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Pregnant and really want my ex back!

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sophieeleanorxx · 21/06/2016 15:01

So j was with my ex for 6 months moved in quite quickly had a great few months together. It started to go abit sour when I found out I was pregnant i went through his phone and he was messaging other girls. I eventually just left him in Sheffield and went to live with my mum in Coventry the last time I seen him was in April we spent a few days together we was happy and decided we was going to live apart he was rubbing my stomach he was so excited to be a dad. The last time I saw him he dropped me at the train station and told me he loved
Me and that I should come back up in the weekend and I said ok. Any how I didn't go back up he was being abit of with me a few weeks later I find out he's in another relationship. To be honest I've been abit crazy and had ago at his new girlfriend as I found photos of them on my brand new sofa that I left in his house and I told him I would pick it up end of june. So I told her that she was a dumb b and what the hell was she thinking getting involved with my ex when we're expecting a baby together. Now that he's in a relationship he doesn't even care about the baby he begged me for a baby for months when we was together saying he wants a family. Now I'm pregnant he's know where to be seen! It's sound ridiculous but I'm more angry with his girlfriend I feel like she's ruined my family. When I know really it's his fault! I just don't understand woman men that get involved with men that are expecting a baby on the way. I've contacted him to let him know it's a boy and sent him photos he doesn't reply. I'm honestly worried that he won't come around and that my baby won't have a dad. I just want him to get rid of this girlfriend I can't even get in contact with him now.

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positivity123 · 21/06/2016 15:34

It's not the girlfriends fault it is 100% you ex that you need to be angry at.

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BeardMinge · 21/06/2016 15:39

Stop blaming her you nitwit, it's him you should be having a go at.

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PurpleDaisies · 21/06/2016 15:43

i just don't understand woman men that get involved with men that are expecting a baby on the way.

He was single. It isn't her fault you two broke up.

It must be daunting to be expecting a baby without any support from the father. I'd try and get mentally prepared for being a single parent-you can't force someone to be a good dad. You sound better off without him. Have you got supportive friends around you?

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sophieeleanorxx · 21/06/2016 15:43

Grin lol I know I've had ago at him too! I'm such a hypocrite I always say is never have ago at the girl if it's the guys fault and look at what I'm doing. It's just annoying me like does she not encourage him to have some kind of contact with me so we can sort things for our son.

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sophieeleanorxx · 21/06/2016 15:45

Yeah I have a great support of family and friends and all my family are excited for the baby. I've kept in contact with his mother I'm just confused I spoke to him a few weeks ago and he said he wants to be involved he's not going to just ignore it and now look what he's doing.

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PurpleDaisies · 21/06/2016 15:47

It's just annoying me like does she not encourage him to have some kind of contact with me so we can sort things for our son.

Why is that her job? How do you know she isn't doing that?

I'd be concentrating on yourself and the baby now. Your ex's new relationship isn't worth your headspace.

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PurpleDaisies · 21/06/2016 15:48

he said he wants to be involved he's not going to just ignore it and now look what he's doing.

To be fair, the baby isn't here yet. You don't know he won't be involved until then.

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sophieeleanorxx · 21/06/2016 15:52

No i no that and I agree he can't exactly be a dad now but I would like for him to come to scans with me and help me buy things as he said he would do. I'm quite happy for him to be in a relationship but would appreciate if he would just drop me a text or something now and again

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PurpleDaisies · 21/06/2016 15:56

Do couples who have split up usually go to scans together and go shopping for baby things together? I think your expectations might be a little unrealistic.

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sophieeleanorxx · 21/06/2016 16:01

Maybe I am.

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ElspethFlashman · 21/06/2016 16:07

So you were together for 6 months in total? Yet he begged you "for months" to have a baby? So after only being with him a few months you intentionally got pregnant?

But then you discovered he had been sniffing after other women the entire time?

And now you really want him back????

He must have a gold plated cock that causes some kind of hypnotic love trance.

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PurpleDaisies · 21/06/2016 16:08

He must have a gold plated cock that causes some kind of hypnotic love trance.

That just made me laugh out loud (literally) in the middle of Starbucks. People are staring at me now...

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sophieeleanorxx · 21/06/2016 16:23

To be honest I didn't think I could get pregnant I was with my partner before for 4 years didn't get pregnant once and thought it was because of my fibroids as I was waiting for my operation to have them removed. During that time I met my ex and I managed to get pregnant I didn't think it was going to happen. It's not that I really want him back because I know he isn't a good partner it's just for the sake of my child I would like for him to change maybe I'm just being naive. purpledaises your quite a nasty person I'm only here trying to get some advice. I've had a horrible last couple of months I've lost everything my career my house everything so for you to be here having a laugh at my expense is quite disrespectful!

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2nds · 21/06/2016 16:32

The title of your thread says you really want him back this was posted at 3.01pm and at 3.52pm you say you are happy for him to be in a relationship and that you just want him to come to scans and go shopping. Wtf happened in 51 minutes that made you change your mind about wanting him back?

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PurpleDaisies · 21/06/2016 16:51

PurpleDaisies your quite a nasty person
Excuse me? I was laughing at elspeth's turn of phrase. If you want to be pissed off at someone look elsewhere.

Good luck with your baby. I'm out.

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thecatsarecrazy · 21/06/2016 17:32

You need to focus on you and your son and forgot about him. He's made his bed. Unfortunately some men are happy to walk away from their responsibilities. Its our job to find a more suitable partner, one we know longer than a few months preferably.

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gimmeadoughnut123 · 20/11/2018 08:26

It is a shame that he isn't messaging you back etc at the moment but you can't be angry with his new girlfriend, and he is entitled to be in a relationship, he was single after all. To be honest it sounds like your relationship was rocky in the time you were together anyway, so I would now focus on what's best or you and your baby and don't have any expectations of him as a Dad.

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MsHopey · 20/11/2018 08:36

3 threads I've seen this morning are zombie threads all resurrected by the same person 🙄

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Blondebrunette1 · 20/11/2018 13:39

It's normal to feel this despite it seeming like a no brainer situ to walk away from. It doesn't sound like perfect circumstances and he hasn't behaved well, I understand your anger at her, tbh it's not her that you need to focus on but I don't think it is great that she's taken on a man who has got his gf pregnant and then abandoned her either. That said he's the one with a responsibility. I honestly think that as hard as it is the stronger you are and more you focus on moving on the better you'll feel long term. A friend of mine split with their partner during first pregnancy and he did similar, she gave up and got strong and stopped chasing him and he came back and fixed up. I've also friends who have met the love of their lives further down the line and are glad the drop out Dad isn't involved now. Just remember it won't be this hard forever. When you meet your baby you won't find it so hard to focus on the future. Don't listen to the perfect people who mock you, it's easy to say you shouldn't feel a certain way when it's not you.

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