Dear Everyone,
I am 18 weeks pregnant with my second child and feeling horrendous. I suffered with severe anorexia in my late teens/early twenties and find pregnancy terrifying. I got off pretty lightly with my first, not showing for ages and not gaining much weight. However, I had bad postnatal depression and have since been diagnosed with a couple of autoimmune conditions via a stay in intensive care (coma, ventilator etc) last October. I have struggled to regain my fitness and gained a bit of weight (around 3-4kg) since pre-pregnancy. I was under pressure to have a second child as the conditions I have make it more likely I will have an early menopause. My son was born in Nov 2014 and I am 33. Now I am in the most horrendous state. I found out some severe issues with my marriage, just before I found out I was pregnant, and am not certain I want to stay in it long-term at all: we have no physical relationship as he is not interested in me (porn addiction) and I had to basically prostitute myself in order to get pregnant (horrible horrible horrible experience). It has been a long time since I felt attractive even though historically I felt quite pretty with a slim figure. Now I feel enormous and gross. Found out today at work that colleagues had been speculating about my pregnancy long before I chose to tell anyone, and a colleague just told me I had the 'pregnancy waddle'. I burst into tears and ran out early. I feel like I am living a nightmare in a disgusting body, in a dead marriage, with various bodily systems gradually packing up on me. I genuinely want to die at the moment. My mother told me I was looking rotund yesterday. I know I should feel really lucky but I just feel like I want to slit my wrists. In such a bad way and can't stop crying. I feel like nobody understands as everyone assumes I am happy to be pregnant and I'm not. I wish this wasn't happening o me.
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18 weeks feeling hideous and very very down
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cobaltblue27 · 25/07/2016 17:07
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