I'm nearly 11 weeks and my booking in appointment is this Thursday. This will be the first time I've met my midwife but I've already got a bad feeling about her. If I really can't get on with her after meeting her do I have the right to ask for a different midwife (if there even is one?)?
Bit of background so far:
When she first contacted me she was pleasant enough but sounded like she was reading from a script and a bit blunt. She said things like "You'll be offered a scan at 12-14 weeks but this is not for your benefit. This is a dating scan." and "When you have your 18-20 week scan this is also not for you, but to look for anomalies. Therefore you will not be offered another if we cannot determine the sex of your baby there and then." Bear in mind I never asked her about any of this - she just started talking and didn't let me get a word in.
She also upset me a little bit at one point because she said "We don't get you in for your booking appointment before 10 weeks as that's when most women miscarry and it would then be a waste of everyone's time"! Considering I spoke to her at 4 weeks, I've been on edge every day since basically waiting for something to go wrong.
Also, I was having some pain around week 8 and tried to contact her for advice but she never returned my calls or texts.
This is my first pregnancy so I don't know what to expect? I appreciate midwives are over worked and must get the same questions and attitudes put to them every day but I find her immediate lack of tact and empathy worrying
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Can I ask for a new midwife if I don't like mine?
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Ryooki · 13/09/2016 14:56
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