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Another MC.....what should I do?

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Longsuffering24 Tue 27-Sep-16 13:23:00

I had my DS nearly 3 years ago. I got pregnant easily and the pregnancy went smoothly without any problems. I am now 37 and had a MC in April this year. It was awful and I took a while to get over it. I decided to try again and again got pregnant the first month. My period is now just over a week late and I have a positive test. I felt fine until yesterday when I stopped having any pregnancy symptoms (sore boobs for about a week) I now have an overwhelming feeling of impending doom. This happened last time just the same but at 6-7 weeks. I just know what is coming and I'm wondering if there is any point going to the doctors. I wondered if maybe my progesterone is low...? I don't know whether to just accept defeat, that I'm not meant to have any more children. I just feel so helpless.

Tinklypoo Tue 27-Sep-16 13:27:29

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Longsuffering24 Tue 27-Sep-16 13:48:53

No bleeding yet. Last time it took about a week to start. I just feel it's coming. Thank you I'll look at your thread, it's such a difficult time so it's good to have support from people who actually understand.

Tinklypoo Tue 27-Sep-16 13:52:15

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CinderellaFant Tue 27-Sep-16 13:55:49

Long - stay positive, you aren't bleeding which is a good sign. Sometimes symptoms do disappear for a day or two. There's nothing to suggest you are losing the baby. I know how hard it is- I've previously had 2 miscarriages. Each pregnancy afterwards I kept thinking history was repeating itself. Try making a doctors app and they may refer you to an early pregnancy unit for an early scan. I have my fingers crossed for you

SleepFreeZone Tue 27-Sep-16 13:59:08

I think symptoms are actually a really poor marker for a successful pregnancy. I didn't get any at all with DS1. None with pregnancy 2 that ended in MC, none with pregnancy 3 that ended in MC, lots with pregnancy 4 that ended in MC and lots with DS2. So if I were you I'd probably keep pudding on sticks and hope the line stays strong. You are not out until you are out ☝️

SleepFreeZone Tue 27-Sep-16 13:59:38

*pissing

Longsuffering24 Tue 27-Sep-16 15:15:56

All I can do is hope the lack of symptoms doesn't mean anything. It just feels very similar to last time that ended in a MC. I didn't realise how lucky I was with my first pregnancy. It's so hard that everything can be a sign of everything or not. If only there was a test to tell you what was going on.

positivity123 Tue 27-Sep-16 15:58:06

The first few weeks of being pregnant after a miscarriage was one of the hardest times of my life. Just keep telling yourself that if you hadn't been through a miscarriage you'd assume everything was fine, there is a higher chance of everything being fine than not being fine. Take each day as it comes and get on the Staying Positive after miscarriage thread, it's made the world of difference knowing there is a group of people going through the same thing. I have my fingers crossed for you

Longsuffering24 Tue 27-Sep-16 17:20:32

I'd never really thought of things like that positivity; that there's a better chance it will be ok. That does give me some hope smile
I'm pretty new to mums net and I'm not sure how to find the suggested threads. I've tried searching on my phone with no joy.

Tinklypoo Tue 27-Sep-16 17:23:18

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Miloarmadillo1 Tue 27-Sep-16 17:24:12

Posifrickingtivity thread

Tinklypoo Tue 27-Sep-16 17:27:01

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Whatsername17 Tue 27-Sep-16 17:28:27

I had every symptom going with my mc. I was being sick 4 times a day, agonising boobs etc. It didnt stop until I passed my baby at 13 weeks. Scan revealed baby had died at 8 weeks. Symptoms mean nothing. Stay positive and come and join us in the posifrickentive thread xx

CwtchyQ Tue 27-Sep-16 17:36:57

I had loads of symptoms with this pregnancy immediately after BFP - well, the usual sore boobs, touch of nausea. Then they stopped and I freaked out only for sickness to hit me full pelt at 7 weeks. Pregnancy after MC is hard; take it all a day at a time. I'm 18 weeks now and I still live by this philosophy after a MC around the same time as you. Good luck!

Longsuffering24 Tue 27-Sep-16 20:59:15

Thank you for your kind words everyone smile

Helbelle75 Wed 28-Sep-16 12:49:48

I had a missed miscarriage with my first in May at 11 weeks. I'm now nearly 12 weeks with my second and have been fairly positive up to now. We had a private scan at 10 weeks which showed a perfect little bean, measuring 10 weeks 1 day.
It's my 12 week scan on Friday and I'm getting really worried about it. I think it's normal. MIscarriage takes the innocence away from pregnancy I think. At the back of my mind, I will always be worried.
Hope all is ok with you.

Longsuffering24 Wed 28-Sep-16 13:43:15

Yes it does. Pregnancy will never be carefree but now I worry every minute of every day pretty much. I don't have any bleeding yet but I have an upset stomach, which is exactly what happened last time. Pregnancy symptoms went, felt unwell like a stomach bug and then the bleeding.
Others have mentioned blood tests, scans etc but I guess it won't change the outcome ultimately. Helbelle did you find the early scan eased your mind? I guess I'm worried about doing anything that will confirm my fears...at the moment there's still hope.

CinderellaFant Sun 02-Oct-16 22:33:23

Hi long just wondering how you are doing?

Longsuffering24 Mon 03-Oct-16 08:59:59

Hi Cinderella, thanks for asking. Thankfully there's no change at the moment. I haven't had any bleeding which is the main thing so I'm still hopeful. My symptoms are varying which they didn't last time, once they were gone they were gone. 6 weeks is going to seem like a long time but keeping my fingers crossed!

Helbelle75 Mon 03-Oct-16 12:07:00

Hi, yes, it did give us hope as our first baby died at 8 weeks, but I carried to nearly 11 without knowing. Seeing a heartbeat at 10 weeks was the most magical, amazing thing in the world.
We've now had our 12 week scan and the midwife was pleased with everything, so feeling a lot better. There will always be doubts and uncertainties but I have to think positively.

CinderellaFant Mon 03-Oct-16 19:21:22

I'm so happy to read that long- I have my fingers crossed for you

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