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Extremely Hard Decision of Baby Is Okay

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xBITTERxFROGIEx Wed 25-May-16 11:43:22

Good Morning everyone,

I find myself in a very tough place right now, as I am turning 20 in six days, I work full time, in a committed stable relationship... But I'm pregnant.
First of all, me and my boyfriend have only officially been together for three months, though we've been in love for three to four years prior.
Secondly, his parents are amazing, but they can definitely be scary! And the idea of telling them about being pregnant makes me want to run away to China!!
Thirdly, we do not earn a lot of money. My last pay slip was 400 and his was 700, we are moving in to a place within the next few months with three bedrooms and with another couple who want me to keep the baby.

The worst of all is that my pregnancy is very complicated and worrying, as I have been experiencing a lot of pain in my abdomen on the right side, and has been accompanied by pain up through my right shoulder. Which are signs of an ectopic pregnancy. However... When I had my scan last Thursday, they couldn't find anything other than a perfectly lined womb ready for an embryo. My levels then were 211 HCG, three days later (on Monday) they are now 1,233!!

So my main questions are, does anybody know what such a sudden rise in levels means, and if the baby is okay and alive, what are your opinions on keeping it?

Thanks ever so much!

whiteychappers Wed 25-May-16 12:01:36

Have you got another scan booked? It might have just been too early for them to see anything. Your levels will rise steadily as your pregnancy develops. The pains could also be normal pregnancy pains as your uterus stretches. Why don you book an an appointment with the GP, they will explain all this stuff to you. Ectopics are very rare but if you think that's what it is, the only way would be to get checked out x

whiteychappers Wed 25-May-16 12:05:09

Plus only you can decide what's best for you, doesn't matter what parents think, its what you think that matters, don't make any rash decisions. I'm sure people manage on low incomes perfectly fine and there isn't really a right time to get pregnant and believe me I've been trying for 7 years, in a secure relationship with no money worries and i am 22 weeks pregnant and still it scares the hell out of me some days. Sometimes life throws things at you that are meant to be x

xBITTERxFROGIEx Wed 25-May-16 12:14:00

I have a scan booked for next Thursday, I have to only be dealt with by the hospital because I've had two previous miscarriages, and have also had surgery on my ovaries. I'm a high risk pregnancy and can't be left with the waiting times for GP's.

xBITTERxFROGIEx Wed 25-May-16 12:19:22

That's what I think, everything happens for a reason and I'm extremely happy to be pregnant. As ive been told by many doctors that I'm infertile and will never have children. Obviously it is early, but I'm actually the oldest woman in my family for age of pregnancy.
My boyfriend seems reasonably happy as he constantly touches, rubs and kisses my stomach and calls me preggers grin
It's just the worry about being able to support the baby and still living my life.

Dollface136 Wed 25-May-16 16:53:29

If you want a family then in my opinion, you find a way. Money isn't everything and babies actually need very little when you ignore all the marketing. Think of it like this. Do you want this baby? Everything else will have a solution. All a baby needs is your love, warmth, protection and food.

xBITTERxFROGIEx Wed 25-May-16 17:05:25

I do definitely want a family, it's been my dream since I was sixteen to have a baby and it was so hard to hear i was infertile, and now I don't really want to pass up this opportunity that's been given to me to be a mother

onemoremummy Wed 25-May-16 17:16:30

If you're not sure you want a baby and this is your third pregnancy, you really should rethink your contraception methods.

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