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pitstop16 Sun 26-Jun-16 21:09:49

Hi,

We already have a little girl and I'm now pregnant again smile we had a surprise with her and were aiming for a surprise with this one, however, we went for our 20 week scan on Thursday and I had a second scan with a consultant due to complications the last time. The consultant said 'do you know what you're having?' Then followed it very quickly with 'Look away now as it's got it's legs wide open' unfortunately I was looking directly at the screen and I'm almost certain I caught glance of a penis and possibly even the scrotum shock I feel totally gutted, I REALLY didn't want to know and can't stop thinking about it now. Basically, what I'm asking is does anyone think there's anyway I could have been mistaken?! Oh and I should mention, it looked like it was a potty shot sad

laurenwiltxx Sun 26-Jun-16 21:15:46

People often mistake the umbilical cord for the penis!! grin

MyBreadIsEggy Sun 26-Jun-16 21:19:44

As pp said....umbilical cord can easily been mistaken for a penis by an untrained eye! Before the sonographer told us Dd was a girl, I though I had seen a penis. I was very much mistaken and felt like a right nob when the lady said that it was the umbilical cord!

pitstop16 Sun 26-Jun-16 22:07:31

Thank you for replying! I thought I saw a little willy with my little girl but was obviously very wrong! But as this was a potty shot I feel like I know now sadangry

WiIdfire Sun 26-Jun-16 22:10:15

I thought I saw a girl on my scan. (I can do basic ultrasound so thought I could see what was what). I was wrong. Clearly not as good as I thought!

The question is whether you confirm it, or leave the uncertainty.

pitstop16 Sun 26-Jun-16 22:14:49

Haha, oops! I don't want to confirm it but it's just playing on my mind so much, but I haven't even told my husband! I'm too upset too, that's why I had to share in here! Thanks for your input xx

pitstop16 Mon 27-Jun-16 14:11:29

Any other thoughts/stories about misleading scans to share?! hmm

sepa Mon 27-Jun-16 21:31:00

My cousin got told she was having a boy. She had a girl. Even trained people get it wrong

FriendlyCod Mon 27-Jun-16 22:15:34

My sister was convinced she saw boy's bits on her 20 week scan, she had a girl smile

plimsolls Mon 27-Jun-16 22:17:37

I had my nails done the other day by someone who was told by the sonographer at the 20 week scan they were having a boy.... they gave birth to a girl.

pitstop16 Mon 27-Jun-16 23:56:50

Ah thank you, it's not that I don't want a baby boy, I just don't like the idea of definitely knowing! So knowing that I could have been mistaken is making me feel better winkhope that makes sense!

minijoeyjojo Tue 28-Jun-16 00:05:09

I'd completely convinced myself I could see boy boys on my 20 week scan - I spent my whole pregnancy being convinced I was having a boy. It was quite a surprised when she was a girl xx

Oysterbabe Tue 28-Jun-16 08:23:22

You don't definitely know, just wait and see.
I thought I saw boy bits on my scab but had a girl.

Oysterbabe Tue 28-Jun-16 08:23:31

*scan

SuburbanRhonda Tue 28-Jun-16 08:25:03

Sex, not gender 🙄

pitstop16 Tue 28-Jun-16 12:57:35

I don't understand your issue with 'gender'??! Are they not called gender scans when you go to find out if your baby is a boy or a girl?!

GashleyCrumbTiny Tue 28-Jun-16 13:06:51

I also have a friend who was told her twins were a boy and a girl - and got two girls. If the sonographer can occasionally get it wrong, your untrained momentary glance definitely may be!

smellsofelderberries Tue 28-Jun-16 13:30:23

They're called sexing scans now. The sex means the bits someone is born with, gender is what someone feels they is, if hat makes sense. Your child might feel differently about their gender than what their bits say they are!

TheCrumpettyTree Tue 28-Jun-16 21:00:27

They're not gender or sex scans unless you have one privately. The 20 week scan is an anomaly scan to check there's nothing wrong with baby. You can if you choose, find out the sex, but that's not the reason for it.

laurenwiltxx Tue 28-Jun-16 21:06:06

smellsofelderberries stop with the political correctness corrections. So irritating confused

Tealeaf321 Tue 28-Jun-16 21:41:28

I found out at 20 weeks we were having a boy, I have the scan photo of his bits and still can't make it out. You probably saw a legwink

smellsofelderberries Tue 28-Jun-16 22:11:15

lauren it's not political correctness, it's just a fact. Most babies turn into people who identify with their sex, but many people don't. That's all I'm saying. And LOL if you thing me pointing that out is irritating hmm

And actually Crumpetty is right anyway, it's the anomaly scan.

ThinkPinkStink Tue 28-Jun-16 22:15:49

I felt sure my unborn child was a boy, I automatically referred to her as 'him', during the 20 week scan I was certain I saw a penis. Turns out, I am not a skilled sonographer - as at 23 weeks the sonographer pointed out a very clearly formed labia.

Wineandpopcorn Tue 28-Jun-16 22:19:45

I was convinced I saw willy's on my last 2 daughters scans smile

pitstop16 Tue 28-Jun-16 23:52:38

SuburbanRhonda the place I visit for my private scans still advertises them as 'gender' scans, and I believe from the responses on my post that everyone has understood what I meant from using the word gender in my title!

TheCrumpettyTree, I am aware that the 20 week scan is an anomaly scan which is why I did not ask to find out the gender/sex or whatever you would like to call it! I have paid for plenty if private scans with this pregnancy and my previous one and would not hesitate to do so if I wanted to know the 'gender' of my baby :-)

Thank you for all your responses, I am happily tucking away the sight I think I saw and am continuing on my surprise pregnancy!

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