Elective C section after traumatic birth?

[eastcoastmum2014]

Hi all, sorry if this is a bit of a long post I'm just wondering if anyone has been in the same position. I'm currently 36 weeks with my second after a traumatic miscarriage last February and I'm very excited. However my DDs birth has left a bit of a scar on me, we both almost died and now I cant even talk about the experience without bursting into tears even though it was almost 2 years ago. I'm also now getting flashbacks and dreaming about it as well. After speaking to my consultant today I have asked for an elective Csection as I really feel I wont be able to mentally cope with labour. The hospital have been supportive and I am waiting to hear back from the consultant to discuss it and hopefully book me in. I'm just wondering if anyone has been through something similar? Also I'm worrying now that the hospital are going to think I'm a mental case that cant cope with parent hood after I burst into tears twice! Once in front of the consultant and once in front of the midwife 😞 TIA xx

[Whatsername17]

My sil had a C section after a traumatic birth and said it was the best experience of her life. I couldn't believe the difference on her when I saw her after dc2 compared to dc1. The hospital will have access to your notes and, therefore, completely understand your anxiety. Book a section without any worries and enjoy the birth of your baby.

[TheRealCurlySue]

Hi Didn't want to read and run. Firstly don't be ashamed of your feelings. I had an elective c-section with my second DS and my first wasn't a traumatic experience like yours. I found my hospital and midwives nothing but supportive. As long as you and baby are safe that is all that matters. Doing what is best for your mental health is part of that so if a c-section is the way to go then don't let anyone make you feel that there is anything wrong with that choice.

[Honeybee79]

I had an elective c section 6 weeks ago with DD after a traumatic first birth 6 years ago that resulted in a crash section after they tried everything else to get DS out. It was awful and meant I couldn't even think about having another baby for years. Hospital was v supportive of my decision and I don't regret it at all. Explore all options but do what's right for you.

[SeashellHoarder]

I had a hideous first vaginal birth, then tried for a second thinking surely it can't be that bad again.

It was worse and I ended up with a emcs.

This time round i had an elcs and it is honestly the best of the three. (Dd is 3 weeks old and I feel the best I've done at this stage)

If only I could have known and had 3 elcs!!