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Any other Young first time mums out there?!

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Allibear Fri 12-Aug-16 23:19:30

Feeling a bit alone, I'm only 20 and this is my first baby. Just wondering if there are any other Young first timers out there?!

ImperialBlether Fri 12-Aug-16 23:25:38

Best of luck, OP! For what it's worth, all the young mums when I was in hospital were in their jeans by the second day!


UntilTheCowsComeHome Fri 12-Aug-16 23:28:18

I'm a bit past it now, but I had DS1 when I was 21. It was daunting but I did alright.

Have you got a partner and/or family support?

StarsandSparkles Fri 12-Aug-16 23:29:45

Im 24 and a first time mum to my ds who was 1 a couple of months ago. It is and has been an absolute rollercoaster. We have good days and we have bad days

smiles01 Sat 13-Aug-16 06:52:11

I'm 7 weeks pregnant and am 22, my boyfriend is also 22.
I don't feel like a young mum to be, although I haven't told anyone yet so when people start commenting I may change my mind!

Do you have much support?

louiseanna12 Sat 13-Aug-16 07:11:43

I'm 19 4 weeks pregnant with first and feeling every emotion under the sun

parisgellar Sat 13-Aug-16 07:26:39

I'm 23, had DS last year at 22. It was great!

doyouseeme1 Sat 13-Aug-16 08:00:21

I had my son when I was 21, I'm now 22 and he is one. I think I underestimated how hard being a parent would be but it's so worth it. Do you have a partner, family or friends for support?

louiseanna19 Sat 13-Aug-16 08:54:46

Did anyone else have doubts and feel so guilty? I don't want to sound like a horrible person but I'm terrified that I won't be able to do this :/

doyouseeme1 Sat 13-Aug-16 09:23:32

I had doubts, not about having my child but about how much of a good parent i'd be. I had plenty of mini melt downs before he arrived about whether I could do it or not. I still doubt myself as a parent and some hard days I think I can't do this but you can and you do. Somehow you manage to muddle through and cope even on the bad days. A good support network really does help, someone who can take the baby whilst you sleep or have a bath or just someone to talk to and have a moan about how baby only slept a few hours last night. What do you feel guilty over?

louiseanna19 Sat 13-Aug-16 09:28:12

I feel guilty because I'm thinking selfishly, like my whole life is going to change and I don't like that. I think babies are wonderful and a miracle but I know my whole life is going to change I've got people to help me but this tiny thing is going to depend on me forever and it's so scary.

YerAWizardHarry Sat 13-Aug-16 09:32:18

I was 19 when I had DS he is now 3 and a half and the love of my life, he's just the greatest kid ever. No one commented much on me being a younger mum although I think part of that was my sons dad was a bit older than me.
Do you have a partner?

louiseanna19 Sat 13-Aug-16 09:47:31

I have a boyfriend and my dad and step mum are very supportive but I'm still feeling this way

Allibear Sat 13-Aug-16 11:17:15

This post has turned out to be lovely flowers

I have a partner, we're quite fortunate as we've lived together for a year and have a spare room for LO. Nursery is lookin gorgeous and I'm so excited!

Allibear Sat 13-Aug-16 11:19:03

I felt the same Hun! But I'm much better now, I think it's a good thing we recognise that it'll be life changing! For me having the first scan and feeling my little girl kick really helped me, you'll be fine flowers

doyouseeme1 Sat 13-Aug-16 11:37:00

Life changes but theres times I think if I didn't have my son what would i be doing now? And the answer is always something insignificant. My lo is such a little character and he makes me smile and laugh daily, definitely worth it

louiseanna19 Sat 13-Aug-16 17:44:37

I'm only 5 weeks I'm having every bad symptom you could think of. I think seeing a scan will help but that's 7 weeks away!! Xx

MyFirstMyLastMyEverythingBagel Sat 13-Aug-16 17:51:27

I had my DD when I was 20, she's 8 nearly 9 now and a lovely little girl! You sound happy and excited OP good luck flowers
I wouldn't change it for the world

MessyBun247 Sat 13-Aug-16 17:56:52

I had my DD1 when I was 19. I'm now 30 and my DD2 is 6 months old. It's hard, overwhelming and scary no matter what age you have a baby! It's also magical, amazing and the biggest adventure you will ever go on.

DD1 just turned 11 and watching her grow has been amazing! It has been so challenging at times but all worth it.

You will be fine OPsmile

AgentJ Sat 13-Aug-16 18:06:05

I had DS2 when I was 19! DS1 had arrived a year earlier. 10 years on and I wouldn't change a thing, they are amazing children and I'm so proud of them, me and us as a family. Being a young mum has many benefits - health, easy weight loss grin , energy, time with them and then you still get a period of time when you're young enough to enjoy life with no kids before retirement - when you have the wisdom to really appreciate it!

Best of luck, OP flowers Congratulaions

Allibear Sat 13-Aug-16 18:48:12

Thanks for the lovely comments guys, it's so nice to hear you all talk about your DCs smile

Don't worry Hun, my first trimester was horrible!! Felt so ill all the time but it went away after then and everything comes better together because you can think clearly, you'll be fine !

Kate555578 Sat 13-Aug-16 22:35:59

I'm not sure where I fit in, I'm 23, although my partners 25.
I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I feel I'm a young mum I don't know anyone else a similar age whose having or got a baby and we're the first in our set of friends. My sisters were both 32+ when they had their first so feel I am quite a bit younger compared to them.
I get the alone feeling.. Really good to hear it's worth it feeling your baby kick for the first time, I honestly can't wAit and congrats on your pregnancy smile

Allibear Sat 13-Aug-16 23:07:35

You fit in here Katie! How are you feeling about it, were you planning for a baby?
I feel so far along I'm already 29 weeks! It goes so fast

moonmeat Sat 13-Aug-16 23:19:29

I got pregnant at 21 and had my ds at 22, being a young mum is great! Now he's 3 i can run around with him and we have alot of fun, its scary and people used to comment as i look so young (i work with the great British public and people thought it was their business to comment on my swollen tummy and how young i was) but i wouldn't change it for the world I do think at nursery other parents used to treat me differently, my ds goes to the same nursery as what i went to and there's still two ladies there who looked after me which i think is lovely!
flowers good luck op! You'll do great!

UntilTheCowsComeHome Sun 14-Aug-16 00:08:55

The thing I found with being a young mum was that my determination to do a good job and not be looked down upon meant that I was too 'helicoptery' and my DS didn't get chance to spread his wings more.

I hated the thought that people would judge my parenting so I hovered over him too much really. He's 15 now and still a bit of a scaredy cat. I really think that my hovering meant that he didn't get chance to make his own mistakes.

That's my only regret looking back.

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