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Disheartened doesn't come close...

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Tinyhumanjan17 Tue 03-Jan-17 21:11:07

Feeling pretty despondent and. Depressed tonight... Am only 39+3 so not overdue yet but was told I could have sweeps from 38w due to various problems. My first sweep my internal OS was closed but the midwife tried to stimulate things as much as she could. At my 2nd one today she said there hasn't really been any progress at all despite 6 days of pains and feeling rubbish so she's tried to stimulate things again and see if it gets things going. Getting regular fanny daggers but beyond that absolutely nothing. She also said the baby may be laid slightly side wards when she was feeling my tummy. He's been 3/5 engaged since 32w but hasnt moved from that position she said if he is slightly off straight this may be why as he's not at quite the right angle to drop any further which is also making it more difficult to get things moving along as he's not pushing down as much as he could be. I have another one booked for Friday but I'm not anticipating any change tbh. My next appt after that is with my consultant next Tuesday at 40+3 where hopefully ill get an induction date.

Im finding it really difficult to cope with the uncertainty and lack of progress with it all atm, I suffer badly with depression and anxiety and have had 2 panic attacks tonight alone 🙁

Sorry for the long post if uv made it to the end thank you for listening!!

UnicornPee Tue 03-Jan-17 21:16:39

If I was in your position I would just tell myself the baby is coming at 42 weeks, because you'll defo have it by then.
I was that late with my second.
Just enjoy the time where you don't have to do anything coz once you pop its all go.
I believe I will be late with my current pregnancy

DrWhy Tue 03-Jan-17 21:17:47

Have you tried anything to help him into position - lots of people recommended the spinning babies website to me. I spent a lot of the last week of pregnancy kneeling over leaning on a birth ball after he'd been a bit back to back and I really wanted him to shift the right way round. There might be something equivalent you can do that could help your baby into a better position? No guarantee of course but at least you'd feel you were able to do something.

Tinyhumanjan17 Tue 03-Jan-17 21:24:01

Iv been leaning against my ball all evening and I do tend to prop myself on all 4s anyway cos I find it more comfortable cos of the pressure in my bum!!

I wish it was as easy as just telling myself he'll be here at 42w, just th thought of another 2 1/2 weeks of how iv felt this last week has me sobbing and struggling to breathe

DrWhy Tue 03-Jan-17 21:46:32

And yes, agree with adjusting your expectation. My midwife told me repeatedly that on average 1st babies went more than a week over so I was pleasantly surprised when he turned up at 40+6.

DrWhy Tue 03-Jan-17 21:47:11

Oops, sorry, cross post!!

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