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Anyone else can't stop worrying?

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MyEternalSunshine · 30/10/2016 20:03

Currently 28+3 with our second child (although it's my fourth pregnancy as my last two were MC's) and for the life of me I can't stop worrying nothing's been wrong in this pregnancy at all it's actually been my easiest one so far.. So even that I am taking as a bad sign- why is it not harder?? I'm being so paranoid about everything and honestly can't get my head around having a nice healthy baby arriving in January- I just keep feeling like we'll get the rug pulled out from under us at any moment and it's draining me so much not been talking to DP about my fears as he is just as fearful as me so want to keep being the strong brave one! Don't really know why I'm posting just want to know if I'm not alone in all the worrying.. Anyone else in the same position?

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IvysMum12 · 30/10/2016 20:58

Yes, I was in exactly your position many years ago, and I truly sympathise. My healthy boys are now in their twenties. Try to keep calm, and remember that your pregnancy is safer with every minute that passes. My very best wishes to you.
Enjoy your lovely family!

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UnicornPee · 30/10/2016 21:10

I am totally with you.
I'm 19+4 and only told people last week.
Haven't bought anything at all.
I don't gush about it or talk about it really.
When I feel the baby I don't coo I just think 'oh god what if something bad is happening'
My mum keeps texting me baby names but I don't even wanna think about it.

This is actually my 3rd baby and I wasn't like this with the other two.

It's coz I had a MC earlier this year

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Oysterbabe · 30/10/2016 21:10

Yes I was in that position.
For the first 12 weeks I worried about miscarriage / whether there was actually something in there.
Until 20 weeks I worried about something coming up at the anomaly scan. After that I switched focus to worrying it would arrive before 24 weeks and not be viable. Then I transitioned smoothly into worrying about whether it had moved enough every day until she was born at 35+5. For 35+5 weeks I didn't have a single wee without checking the paper for blood.
She had a few issues post birth, which I worried about. Then I worried about cot death for 6 months or so. She has contact with other children now so gets ill all the fucking time and I always think it's something serious an run crying to my Dr.
It's usually a cold. I'm worried about her starting nursery next week and how she'll cope. Once she's settled in I'll move on to worrying about something else.
Basically it will never end. Never. But you learn to cope and function and be happy despite the permanent underlying anxiety.

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MyEternalSunshine · 30/10/2016 21:35

ivysmum thank you that has made me feel better! So glad everything worked out for you

unicorn you poor thing I understand the feeling :( I've been better since the 12week scan eg. Picked her name, bought her clothes and other bits etc. I do coo over every movement etc maybe to make myself believe it is real?? I talk to her all the time and obsess over the week by week etc but likely because I still can't believe we will finally get our baby at the end of it all? (I miss the ignorance of pregnancy without knowing loss )

oyster your post honest to god could of been written by me! Every. Single. Word. I'm the worst worry wort of all time! It hit me first after my first was born- I was convinced something bad would happen, cot death etc it was horrid! And now with this pregnancy I'm still the same, however I'm glad to hear your DD is going into nursery and you have her with you- I can't wait for it I need mine here ASAP so I can see her face and know she is real and safe!