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How do I know I'm still pregnant?

(17 Posts)
KeplerYellow Fri 16-Dec-16 09:40:12

Apologies if this is a stupid question. This is the first time I've been pregnant and I am currently about 5w. I just can't stop worrying that something will go wrong and I am wondering if there is anyway to know that everything is going as planned?

I'm a worrier anyway but I don't think it helped that I decided to tell me Dm and her response was not to tell anyone as I will probably miscarry anyway. My dp is very supportive and generally a positive person so that helps, however I can't get my dm's comment out of my head.

drinkyourmilk Fri 16-Dec-16 09:44:06

I think many of us had/has similar worries. It's only once you've had the 12 week (and then 20 week) scan that you start to relax.
I decided to pay for private scans to ease my worries.
It's harder when you don't have symptoms. I appreciate this is a ridiculously unhelpful post- I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone.

T00ManyB00ks Fri 16-Dec-16 09:59:25

Def not alone, keep your chin up and try not to worry. X

KeplerYellow Fri 16-Dec-16 10:11:48

Thanks both of you, it really helps to know I'm not alone. I've had a few pregnancy symptoms; mild cramping, back ache and really sensitive to smells so I'm hoping this is a good sign.

WantingBaby1 Fri 16-Dec-16 11:04:31

Feeling the same kepler, im 6 + 4 and have booked a private scan next week. Pregnancy is a worrying time! Each day the risk of miscarriage decreases though so that's reassuring.

Pugsymalone Fri 16-Dec-16 11:12:54

I'm 15 weeks and I still have this worry:-( I feel like it'll never go away , my 20 week scan isn't till 16th January and I don't know if ️️il survive till then without seeing ️baby! Ive had 4 scans already as i have cervical erosion , I was considering talking to doc about my anxiety about losing ️️baby as I literally don't go a day without worryibg? ️️Sorry to hijack post but does anyone know if doc would be helpful in this situation

shailaa Fri 16-Dec-16 11:16:56

I had this worry throughout my pregnancy, I had so many private scans that I've lost count! Right up until the end It was like I expected something bad to happen. I'm now sitting with my happy healthy 10 month old daughter- I know this isn't going to stop your worry but just know that it's completely normal to feel like this but there's no reason at this point things aren't running smoothly, try to enjoy it as much as you can and I wish you all the luck in the worldflowers

TallyHoAndToodlePip Fri 16-Dec-16 11:24:45

Kepler, my chiropractor (who has two kids) summed up early pregnancy to me in two words: mind games.

I got a very bad back almost instantly so went to see her for some TLC.
When I told her I was pregnant she cooed over me and asked how I was getting on with the pregnancy 'mind games'? At this point I was 7 weeks pregnant (first baby) and as anxious as you appear to be, and it summed up what I'd been experiencing perfectly. I told her I was happy but constantly worried. She reassured me that it's natural to worry because you care so much about your little bean. He or she will be doing just fine in there though and you just have to do your best to stay calm and tell your overactive brain to be quiet when it starts to worry you. Also, once you see your baby at 12 weeks you'll feel so much reassurance and wonder why you were so worried.

Side note; if your back pain gets worse go see a chiropractor because they can do a lot for you. Mine worked wonders and I've been pain free since week 9 (am now 24)!

flowers

eatsleephockeyrepeat Fri 16-Dec-16 11:32:17

I felt exactly - EXACTLY - like this. I don't know if this is the kind of advice you feel a comfort but it helped keep me sane, so here goes...

Believing you can know anything from interpreting symptoms (or lack of) is like believing you can tell the future from reading runes. For every twinge, spotting or disappearing symptom you will find people who say "I had that and sadly is was a bad thing". You will also find just as many people who say "I had that and everything was fine". For EVERY. SINGLE. THING. Even "I had a bad feeling and it turned out I was right". Well screw that, I had a bad feeling and now I have an 18 month old. Honestly, there is nothing - NOTHING - you can tell from analysing anything.

Bleeding, or any other tangible thing? Midwife. Everything else, you may as well be gazing at the stars asking the heavens if it'll rain on your birthday in 2027. It will or it won't. You literally cannot know.

Thankfully with no reason to think otherwise the chances are it'll all be fine. Congratulations smile

Nikki2ol6 Fri 16-Dec-16 12:43:51

It's normal to worry all the time I used to take a test every morning to make sure my line was still nice and dark. Then I paid for private ultrasounds then from 9 weeks I was using my Doppler to listen to the heart beat.

KeplerYellow Fri 16-Dec-16 14:18:50

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to reply. Although I wish we were all worry free, its reassuring to know that I'm not the only one having these thoughts.

EatSleep that advice is really helpful actually. I'm a very logical person and not one for superstition so the analogy you used has helped me gain some perspective. I think I'm going to pay for an early scan just to put my mind (a bit) at ease.

Elland Fri 16-Dec-16 14:30:04

You can't stop the worry but unfortunately what will be will be, no amount of worrying will change the outcome of your pregnancy.

Fingers crossed everything progresses for you and you have a happy, healthy pregnancy.

haveacupoftea Fri 16-Dec-16 23:36:41

Firstly, your mum is wrong - chances are you will be having a healthy baby in 8 months and your odds improve every single day in the early days.

Secondly, symptoms, darkness of lines on tests etc are meaningless and you might as well bang your head against the wall as worry about them. Symptoms come and go, but unless you have heavy bleeding and cramping try to rest easy that you are still pregnant.

I am 16 weeks and still worry most days. I wish I had never heard of MMC. But we have to just take it a day at a time smile

Blondeshavemorefun Sat 17-Dec-16 08:23:44

It's perfectly normal. I feel the same tho I'm 43 ,is an ivf preg and taken 10yrs and 5 private ivf to get here

I had acupuncture every week till 12/13w to avoid /help with mc

I also had private scans , as well as NHS. Yes exspensive but worth it iyswim

The first 12w I was twitchy and every time going to loo checking if bleeding

Then next hurdle was 20w and we didn't buy anything till past 20w

Then 24w and mw said a huge chance of survival if bubs born now

Now 25w and chilling a bit but still worry

Sorry that was a bit of a woffle. But all normal 💐💐

raviolidreaming Sat 17-Dec-16 09:19:26

The whole first trimester is essential an extended TWW!

raviolidreaming Sat 17-Dec-16 09:19:47

*essentially

Difficultyear2015 Sat 17-Dec-16 10:02:49

I paid for a private scan at 9 weeks
Was such a relief and I needed that for my sanity

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