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Cannot cope anymore!!!

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TinyHumanJan17 Sun 27-Nov-16 19:54:53

Currently 34w and im struggling so much i don't know how much more being pregnant i can handle! Im getting constant pains and pressure and baby has been head down ready to engage since 28w; the mw have checked me over for labour several times but its not labour its just pregnancy pain but i dont know how much more of it i can deal nausea has returned with a vengeance; im exhausted; fed up; struggle to even get myself up off the sofa any more and cant stay in bed for more than 4 hours because its just too uncomfortable.

i have other illnesses which are being aggravated by pregnancy - one of the effects being the tiredness and also pain in my kidney area which can get excruciating on occasion.

I suffer quite badly with depression and have attempted suicide in the past; its been fairly stable all pregnancy but im struggling so much lately im crying pretty much all the time. i really dont know how to cope with another potentially 6-8 weeks of this :-/

Snowdrop2016 Sun 27-Nov-16 19:59:36

Sorry you're feeling like this Tiny I don't really have any advice but wanted to say please talk to someone for support as soon as you can. Take care flowers

Princessdelrey Sun 27-Nov-16 20:19:59

I struggled like yourself. Best thing to do is put your feet up. Doesn't matter what position just get in one that's comfortable.

Have lots of baths. I swore by them! I ended up having two a day towards the end. Plus I was in one while going through contractions. Helps a lot with the pain.

Get a pregnancy pillow for sleeping also.

Whatsername17 Sun 27-Nov-16 21:29:56

You need to see your gp or midwife regarding your low mood. Prenatal depression is treatable so get some help. Your iron levels might be low - that can cause sickness and low mood. It will mean a daily tablet, that is all. Please see your gp.

Trulyamnearanear Mon 28-Nov-16 04:05:48

Agree with seeing gp. I've found mh services far easier to come by when pg compared to when not. Hopefully true in your area and you can get some support.

TinyHumanJan17 Mon 28-Nov-16 04:15:49

I'm planning on trying to get a gp appointment today for some time this week hopefully. i also have a mw appt tomorrow but my mw doesnt seem to be much help so not sure what use that will be.

The prenatal mh stuff in my area is pretty bad tbh; i asked about it when i first fell pregnant as they reduced my antidepressants quite alot and i was told it was self referral; then when i rang them to refer myself they said the only thing they offer is counselling but there would be a couple months wait or the emergency help line which i already knew about.

Whatsername17 Mon 28-Nov-16 06:31:21

I would be very surprised if it wasn't low iron. Honestly, the effect it can have on you is really extreme. Good luck with the GP x

Helloooomeee Mon 28-Nov-16 06:42:33

Speak to your midwife, I was referred to a specific mh midwife who argued my case to be induced early due to pain of pregnancy & non pregnancy related conditions.

SmallBee Mon 28-Nov-16 06:56:02

Sorry you're suffering.

Mentally, please contact PANDAS, they're a charity specialising in prenatal, antenatal and postnatal mental health and can help you.

Physically, can you get signed off work if you're still there? Don't try and do anything at all that you don't have to. Get some box sets or books to try and distract yourself from the pain, make a pillow fort in the living room and remain there unless you have to move.
Do you have any real life support?

TinyHumanJan17 Mon 28-Nov-16 08:00:25

Thankyou SmallBee ill look into them. I have my husband and family who thankfully are all brilliant and there if i ever need them. I have finished work for mat leave already which is one saving grace.

Its never been mentioned to me about a specific mh mw; ill have to look into that too. It possibly is something to do with low iron, i have pernicious anaemia already and have b12 injections every 3 months and do recurrently suffer from bouts of low iron, when i get a gp appt ill ask them to check it i think.

Thankyou all so much for the replies, honestly feels so nice to have a bit of advice when you feel so lost

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