver Tue 10-Jan-17 19:27:23

Risks here, as an example, you'd also need blood from the father

www.thelondonultrasoundcentre.co.uk/prenatal-paternity-testing-babys-father/

Waiting until after birth less risky

Christmasbaby16 Tue 10-Jan-17 19:27:44

Maybe do the decent think and get a DNA test rather than relying on mumsnet for the answer to your predicament....hmm

BoneyBackJefferson Tue 10-Jan-17 19:28:54

HelenDenver
Ah, OP. What a difficult situation.

All caused by the OP

user1483558208

A DNA test would be the only way, and I hope that you will be telling your partner that he is not the father.

TheNaze73 Tue 10-Jan-17 19:29:39

It could be either, just because #1 didn't blow his beans, it doesn't mean that he isn't the father.

NapQueen Tue 10-Jan-17 19:30:46

Empathising with your partner isn't slating you.

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