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Struggling to see the end result

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ImYourMama Thu 29-Sep-16 16:05:20

I've been admitted to hospital at 28 weeks due to severe breathing difficulties. I've been told I'll be here for the rest of my pregnancy and I'm being given lots of medications for me and baby, but I'm struggling. I have a huge phobia of hospitals and needles and I'm trying to visualise the 'end game' of my baby but I can't do it. Has anyone else felt like this? My pregnancy just feels like one huge medical intervention instead of something to enjoy - and I'm really really down about it sad
If anyone can help me see the baby as the end result, and this is short term pain for long term gain. Thank you

ImYourMama Thu 29-Sep-16 17:17:22


PotteringAlong Thu 29-Sep-16 17:25:31

Will you be an inpatient for the next 12 weeks? Have they talked about inducing you / c-sec early (then you know at least when it will be over!)?

It sounds so hard, I'm sorry.

Do you have your own room? iPad, kindle, something to do to pass the time?

ImYourMama Thu 29-Sep-16 17:32:13

I'm likely to have a CS in the next 2-4 weeks. I'm bloody terrified at the prospect sad on a ward of 4 where no one talks to anyone else and people are changing all the time

MacNcheese87 Thu 29-Sep-16 17:33:25

I found this cute today. Made me think about the end result.

Good luck in hospital. I hope you feel better soon xx

PotteringAlong Thu 29-Sep-16 17:36:33

Right, well there's an end point. Get yourself on the premature birth threads and ask for people's experiences of 32 weekers so you are prepared. You are in the best place possible. What a fantastic mum you are already to be doing something that terrifies you to give your baby the best that you can. That's fantastic flowers

Ask for a private room. Do you have DH / DP to come and visit you and bring you non- hospital food?

Can you knit or crochet? If not could you teach yourself with the aid of YouTube? Make lots of little things!

PotteringAlong Thu 29-Sep-16 17:38:27

And the end point - my 2 year old has just shoved a fairy cake crumb into my belly button "for the baby" (am 23 weeks pregnant) which was the cutest thing ever. My 4 year old was disgusted that someone would waste a bit of cake on an unborn baby... grin

ImYourMama Thu 29-Sep-16 17:43:01

I've been told I'll be moved to a private room when ones available, which is nice. I'm so scared every time a nurse comes over as its a needle or obs. Even hearing the babies heartbeat doesn't make me smile anymore sad

Trulyamnearanear Thu 29-Sep-16 19:46:52


Trulyamnearanear Thu 29-Sep-16 19:47:51

Are you able to walk around at all? Around the wards or hospital?

mrsknickers Thu 29-Sep-16 20:27:50

I was in hospital for a few weeks with one of mine and getting a side room was the saving grace. It's a bit grim in hospital so I would recommend trying to get a few home comforts brought in such a pillow. It sounds silly but it made a big difference. The other thing was dealing with the boredom. I got jigsaws, reading books and a few nice things that I could eat. I also had visitors whenever possible. I found another long term patient there which was nice as we became good friends and would often sit and chat so try and see if there is anyone else going to be staying for a while too. Good luck it's all worth it in the end

ImYourMama Thu 29-Sep-16 22:30:43

My breathing difficulties make me feel pretty much bed bound, aside from staggering to the loo. Back in high dependency due to increased resp rate.

I'm so scared that I feel detached from my baby, I don't feel pregnant I just feel ill. Desperately want my baby to be ok but I also want to feel back to normal and able to stand up without wanting to pass out. So conflicted and scared sad

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